I would really like to know the answer to that question. If you can fill me in, please do so.
What am I talking about? Why are adult children so ungrateful? How do you get to the point that you dont care about seeing your parents?
My oldest brother does not have anthing to do with my mom. We dont come from a family with "issues". My mom is a great person. Very loving and caring. Always eager to care for her family. She sacraficed so many things for us kids. She is the mother to 4 kids. 2 boys, 2 girls. My older sister died about 19 years ago. That leaves me, the only girl and my two older brothers. Our father died about 4 years ago from lung cancer and mom has just been diagnosed with a heart blockage and hear disease.
My brother we will call him Al, is married to a woman that no one in the family likes. They have been married for 10 years and his life has been one big struggle since then. She is very jealous and possesive. Always accusing him of affairs, even with her own sisters. She is very over weight and very insecure. She is absoultley psycho! My father was the 1st person to see through her years ago. When he was dying she actually kept his grandkids from seeing him. It hurt him so much. Now she is doing the same thing to my mom. If anyone wants to have a good life, and do better for themselves, she wont have anything to do with you. Last year, after 3 years of fighting for her disability, my mom got her backtime check from social security. We live with her and take care of her. She bought her a new car and did some home repairs with what little she got. Since that day, my sil will not have a thing to do with any of us. She is a very jealous person I might add.
For the last few years Al has went through stages where he does what she wants and doesnt have anything to do with mom. That lasted a few weeks or so then it was over. This time it has been since January of 2004. She saw them at christmas, and has not saw them since then. He calls about 1 time a month if that. And let me just add he lives right next door. A 1 minute walk!
Now my mom is back in the hospital with an anxiety attack. Al came by my office today and I told him. He acted like he didnt care and when I asked him if he was going to see her, he would not answer me.
I am devestated about this. I can imagine how my mom feels. How can you turn your back on the one person in the world that loves you unconditionally?
Please give me some advice and words of wisdom about this.