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Thread: husband won't allow adoption
03-15-2013, 01:31 PM #31
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I do a lot of couples counselling and I just had to comment on one thing you said: "I just don't know how much longer to wait because I don't want to make him feel insecure." You are NOT the one responsible for him feeling insecure. That bears repeating - his insecurity is NOT because of you! The only people responsible for our feelings are ourselves, no one else. We are all faced with challenging situations and crappy people every single day that impact our moods and how we see ourselves but at the end of it all, we have the choice with how we respond to those things. I'm not saying this is always easy. However, if it's something we struggle with on our own then we, as mature, rational, adults, are responsible for getting the professional help needed to respond appropriately and do what's best for ourselves and those we care about. This may sound harsh but it's called growing up. If he can't do that, it's not your fault. And you deserve an equal partner in a marriage that is willing to step up and meet you half way, not avoid the pain and the struggle altogether.
I wish you the best of luck.Me (33) Hidden Content DH (36) Married April 2011
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