Muslim Cysters..2009!!

[sara_kh]

Sarahsmom - lol. You should see my nails. I bite them when I am nervous and I have the worst cuticles ever. My hair are in a very bad condition. They are oily and they fall off a lot and hence thin as well. I used to have MashaAllah full thick hair and now i see patches on my head. I dont know anymore what I should be doing but I really want to try so lets see.

noor- I have been very irregular with my cinnamon tea. I just want to hit bed when I am done with studies at night. With cinnamon tea I have to wait till it simmers for few minutes and I just dont find time for it LOL. I did a lot of thinking last night and I have come up with a plan that I intend to stay on (which I always do but it never works our lol). I am still crammed up in my exams and piles of assignment and I get to breathe freely around march 10th so that is the time I am going to put things in its places and work on my plan. Yes sister we all will be alright InshaAllah -hugs-
I just dont bother explaining anymore, not that she wont understand ( I can be very persuasive when I have to explain things lol), it's just that the thought of someone worrying over me is something I really dont want. I feel happy for others but I am limited to just myself. InshaAllah things will work out for us -Ameen-

Here is what I plan to do:

* I have appointment at Curves on Monday so I will most probably enroll into the program. Which means 30 days workout 3 times a week.
* Drinking cinnamon tea each night before going to bed and see how it will help me.
* Frustrated from my hair fall, I am going to try to apply black seed oil once or twice a week. Along with it I am going to apply a mixture of Indian herbs (Aamla , Areetha , Shikakai) to my hair. I have heard it does wonders but then I am not normal so who knows what it will do for me.
* Getting low carb diet.
* Start thinking positive ( I need to do that asap because I always put myself down and last)

Quite a list LOL. Lets see how many of these I practice.
and I have to start this by 10th March so you girls need to keep bugging me so that I get myself on this plan LOL.

[Nomadic]

Sarahsmom: Whoa! A pool of ones own sounds too good to be true! What part of Texas do your parents live in? Whenever you visit them next, please remember you have another destination in Texas - MY PLACE To be honest, more than you, I'd love to meet Sarah. What you wrote in one of your posts about what a sabir child she is MashAllah, I told DH about it and I had tears in my eyes while talking and he was moved too.

I absoultely love what Sarah is. If I ever go back to school, it would be for special education. I've always loved children, especially the challenged ones, so much, and I love them without any sympathy or feeling sorry for them. They are really like angels because I think they are so close to Allah SWT, even if it's a child who has a limps a little when walking! I don't know if you'll have another child, I don't know if I'll have another child - but I have full faith that inshAllah Sarah is get so much better!!! Ameen (inshAllah you'll have more babies and I will too, I was just saying that to emphasize how much I believe in Sarah ... )

Alhamdulillah it sounds like Germany is a really good option for you guys and MashAllah you have such a supportive and resourceful family ... they're willing to pay for the whole thing! But I think I agree with you, if you think you can manage the finances on your own, you'll feel better about it... but just to know people care so much about you and your child feels good, doesn't it?

Noor: I don't know if I'll be going to the gym anytime soon... but if it ever comes to that, I'm glad Curves is an option. I'm so glad school has changed your life for the better. When I took a TTC break last year, I went straight to work (I taught at a university in Pakistan) and that really lifted me up, Alhamdulillah. Also, inshAllah this distance will get your DH to realize what marriage really means and what you are to him. Your diet plan sounds so incredible, I have no self-control when it comes to that! And I'm just loving all the American junk food... I can't eat less than three Blue Bell ice cream sandwiches in A DAY! They are soooo addictive... and waffles, and maple syrup, and orange juice. I've just added blue berry smoothie to my snack list. I hope it's not AS unhealthy as the rest of the garbage I'm putting in!

Maroon: I do feel my doctor is good Alhamdulillah. However, now that I think about it... she's too fast! My first meeting with her didn't last more than 10 minutes, in which she started me on Femara and told me we're heading for injectibles next. But Alhamdulillah, I think she has been doing this for a long time so she doesn't waste much time.

I've had several episodes of the type of period you're describing. I remember a few months after my wedding, I was sleeping on the new mattress and bled right through it... twice in a single night ... and was washing it in the middle of the night... sleepy, teary, in pain... and alone. It was horrible (DH was in the US, I was in Pakistan). No pads can sustain our pcosistic period, I think. But I hope you're feeling better now inshAllah. See if you can take some iron supplements when you're bleeding like that. After getting anemic because of excess bleeding, I keep telling everyone to take iron when bleeding heavy! Good luck with your appointment, inshAllah!


Sara kh: You know Haleem is quite healthy (compared to the other death bombs we eat), I figured out when I made it for the first time last week. It's just boiled lentil and meat... all protein... no oil (unless you garnish it). And you can eat it with a spoon without rotee, you know!


