Self-image daily thread - Page 9

slhightower · 02-09-2004, 05:40 PM

Denise,

I am so glad that you guys were able to discuss the issue civilly... and he has been warned

!

Our class went really well. We are even more excited now then we were a week ago. A lot of our worries were answered, and having gone to the class... this whole process seems so much more real! I know my child is out there now... it is just a question of when do I get to bring him/her home! We started working on our 'Life Book', this is a photo album they give to the child before you visit to get them used to you and your family... so we went to ToysRUs and bought this great stuffed bear... and 'Muffin' the bear is going to tell the story of our family in the photo album! And then when we meet our child we will be able to give him/her Muffin!

misscoyote · 02-10-2004, 04:10 PM

sl, sounds like your classes were great! Muffin is a wonderful idea to help get someone used to a new family. Would you consider taking a sibling group?

Well, I haven't had such a great day. Last night, the bf called to tell me that I probably shouldn't stay with him last night because one of the kids was having problems and was going to sleep with him for the night. We haven't slept apart other than twice over Christmas when his mother was there. Seems like the past couple days he's been acting weird and to top it off I haven't heard from him today. I don't know what to think and if I ask him he'll only shut down and say nothing. Normally we are able to talk and get things out there but this seems different. I am hoping for the best. The weird part about it is that I couldn't even cry because of this damn Wellbutrin!

slhightower · 02-10-2004, 04:22 PM

Misscoyote,

I'm sorry to hear that things with your BF are strained right now. It is never easy, but I'm sure things will be resolved soon! The Wellbutrin is working... I guess

!

As far as siblings... ummm, we would take twins under two, and if there was just the perfect pair of sibs both under 24 months we would consider it... we would never even consider separating them! But we would prefer 1 (we think)!

Efiefi · 02-10-2004, 04:47 PM

Dede,

I have a month to pack so I guess I am early. LOL I am glad that ya'll got everything straightened out. I hope he behaved from now on. Good luck with the mortgage thing! I am sure you will do fine! I am glad ya'll got a paycheck.

Sl,

Hey girlie! I am so excited for you about your classes. That is so neat about your Life Book and Muffin. Hope you don't mind if I borrow your idea when I start my classes that is an excellent idea. Were the classes fun?

Miss,

I am so sorry that you are having problems with your b/f. I wonder what is going on? I really hope everything works out!

slhightower · 02-10-2004, 05:05 PM

Hey Princess,

I don't mind one bit if you use even the exact same thing. We just wanted to buy something special for our child, and on the way home we were talking about the photo album... and how we could make it special for our child

. We got to talking about making sure each picture was large (only one on a page) so it would be easy to see, and figuring out pictures that were happy and not scary. That is when we decided to have Muffin tell the story... if Muffin likes living with us, then baby will like living with us

. The class was really cool... and scary all at the same time. They gave a ton of info, and it really was a lot to take in, and we still have another session to go to! But I will say that going to it really solidified our decision to use them, and to take on the responsibility of a child that has been abused or neglected in some way. It is a challenge, but worth it... and to know that there is a child out there who NEEDS me (well us

), well it just makes it very real!

dedepcos · 02-10-2004, 05:50 PM

sl, I am so excited. The process is really rolling now. There is a child that needs you and he/she does belong with you. That child has been (or will be) born because you guys are there parents. I loved your idea about the photo album and muffin.

Missy, i am so sorry to hear about your bf problems. I know your upset and probably really worried if everything is ok, since he has not called today. Hopefully, he will come around and tell you what is going on.

