Just curious ( TMI )

[Hope1142005]

My husband and I have this thing. He wants me to be vocal while we are making love. But he isnt vocal. He says its better for him when im vocal. And I have told him many times that I enjoy hearing him also. I like to know when im doing something that he likes. I never know if he is enjoying himself. I was just wondering if any other couples have went through this & if you found a way to meet in the middle & work through it.

[shortandbubbly]

I have to agree with your hubby, being vocal, in my eyes, is one of the hottest things. And my DH is kind of like yours by the sounds of it. He loves it when I talk dirty and get vocal, but he really doesn't get vocal. But what I do, I ask him things like, 'do you like that?' in that sexy voice, I ask questions that require a yes or no answer, and then I say somethin glike, 'what else do you like?' Or, 'what do you want me to do to you?' That way, he has to respond back, and usually, once he says a few things, it opens him up. Sometimes the women have to be the leaders in the bedroom. SO next time you give him what he wants. If you get him really steamed up, I"m sure he will talk back. You go get him girl!

[tiggerlily5278]

I think it's a common thing most couples go through. My dh & I are both somewhat quiet & reserved in the bedroom. I agree that if your partner is vocal, you know if they like it. But, you also have to do what feels natural to you. If it's forced, it just feels WIERD. LOL.

[helovesme]

We went through this also. It has taken both of us time to open up to each other and feel comfortable. That's what it's about. Try pumping up his ego and making him super confident, then he may feel more comfortable letting you know how he feels vocally.

[Hetaera]

just tell him how you're feeling, what you want him to do... 'keep going, dont stop' if you're close to orgasm... tell him!
does he like naughty words?
Tell him how much you love 'what he is doing' in the naughtiest way possible... just let yourself go, moan when it feels good... I agree expressive lovers are the best! its probably very sexy for him to know he's pleasing you...

[Hope1142005]

When we first started dating, he wasnt shy at all about " talking naughty". He said things that I had never heard of before....lol But that only lasted about maybe 5 or 6 months. Then he went totally shy on me. Never says a word or makes a sound. Its not like I didnt respond to him taking naughty to me, I would always say something sexy or even slutty back to him, to encourage him to keep talking & let him know that I enjoyed it. I have tried asking him questions like tell me what you want me to do. He will say " I dunno"...lol Ive talked to him about it several times, ive ask him why he doesnt talk naughty anymore & he says he doesnt know & changes the subject. The only thing I know of that has changed is he wasnt into church when we first started seeing each other. But a good while before we got married he started back to church. Thats when the naughty talk pretty much stopped. I could understand that. Then we were online one day & we found a website called www.themarriagebed.com and its a website that a christian couple made, telling what the bible says about all different kinds of sexual things for married couples. The do's & dont's I guess you could say. Anyway it went on to tell that a married couple can talk naughty to each other as long as they are both comfy with it & your not calling your spouse names that makes them feel bad or anything like that. I dont him that he didnt have to use bad words, just talk sexy to me...lol Im assuming there is something more but he wont tell me anything. We have been taking these cute quizzes for married couples online & when it gets to a sex question, he will pretty much close up on me. Since its easier to write some of your feelings, I have emailed him & left him notes around the house asking him sexual questions. Still nothing. Im always telling him how sexy he is. Im always telling him how cute his butt is, how big his " tool" is and I honestly mean everything I say to him and he will say " yeah right" and laugh & walk off. I love leaving him little lipstick notes on the bathroom mirror telling him something else about him that I love. But so far, nothing has worked that ive tried. We have a wonderful relationship & we love each other so much. We are so close & perfect for each other. But of the few fusses we have had, its about sexual things...lol I had went to sooooo many sexual advice websites & christian websites. I send him any articles that I find that I think are like us & he never even mentions them. Ive always told him how I didnt want us to be one fo those couples that have a boring sex life. We agreed that we would always be willing to try new things & keep it interesting. Im always thinking about little things that I can do to make him feel special , loved & sexy. But he doesnt even act like he notices. Any suggestions???