Having a m/c

[xy38920617]

I'm not sure how I feel right now. Looking back things just didn't feel right from the start. As I'm sure you all know, going through this has been terrible. What a crappy week. Monday I had an 8 week ultrasound and all we saw was the sac with no baby in it. We had a vacation planned the next day so we went anyway and just didn't talk about it even though it was in both of our minds the whole time. At that point the midwife told me not to worry, there could be other reasons like that I wasn't as far along as I thought. Three days into the vacation I started spotting so we came home. After some blood tests we found out that my betas were going down. So here I am. I'm not bleeding, I'm very crampy, and I don't know what to do. I have to go to the Dr. again on Monday and I really don't want to. I'm scared because I don't know what to expect. I just want to stop feeling pregnant when I'm not. This is horrible. Thanks for letting me ramble on.

[*~SugarPlums~*]

I'm sorry about your loss. They are never easy and I do hope you come through this ok.

[soonermama]

Danielle,

I am so sorry. I just m/c on Monday, and this has been one of the hardest weeks of my life.

[rainyangl]

Danielle I am so sorry for your loss I had a m/c almost 2 weeks ago.

[Licsh]

I am so sorry for your loss. I know exactly how you feel about not wanting to feel pregnant if your not going to be. I wasn't bleeding either with my first m/c (just barely spotting) so I opted for a D & C. All my symptoms disappeared completely within a week of each m/c. I am sorry you have to go through this.

[lovesbabies]

(((BIG HUGS))) You are in my prayers!!!!

[xy38920617]

Thanks for all your kind words. I wish we didn't have to go through this :O( I am hoping I can get a D&C but I'm scared about it hurting. I'll just have to see what the dr says on monday. Thanks again for helping me through this.

[Fleegle4]

I'm sorry for your loss. It always sucks.

If it makes the decision easier, my D&C didn't really hurt at all. I went in, they knocked me out, and about 40 minutes later they woke me up and I had one BIG cramp. The nurse put a shot of something in my IV and that was the end of that. I think I took a total of four advil over the next three days. The worst part of the recovery was not being able to entirely shake the foggy feeling from the anaesthesia until about two days later.

My reaction in general was just the opposite. About three days later, I remember sitting and thinking "wow, it's as if I was never pregnant and nothing ever happened. I should have something to show from this experience".

[emmalie2003]

The d&c does not hurt at all. They sedate you and when you wake up, there is no pain, and they gave me Tylenol 3, but I haven't needed it at all. I would opt for the d&c again if this were to happen again, though I hope to god it's a one time only deal for me.

[BigMamaK]

I'm sorry about your loss. I know you are going through a lot right now. I also had a MC about 3 weeks ago. Best of luck with everything.

[bcylab]

Danielle - {{{{{HUGS}}}} and prayers out to you and the family.

[RunnerDuck]

An alternative to D&C is cytotec which is a pill you insert vaginally - it causes uterine contractions. I used it for two of my miscarriages. It worked better the first time when I had a blighted ovum, which sounds like what you have - nothing in the sac. The second time I used it (3rd m/c) was after we'd seen a heartbeat - it took several doses and lots of time. In your case, it should work well and it is easier than a D&C and less risks.

Sorry you are going through this. I know what you mean about symptoms. I had more symptoms with my blighted ovum pregnancy than with any of my successful pregnancies. In fact the day we went home from the doctors and knew that pregnancy was doomed, I developed a new symptom... the metallic taste in mouth thing... it was cruel and bizarre!!!


eta - fwiw if you want to just wait it out, that is an option, too. For me, I wanted to get it over with so we could get back to TTC. But there is no harm in waiting it out and a lot of people chose to do that. Just know that if you go that route, supposedly it can take up to 12 weeks (of the pregnancy) to pass the sac. It won't hurt you, though, physically. But it can be mentally challenging.

[ava2005]

Danielle,
So sorry this is happening to you. We are all thinking of you.

[xy38920617]

Thank you for all the information, I'm less scared now. I just want it over asap so we can start trying again.

[lots_of_dots]

I'm so sorry for your loss. Hugs!