The mortgage thing is moving very slowly and I feel like I am in a pit and cant get out of it. SO everyday I do a little bit and hopefully it will lead to some MONEY!

hugs
denise

Efiefi · 02-11-2004, 12:29 PM

Sl,

Thanks. I think that is a really neat idea. You are so creative! They gave us alot of info at the orientation too. It was exciting but scary and kind of sad as well b/c they tell you all about what the children may have been through. That was what made me sad. I too am willing to take care of the abused or neglected children. I think they are the ones who need us most! I brought a notebook to take notes to orientation and I think I will to the classes as well. I have a situation going on now. A friend knows someone who is 5 mos. PG and wants to give her baby up for adoption. My friend reccommended us and she is thinking about it. Needless to say I am insane right now. Trying not to get hopes up though. You know how that is. =0(

Dede,

Sending you lots of money vibes!!! I'm sure it will get rolling. Hugs to you! Heather

slhightower · 02-11-2004, 12:39 PM

Princess, I can honestly say I know what you are going thru. You probably remember that situation I was going thru in January. Well the BM was to have the baby last week... well she went past her due date, and hasn't made decision yet as far as who she wants to take her child. I just found that out a day ago... the friend that is pulling for us just told me, and naturally has sent us thru the rufe again... I mean... there is just TOO much going on right now. It's just when you think things are starting to make sense and you can deal with your life and your choices, and then everything is turned on its head. I have pretty much told myself that she won't choose us, that would just be too easy for us to get that baby... but last night that is all I could think about! I don't want to encourage you or discourage you... just do what you can to not attach yourself mentally to this child too much. I got my hopes up in January because we were being told we were a shoe in and that she really liked us and was broken hearted beyond belief when things headed south and we were told she went with someone else, and now this.... I am truly scared to ask, "What's NEXT?"

dedepcos · 02-11-2004, 02:49 PM

sl, princess, I am pulling that these bm choose you guys. OH MY that would be so awesome. OK, well I know it is hard not to get your hopes up. SO i will do it for yall. Sometimes the best things come out of your life when nothing makes sense.

Today I am dealing with computer problems so I Have not made it into the office. SO I will do it tommorrow. LAst night my fiance joined a health club for us. SO today is the day we start that. I told him I thought that would be great and hopefully we stick to it. The PCOS and not taking good care of myself is causing most of my problems right now. SO i am going to get on the band wagon and try to change my life. Maybe that will also help withmy new career. Hopefully it will give me more confidence.

So I hope everyone is having a great day.

hugs
denise

slhightower · 02-11-2004, 02:55 PM

Way to go Denise... having a good attitude is what is going to make the difference. Remember when it comes to the gym, start slow and work your way up... burn out is the worst that you can do for yourself.

I can definitely say that working out has changed my life drastically. I go to Curves, and a few weeks ago I joined up with Christyz on the diet and exercise forum... to Run Off PCOS... and while running is hard work it has done a lot for me!

And thanks for pulling for us! Trust me, we need all the support we can get... right Princess!?!

dedepcos · 02-11-2004, 03:13 PM

Thanks, I wanted to join curves but my fiance wanted to go too. Plus he was affraid I would not go by myself. LOL. I also relized that My weight probably will interfere with doing things with the children. Like riding rides at six flags or swimming with them even playing with them

Missy, How are things with your bf?

hugs
denise

misscoyote · 02-11-2004, 06:49 PM

Well, I still haven't really gotten the chance to talk to him. He actually came to my office this morning, the secretary followed him in here and told us about someone she knows who's running off to Vegas to get married. He made the comment that that was what he wanted to do and just as he sat down I got a call for a crisis! He didn't call yesterday as I went home from work with a major headache and he took the kids to taekwondo and after took them to eat and put them to bed. It is so weird sleeping in my own bed for the last two nights. I really don't know what's going on and its killing me. I'm trying to keep a positive attitude.

slhightower · 02-11-2004, 07:20 PM

Misscoyote,

I'm sorry to hear that things haven't straightened out. I'm sure nothing is wrong... sometimes our lives get all wrapped up and we neglect our loved ones, we don't mean to but it happens. This will probably all blow over in a day or two!

dedepcos · 02-12-2004, 11:29 AM

Missy, I am so sorry that things are still strained right now. I think SL said it best. It is so true that sometimes we get caught up and neglect the ones we love. I hope that you guys can straighten things out - i am sure too that it will blow over here real soon

Just know we are here for ya.

hugs
denise

slhightower · 02-12-2004, 12:04 PM

Hey Denise...

Any paychecks expected this weekend? How are things going with that!?

Do you guys do special things for Valentine's Day?