Self-image daily thread - Page 12

Efiefi · 02-18-2004, 04:29 PM

Dede,

You are right men are stupid. Blah. Mine is driving me insane too. Not helping me pack or anything. He says he will be loading the truck and moving it. I said DUH I will be helping do all of that too. He can be so sweet sometimes but other times a pain in the butt. We have been fighting lately b/c he takes out his frustrations from work on me. When I tell him he says that I am the only person he has to talk to. I told him if he keeps yelling at me when I didn't do anything I'm not going to talk to him. LOL Hope you get an I'm sorry present!!! I think we should all get them! Just b/c all our men need to be sorry! B/c lord knows we are perfect!

Sl,

I too enjoy coming on here to see what everyone has posted. It is a highlight of my day. I have made so many good friends on SC. How are you today?

slhightower · 02-18-2004, 04:32 PM

Yahooo, MISSCOYOTE, that is awesome! Men can definitely be hormonal... I think mine might have all the hormones I lack

MEN!

Denise... man, I can't wait for trips to school because of forgotten science projects!!!! Ahhh, that would be a dream come true! And good for you for going to the gym... whether you felt like a success or not... you went! About your boss, sorry to hear you are having problems... but don't give up, everything is still new and this whole situation needs time to grow (and be profitable). Oh, and sometimes it is nice to be appriciated (for your body) and yet say NO!!!! It can be a nice tool to make a point (if not used regularly).

Efiefi · 02-18-2004, 04:34 PM

Miss,

I got interrupted. Stupid internet explorer. It's hormonal just like men. LOL One of my favorite sayings is that PMS gives women an excuse to act for 3 days the same way men act all month! You ground yours too!

Dede,

I always do that to my DH I tell him he is punished. But when he pouts I never can stand my ground so YOU GO GIRL. Yay for going to the gym! Sorry things aren't going well with the mortgage stuff. =0(

My update:

Okay FINALLY I am almost done packing everything that is nonessential. I think after today I will be done. Thank goodness. Did I tell ya'll I painted my house a beautiful yellow called "Optimistic Yellow" B/c I thought it was a sign? I mean, who can be depressed in a bright yellow room? Besides I like being an individual. Don't want my house to look the same as everyone elses! Everyone keeps saying OMG Yellow!!! I keep saying so what it's my house I have to live there not you! PPl need to leave me alone!

dedepcos · 02-18-2004, 06:26 PM

Girls, Men are always having UF (uncle Flow).lol

princess, I love yellow. There is something very calming about that color. It is very hard to just be angry in that color. Men can be so lazy. I often wondered if I did not help load the truck (when I was with my ex) what would he do. But, in his defense he was more girly then me. Talk about PMS, him not me. lol. I got lucky cause when I moved last time My fiance helped with what he could. He did not live in my town so he really did not help much with the packing. But he did most of the Loading of the truck and brought 90% of the stuff of the truck by himself. Oh something funny, when we were loading the truck my ex-husband came over to help. Talk about weird, but of course his hoo hoo hurt so he was more of a pain. SOrry you guys have been fighting, work stuff alone can cause arguemnets but moving YIKES, that s a garuntee fight

GIRLS R PERFECT!

sl, I always had dreamed what it would be like to have to run to the school for forgoten projects or teacher meetings. I really do love it. I also love the way it can be annoying, it makes me feel like the kids are truely mine. I really dont know what life would be like with out them in it. When I am really frustrated with my man they always pop in my head. If I wasnt with him they would not be a part of my life. I guess that is why I take more of his POO then I do from others. The kids have had some really bad times in there life. I hope I can ensure a good future for them. YOu will love it. I treasure all the aspects of it . The love they give and I give them, the chores not being done, them fighting, to the hugs they give and the way they look at me with love when I do the littlest thing for them. THey are perfect ( even if they can make me so mad)

I went to his daughters school for a halloween party in one of her classes, she was so excited that I was coming, when it was over and I was leaving she begged me to stay. I treasure all the moments. YOU WILL TO.
I dont usually ground him and say know cause he was bad actually that was the first. I am quite proud that I did not fall for his little charm. It felt good to stand my ground. I think he was a bit surprised that he did not get his way. LOL

I still want a I SORRY GIFT. Momma needs a new purse and a new pair of shoes.......not to mention the mercedees. lol

hugs
denise

slhightower · 02-18-2004, 06:42 PM

Denise you are crackin me up... oh and I bet he is going to want it even more now that you stood your ground... at least that is how my DH usually is

Man your ex's hoo hoo is always havin' problems

Princess,

I too like yellow... it is happy and sunny, and SCREW everyone else who poo poo's your choices. I remember that crap, and everyday when I come home I look at my house and know that I LOVE EVERYTHING I picked (and mine is better than theirs:p )

misscoyote · 02-18-2004, 10:15 PM

I sure do miss having the internet at work. Sometimes the days can get soooo long without it. Its been having issues for the past week and this afternoon it was GONE! Guess we had a hacker or something. Glad I have internet at home!

