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Old 03-03-2009, 07:13 PM   #1 (permalink)
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Well, it's official. I'm having another miscarriage.

I don't know what to feel, I'm so numb right now.

I've been TTC for two years now, I've only Ov'ed three times in those two years. Of those Ov's, I got pregnant twice... resulting in no babies. Just miscarriages.

Have you ever heard of the six word memoirs? Apparently, Winston Churchill did one once, "Baby shoes for sale: Never worn."

I think mine would be, "I thought I would have children."
or perhaps, "I did not ask for this."

(*sigh*)

No baby for me this year I guess.
Just more emptiness.
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Old 03-04-2009, 01:12 AM   #2 (permalink)
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I am so sorry! (((Hugs)))
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Old 03-04-2009, 08:09 AM   #3 (permalink)
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I am sorry for your loss. I too just found out I am loosing my second. If you want to talk I am here and know how you feel.
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stephanie- im so sorry ........ does ur doc have any explanations to offer?......i pray for u - for God to give u strength to cope with this...
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i personally think it is just crappy that we have to endure m/c after m/c and they dont want to test until our 3rd one. doctors have no idea the pain and saddness that comes with each loss. how these are real babies to us and not just a blink on the screen or a # in a blood test. I am so sorry for your loss. my last loss was only last week to it is pretty fresh for me also. Have you had any more blood work or anything? after my 2nd miscarriage the doctor only wanted to sent me to a RE which i have no insurance so that is out of the question. its like beating my head against a brick wall!!!!---take care of yourself.
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Old 03-04-2009, 12:31 PM   #6 (permalink)
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How awful. I am so sorry.
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((HUGS))

I'm so sorry. I agree with the previous poster of why do the doctors want to wait until the 3rd to do testing. I had to wait until after Aric because theoretically that was my 3rd loss to m/c--had one stillbirth due to IC. I just dont understand whey we have to go through all the physical and emotional pain time and time again. It bites.

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Old 03-04-2009, 03:01 PM   #8 (permalink)
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Thank you for all your kind words ladies.

My doctor is going to be doing repeat loss testing on me, since it's my second and given my reproductive history. I am thankful he's not making me wait for another loss. However, I am also aware that even with testing I may not get any answers either. But, it's worth a shot.

I've already been tested for anaphospholipid syndrome once (My sister has it, it is believed to be the cause of the stillbirth of her first child.) My test came back negative though, but I may see if he'll test me again... I know that it can show up on tests and then not show up, depending on if it's active or not. It did with my sister. I know it's not hereditary, necessarily, but you never know.

After I start miscarrying I will have a repeat loss consultation appt. with my doctor.

But, even with the testing and everything... I feel helpless. My body is betraying me with every breath. I'm just... I don't know... waiting for the sky to fall maybe. None of that makes any sense, of course, but... I don't think life makes much sense right now... so it fits.
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Well, I don't think life makes sense, either, so you're not alone! I hope that something helpful is figured out for your next attempt at this business. There are lots of success stories around, though not everyone who's busy with those kiddos has time to come back here to chat. Hang in there!!
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Stephanie- I am so sorry for your loss and what you are going through. {{hugs}}
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I'm really sorry Stephanie, I wondered how things were going for you. I hope they figure something out!
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i hear u stephanie-after my loss.......i felt that all of wat we do day after day.....is pretty meaningless....unimportant......work , deadlines....what we huff and puff about.....really all of it doesnt matter......i wanted to ( STILL DO) take a loooooooong leave from work and just get lost somewhere......with time , im feeling stronger , but not a day goes by when i dont think about it...actually several times a day....only i dont get teary everytime now.......i pray God helps u heal.
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Thank you again ladies for all your kind words.

I'm still waiting to miscarry, it's driving me nuts. I just want to get it over with, and to move forward with the testing. Ungh.

I think I will be taking a TTC break after this.
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I'm so sorry I don't have experience with early loss, I hope more ladies will come over and advise you...

If you feel like you need a break, then that means you probably really do need one.

I hope the process starts soon and you can at least move on from the physical part.
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just poppin in to see how u are doing. i am not bleeding anymore so i guess that is progess.
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