As for me:

I took my last femara pill yesterday... and I'm bleeding AGAIN! It's not heavy, but there's a flow... I go in for an u/s on Friday inshAllah and I'm pretty sure there's nothing in it for me. I hate transvaginal scans and I think that's what's in store for me. Allah SWT help me.

Also, we've been living together for one and a half year now, and I still have pain most of the time we DTD. I'm sorry for this TMI... but I dislike penetration and DH usually has to struggle to make his way... and again, usually, he can't get much far because (sorry sisters for this) I just keep my legs very tight... and I know it leaves him unsatisfied. Most of the time he doesn't say anything but sometimes he asks me politely to please relax and sometimes he's a little irriated too. I told my doctor in Pakistan about it and she checked me and said I'm fine, I just need to relax. I'm not saying it's bad everytime but it's not like putting a finger in your nose or ear... it's not that simple.

[Noor26]

Salam Girlies,

Thank you for everyone's comments, I will be writing everyone back shortly but there's something I need to ask, if anyone has any experience with metformin please let me know.

After getting off the pill last year I had regular periods until 6 months later...then they became kinda whack. THEN I was put on metformin to help with my insulin resistance. While taking metformin my periods became very regular, I could predict when my next period would be and they all lasted about a week.

Well, I got off metformin because I wanted to try a natural approach.

My periods became REALLy irregular, and now they last on average 2 months if I do ever get them.

Does metformin induce ovulation?
Can you get very regular periods and NOT OVULATE?

If anyone has any experience with this please let me know, I'm wondering if I need to change my health insurance and get on Metformin agian.

Please help, I'm suicidal agian!!!!!!! I'm never going to have a baby, my husband is going to leave me, I don't know what to do with the rest of my life. Does anyone have any good idea's as to what I should do with the rest of my life? Maybe I can find a deserted island and sit there and meditate for the remaining years of my life.

People are Evil (Cries) Their being mean to me agian...taunting me. I never wish bad for anyone. People are evil...and I HATE MY LIFE. i hate it i hate it i hate it! (cries).

[sara_kh]

^ Assalamu Alaikum sister noor

Your post made me all worried. I sent you a pm with my id's add me up if you feel like talking -Hugs-. Sister dont lose hope. Your posts have always given me faith and something to believe in. You cant let it go like this. I know how people can be mean. you really do not need to listen to them. Have faith in Allah subhana watala and know that He loves you and wont do anything bad for you. Have faith sister. DONT listen to people. They have no feelings and dont know what they are talking about. And inshaAllah you will have your baby. You have to believe in yourself and it will happen inshaAllah. And no your husband wont leave you. I dont know about metformin. My doctor said I am not IR and yet gave it to me. Going off them along with bcp gave me 2 months of bleeding with cramps and then no periods for 5 months. I hope sister sarahsmom will have more info on it.

Have tawakkal sister. I will keep you in my prayers and you will see things will change for better InshAllah -Hugs-

[Nomadic]

Noor: I am not a PCOS success story but I've been on this board for a long time - as a stalker and then a member and I've read so much here, I think I know all there is to know about PCOS (with all due exaggeration!). Sister, you respond to Metformin ALHAMDULILLAH! While it is possible for someone to have regular periods without ovulation, to me it sounds like you ovulate too while you're on Metformin inshAllah.

If Metformin makes your periods regular, I strongly suggest you go back to it. I'm not saying there's something wrong with the natural/herbal way. I took homeopathic medicine for six months and nearly got myself killed. None of us like Metformin's side effects, none of us want to toss 3 pills a day at our age and feel like this is what we'll be doing for the rest of our lives. But sister, if Metformin makes your periods humane, then really, I'm so happy for you - I can almost envy you.

InshAllah you will get married to a good human being who'll love you with your PCOS. Honestly, I think Allah SWT will make metformin your magic pill to conceiving your children and to keep your PCOS in control. And if, God forbid, metformin alone doesn't do the trick, it's just the first step... there's clomid, femara, injectibles... all that out there. But man, metformin got your periods regular!!! MASHALLAH! That's something to celebrate, sister.

I was saddened when I read your post (for some reason I read the last few lines first). But when I read the part about metformin making your periods regular, I was almost jumping in my seat. I suggest you read about metformin success stories on the board, you'll know what I'm talking about.

About people, all of us feel let down, feel taunted... hopeless. I wish I could give you a hug (and cry a little for myself too while I am at it, hah). But what can we do about people, nothing, right? We can only pray Allah SWT makes things easier for us. Plus really, it's not people, it's not you - it's shaitan making a celebration out of our weaknesses.

And whatever you feel, rant rant rant here all you want, we've got your back inshAllah!

[Sarahsmom]

Sara- What shampoo do you use? I had that same issue when I was using Pantene Pro-V, but when I went to head and shoulders my hair wasn't so thin or oily anymore.

