How are you guys dealing with PCOS when it comes to intimacy?

[ShadowBall]

While I have no idea if I actually have PCOS, I will say that the constant bleeding sometimes puts a damper on sex. Not because of the mess, but (this is probably TMI, just a warning) because I'm a lot more....juicy, and between excess fluids and a condom, it would result in major loss of feeling for both of us. And that sucked because my boyfriend and I are both major horn dogs and we generally have some kind of sex at least twice every time I see him. All I can say is I'm so very grateful that he and I discovered a position for anal sex that is comfortable for us both because it means we can enjoy sex when I'm on my period and not need a condom. Sorry, hope that didn't gross anyone out.

I'm also self-conscious about my appearance because of my weight and also because I've got some stretch marks from that weight, and for a short time I told my boyfriend I didn't want to have sex until I lost weight. That lasted about 2 minutes because I wanted it and he wanted it, and despite my looks, he still finds me sexy. I feel like the luckiest girl in the world sometimes...not only because my guy truly loves me for who I am, but because we are equal in terms of our sex drives. Heck, last time I saw him, I was just rubbing his belly while we watched TV together and he got hard. Not like a sensual massage - just some gentle rubbing. He also doesn't mind if I haven't shaved and we rib one another playfully when I've got fuzzy legs and he's got a 5 o'clock shadow.

So while the bleeding nonsense can be a tiny buzzkill, we find ways around it. Some days, I may not want sex, but I just want to lavish him with my hands and mouth. It's a weird kind of arousal, but I can assure you he never complains.

[HusbandOfCyster]

I'm married to a lady with PCOS. Her sex drive is minimal. We pretty much only have sex when she is trying to get pregnant and that is very rare because she rarely has a period. I never pester her for sex because if she does not want it. . then I don't want it with her. So porn is my best friend. I'm glad I live in a city where women don't approach men or give me much interest. Makes it easier to not do something I will regret later. My wife has not started treatment for PCOS. . our life is chaotic with constant moving around and her spending much time away overseas. . so it is hard to followthrough with all the tests and get proper treatment.

[LovePink75]

I just thought that I should add in my two cents to this conversation. When I was in my 20's and married to husband number one, my sex drive was completely nonexistent (not the reason for our divorce). It wasn't until I was in my 30's when I began to exercise religiously and with an increasing sense of self-confidence and decreasing waist measurement, my sex drive went through the roof! I know a lot of it had to do with how I was feeling about my new body (I felt sexy for the first time in my life) but it was also because I was a lot more fit. I had strength and stamina - which is required in order to be a good lover.

My new husband and I enjoy a very active sex life (at least twice a week) and when I have 'longer than normal' bleeding - we find other ways to please each other. Most importantly, we make plenty of time for touching, caressing and being close to each other. In fact, we both look forward to cuddling every night before bed (even if it is only for two minutes).

Perhaps one solution would be for both of you to get a little more physically active... I only preach the exercise thing because I know how well it works.

Good luck to you all

[Phillbilly]

My fiancée has PCOS and if she is sore or not feeling well I just make sure she knows that she means the world to me and that no matter what il always be there for her it really doesn't bother me if we can't have sex because just being with her makes me happier than I have ever been before , when she is feeling well we have an amazing sex life but I work away in the mines for two weeks at a time and I'm only home for a week then back to work again, I admit it is hard sometimes but I love her and I'd do anything for her so even when she doesn't feel like it it's fine because I just love spending quality time with her and making her feel special and beautiful because she is.

[corrie_p]

It definitely is a struggle sometimes. I haven't been diagnosed as of yet but I feel like my sex drive just isn't there most of the time. its frustrating but hope to get help with treatments.