Princess, yellow is the bomb! My parents gave me a bright yellow car for my high school graduation and at the time I just hated it, but now I love yellow. It always reminds me of smileys.

dede, you are funny - indoor sports - I couldn't stand to sit out a "game" because I never know when it will be my last! haha I think I have more raging hormones than most men I've ever dated. So, about the job, have you been mostly working on your own already? Did you get much training? Why do you suppose your manager isn't calling you back?

sl, I was looking at your chart. Did you do a hpt two days after you o'ed? Would anything show up that early? I'm going to have to get school-ed on all of this stuff as I'm not getting any younger!

My day was okay. Went to the funeral home today to view a distant relative of mine and former student where I work. She was only 34 and died after a long struggle with breast cancer. Her husband used to drink a lot, but once she was diagnosed, he quit and become her main caretaker. You could tell that he is so drained today. I know after my brother died, I just wanted to stay in bed for days. He will be driving himself and four kids back to Oregon where they live. I wish them the best.

The best part of the day though was when bf called me just to say hi! :-)

slhightower · 02-19-2004, 10:48 AM

Hey Miss...

Um, I'm not sure why it showed that I tested 2 days after O... I actually tested at 13 dpo, I had falling temps and I just wanted to make sure that was what was going on.

And congradulations on the phone call... I love it when they do stuff like that!

I'm doing okay today. Last night we had to work on our homework that we are to have done by saturday. It is fourteen days worth of situations that you might have with your child and you are supposed to respond to each one... your plan of action, how do you feel about it, and rate yourself as a parent... and OMG, it was so difficult. I mean, I know these kids are abused and neglected but some of these situations I really felt were out of my league! So that got me kind of scared!

dedepcos · 02-19-2004, 11:09 AM

sl, dont be scared I think most of that is just to make sure you wont discipline the children by hitting them with a stick. I also think some of those questions are to help there is a good match for mommy, daddy and child. I know you guys did fine. JUST 2 more days til Saturday. Yeah.

missy, I always love it to when they call out of the blue just to say hey. I amglad that things seem to be going better for you two.

as far as me, I think my fiance is up to the same old crap with the check writing thing. I asked if he wrote any checks for them and he said he did. He also said that they had deposited the money. Yesterday as we were watching tv I logged into the bank and there was no money in the pending transactions. It usually shows cash deposit immiediately. I said look the banks not showing a deposit. Then he said they mad the deposit after two. SO I gave the benefit of doubt I thought just maybe the computer system had not updated yet. SO this morning I logged in and the deposit is still not under pending. He told me they gave the deposit slip to him but he left there. YA RIGHT! The worse thing is he is lying and he is always screaming about he cant stand to be lied to. I am so pissed. I am really getting to the point of having enough. I know that if I ask or push the issue it will just end up in a screaming match because i cant stand to be yelled at. I dont know why he keeps doing this. I feel trap bc of the kids and bc I dont have a steady income. I am so pissed of. I know you guys are tired of hearing me whine about this but I really do appreciate being able to talk to yall. I hate drama. I like peace in my life. I dont do well when everything is chaos.

as far as this mortgage thing she wants me to go thru hear b4 I do anything and she was supposed to get some stuff ready for me. I understand going to hear before I really do anything but she doesnt call me back.

hugs
denise

slhightower · 02-19-2004, 11:48 AM

Denise that sucks.... have you ever considered making him totally in charge of the money... meaning don't look at the account, don't ask questions that kind of stuff... he pays the bills everything! Sometimes when they see for themselves that they are SCREWED then they learn not to do stupid crap... Just a thought.

