Foster/Adoption , where to begin ?

[ShellyMTL]

Ok so it looks like having a biological child will never be for me .

I am very interested in fostering but really have no idea where to begin or what to do .

Here's a problem . I am a USA citizen , this Decemeber I will be also a permanet resident of Canada ( in Quebec ) . My husband is a Canadian , who will be working on his USA green card in June . We now live in New Jersey . Will we be able to become foster parents ? will we have to wait until he becomes a green card holder ?

Adopting , we will be able to adopt in Canada and/or the USA?

I am very scared of the whole process . and Hope that we can become a foster parent , and hope that some child/children will be able to have us as foster parents or maybe even parents


thank you for reading !!

Shelly


edited because my wording was incorrect

[ShellyMTL]

I guess no one has any advice for me but thanks for looking !!

Shelly

[Mindijean]

I can only speak from our experience here in the states. We've been foster parents for almost two years now. At the moment, we have a set of brothers with us who MAY become adoptable very soon. It's hard saying goodbye to most of the kids, but when you know it's for the best, it's okay.

Feel free to ask me questions!

[macrod]

Hi and best wishes in your choice to foster/adopt. This is not an easy way to go about adopting.... but then after going thru infertility treatments and heartbreaks you have to be pretty strong. There is plenty of heartbreak in fostering. You have no control. You just love them and then they leave. But at the end of the day you and your dh know that you made a difference in a child/s life. That is reward enough. We ended up adopting a baby that came to us at 6 weeks old. We were actually looking at taking only older children. We did not want to commit to a baby. Babies in the foster care require alot of dr's visits and family visits. But we took her and she never left us. She is the light of our lives. I never thought that I would ever be called - Mother. The best person to answer your question in regards to the resident status is a case worker. You can find the numbers on line. Good luck!

[ShellyMTL]

thank you so very much ladies

I am going to all the social worker and get things started . I am little nervous . and not sure what the Home study entails . Just really scared . Wondering if maybe God really doesnt think ill be a good mother and is why i havent been able to have a child bio/or adoption .

Thanks
Shelly

[macrod]

Trust me if God only gave children to "good Mothers and Fathers" then there would no need for foster care. Just talk to you social worker. Fill out the tons of paper, go to the classes, prepare for a homestudy and then prepare to bug the crud out of your caseworker until they send you some children to love. You will do fine. I would also recommend you join- www.fosterparents.com. They are a wealth of information and support.