Was your dh always interested in adoption?

[SydneyPaige]

I am here to ask questions. My dh and I have unfortunately had no luck with fertility treatments and are retluctant to try more due to the financial impact of trying without success in the past. I find myself more and more drawn to the adoption option but my dh does not seem to be interested at all. I don't know what to do at this point - I can't push him although I find myself questioning him as to why he is not interested. I am 36 he is 40 so I feel that it is something I would want to move forward on before we are both too much older. I guess I am just going to have to resign myself to being childless or pray that he changes his mind. In the past he has stressed the importance of having a "biological" child to me - and believe me I have tried every way in this world to make that happen but there are some things you can't change. To me the whole biology thing is not an issue - I know that I could bond with a baby and I truly believe that he would too but I also know that he has to want it too or it will never be the "right" decision. Any input appreciated. Say a prayer that his heart will open to the option otherwise I guess the dream is coming to a sad conclusion for me!!
Sydney

[Miss-Meme]

Yes my DS was always interested in adoption. But he came from a family with lots of adoption.

I know some guys can come around to it, so keep praying.

[candycarolina]

i feel your pain sydney my hubby n i arent even ttc yet but we have discussed the chance that we may ony have the adoption option n he is open to it of coarse he would love to see his flesh n blood but we want the joy of nurturing a child n watching it learn grow nto a healthy adult we can be proud of i see where your hubby is coming from but i sympathize with you completly you really are between a rock and a hard place ( our in my thuoghts and prayers)

[lilalouise]

My DH really wanted to keep trying as long as possible (which we did), I brought up adoption bout 6 months to a year before we started the process. He wasn't ready so we continued TTC. During our second round of injections one night, DH saw (finally) what a toll it was taking on my and my body/emotions/etc. and said that it was time to stop. We never looked back and focused 100% on our adoption. (We DID revisit IF treatments about 8 months ago since I had lost 50 lbs and are pg with a mircle now, but that is not typical)

Pam

[calches]

Well, I can definantly say that my dh was not gung ho about adoption...he wanted ttc...but after we went to the inf. dr...and he saw the tests that I was going to have to do before we started any treatments he said a firm no. I would have gone through them if dh wanted ttc...but my heart was not into it...at all...I've always had a heart for adoption...so anyhow, now that we are there and looking he is excited but reserved...

I know that you have heard this, but if you are meant to adopt then you will...but I do understand what point you are at...with you want to go ahead and start and dh not there yet...he will...you just have to give him time...

[candycarolina]

i hope the lord blesses you with your babies( you all ) however he chooses to give them to you