dedepcos · 02-19-2004, 11:57 AM

sl, that is a good thought. We actually have 2 checking accounts. One is joint (he added me to his when I stopped working) the other is mine alone. I dont mean to bring baggage from the past into a new relationship but I am xtra cautious when it comes to money cause my x really screwed me with that. he usually deposits his paycheck in my account and I pay the bills. He has asked how do we not have any money left. I then wip out the check ledger and rattle off. Anyways, i had gone to the bank yesterday and ask if I could remove my name from the checking account and they said that it would have to be closed then a new one reopened w/o me. I just got off the phone with him and I told him that I wanted us to go to the bank Saturday and close the joint account cause I did not want to be responsible for things like that. He started to get mad but in the end he said he was frustrated with them and he understood where I was coming from. This does not excuse the lies. I was just wonder if my name was not on it I would not care what he did whith his own account. I wonder if that would solve the problem. I hate for this to come btwn us. So maybe there will be a solution. I really hate knowing it is so easy for him to lie to me.

hugs
denise

slhightower · 02-19-2004, 12:06 PM

Unfortunately once the lies start it is sometimes hard to stop them... they snowball! But I think you have the right idea about getting off that account. It will force him to be more responsible for his own actions because you won't be there (for that account) to clean up the mess, or worry about it or even pester him about it!

Maybe during one of your talks mention that there is no REASON to lie, sure you are going to be angry that things aren't being done in a professional way... but that lying only makes it worse. Either that or... "I DON'T WANT TO HEAR IT, YOUR JOB, YOUR BOSS, YOUR PROBLEM".

Just my 2 cents!

Hey and don't think that you are whining or that your have to apologize to us... that is why we are here... to be a sounding board and comfort zone!!!!

misscoyote · 02-19-2004, 12:26 PM

It is a good idea for him to handle all of the money issues and be accountable for his actions. Maybe if your name is off the account you will feel better about your current relationship and not be reminded of the past one. Lying is disrespectful and very, very hurtful.

Do you guys have pictures? It'd be nice to know what you guys look like. I will try to find one of me to post sometime today.

Its a beautiful morning here in ND. It actually rained for quite some time last night and it froze on the roads but its starting to melt now and feels like spring is right around the corner!

dedepcos · 02-19-2004, 12:41 PM

missy, that is a good idea about the pictures. I will get some of us.

I am going to let it go for a day or so, then I am going to try to talk to him. However, he has got this thing about going nuts when someone calls him a lier. I know that I would not say he is a lier but he lied. TO me there is a difference. To me this is not a little lie. I started this relationship without assuming things from the past would happen but he is creating them. oh well, lets just see.

hugs
denise

Efiefi · 02-19-2004, 03:35 PM

Dede,

You cannot be unhappy in yellow! LOL I hate girly men! Makes me ill. LOL OH man the moving and finding the house and everything is causing major arguements b/c of stess. We will be okay once we get in there. It really isn't that bad. Just nit picking. GIRLS ARE PERFECT! I agree. Uncle Flow! ROFLOL I too dream about forgotten science projects etc. I can't wait. My classes start May 13th. I am so ready. I bet he was surprised when he didn't get his way. LOL Mine always is. He is so hard to resist. Ooh I need a mercedes too! LOL You know hon that is b.s. about him yelling about not being able to stand being lied to and turning around and doing it. I would be so mad. I hate drama too. I am not sick of hearing you talk about it you need to vent. Sending you peaceful vibes. I think that is the perfect soloution about the checking accounts. I would definitely go to the bank. I don't know what to tell you but I HATE being lied to that is a deal breaker for me. I do not think that it is a little lie either.

Sl,

Yeah screw them! Oh and guess what my SIL was looking down on the neighborhood I lived in. I said Ummm hello you have a junkyard at the top of your street and it's not even paved!! Duh. Of course mine will be better than hers. Her house is bigger but they are in debt up to their ears and cannot live well. We will have groceries and less stress!!! You are not out of your league that is what the classes are for to teach you how to handle those difficult situations.

Miss,

Thanks for saying yellow is the bomb! LOL I do love it so much. I agree I never turn down "indoor sports" LMAO I have wild hormones too. I am glad your bf called to say Hi and sorry you had to go to the funeral. I'll post my picture. With my dog.

dedepcos · 02-19-2004, 04:16 PM

princess, you are so pretty.

Well, if my day wasnt crappy enough my mom called. She told me that my brother is being activiated and sent to Iraq for a atleast a year. I am so scared. I know he will be ok and I know he is serving our country but I really dont want him to go. My SIL is having surgery tommorrow and he asked for an extension and they gave him one. he leaves on Wednesday. He will be meeting up in memphis ( he lives in Nashville and his unit is out of Memphis) then he will be in Tampa then out to Iraq. As pissed of at my other half I was today he pulled one out of his ass and was so sweet to me and had so many nice things to say when I called him crying about my brother. (not that he off the hook).