Nomadic- I would love if my parents bought house with a pool..ahh...my dad says that most houses in Austin (that's where he is) have pools and they aren't expensive compared to those without (probably from the horrible housing market now). Sarah and I love to go swimming but if it was at my parent's house I could go in a swimming suit rather than fully clothed in a neighborhood pool, but I still don't mind as long a I'm in the water! LOL Thanks so much for your invite. Inshallah, if I end up going to TX to visit I will let you know. I often wish you guys lived closer to me (like if we all lived in Tampa), we would have too much fun together! Maybe you can get your husband to take you to Disney World .... So what you're saying is that if I come to TX, you're going to take Sarah? LOL fine by me! She's got this attitude the last two days you're more than welcome to have. Apparently, she only wants her dad to feed her or play with her. I bought her a new toy and tried to show her how to play with it and "oh no!" She was only happy with her dad playing with her. Ahh, little girls and their dads. I used to be that way with my dad too. I think you should go back to school. Special needs education is so scarce right now. Sarah's pre-school is all Sp Ed and they have the hardest time finding staff because there aren't many people who are qualified in that area. We are lucky that here this is an elementary school close by that is only for special needs children from grade K-6. Its a brand new school with brand new equipment, but for middle and high school there is nothing yet. Seriously, if you can (between work and home) go back to school for it. Inshallah you'll get the hasanat from not only educating a new generation but working with those who require special attention.

Germany is a wonderful option and we're still waiting for the final word. The waiting is the hardest part. I keep having these weird dreams about the whole thing (which is why I'm up at 7:30).

Stick to the Femara just a little while longer. When you do go in for the transvaginal scan let her (doctor) know what happened. She might say this is just until your body gets used to it (like a cycle or two) or she might say "Oh now we have to start the injectables". I hate those scans too, so invasive but everything about the ob/gyn is invasive. I hate going in for a PAP exam each year. I always have to take a shower when I get home because I feel so gross!! TMI I know!

As for your...ahmm...DTD, have you told the doctor? To be honest I have the same issue when my period starts to be very late. Before I got it regulated since Nov 08, my periods were crazy, coming every 4-5 months. I'd get my period and then a month or so later, it would hurt me too. Finally when I told the doctor she said the cycts shrink or go away when I get my period, but by a month or so when I should normally get my period, they've enlarged and multiplied. That's why it hurts. Ever since my periods got regulated in Nov, I've been fine. Also, not to get too graphic, there are certain positions that relieve the discomfort (not all the way but make it tolerable). Talk to your DH about it (so that he knows its not you making a fuss but its actual pain) and together you can find what works for you. PM me if you're embarassed about posting on here (but its nothing to be embarassed about BTW!)


Noor- I know sometimes you get depressed from PCOS, we all do. But please PLEASE remember something, no man or baby is worth you becoming sucidal. First, as others said, if metformin works for you, why are you off it ? I'm on metformin and yes the side effects are annoying but they last for a few weeks at most. However, I've lost 30 pounds with metformin. I've gotten a NORMAL period that shows up every 5 weeks instead of every 5 months, and I've ovulated in the last three months. Metformin, itself, doesn't make you ovulate (its not Clomid) but the reason why you MIGHT not ovulate could be extra weight, irregular periods, and too much insulin in your body. Metformin corrects that with some people and therefore you'll ovulate. Hamdillah, we have access to so much mediciation and so much technology could you imagine if you lived 100 years ago? I know sometimes people like to try natural things, but you have to think that sometimes natural doesn't work. If you have cancer, would you not want chemotherapy? Eat healthy foods in ADDITION to taking your metformin. Besides, metformin isn't for life. My doctor said that many many patients take it for a few years and then are able to cope without it (or with a much lower dose). As for your husband, why would he leave you? Are you married to a nice guy or a jerk? I'm quite sure that your family didn't let you marry a jerk, so don't think he'll leave you. Men are not like those on TV or in the movies where his wife isn't pregnant by the first month and he's already looking for another. Most men are NOT like that. Especially with so many options for getting pregnant. Yes, having your baby concieved in a test tube isn't ideal, but its the end result that everyone's looking at, not how it happened. Please don't loose hope, not yet, not when you have so much to try still. Besides, your husband isn't even in the same country as you, could you imagine his surprise if you ARE pregnant? I know that the stuff swims but not across the globe..LOL (just trying to lighten the mood). Sister, you must work on your body and work with your doctor to fix your periods. When your husband does come to the US, you can get on Clomid inshallah and have no issues. BTW- metformin costs $6 for 90 pills at Wal-Mart with NO health insurance. Don't switch, just go to Wal-mart and get a refill. Clomid at Wal-Mart also costs $5 per cycle. ( I swear I don't have any other price checks for anything else..




In my own world, I'm sorry I had to share this, I was out shopping and this store in the mall was doing a going-out-of-busines sale. I walked in and saw this CUTE wallet that was pink and white leather and it was Prada. There was no price so I asked the lady that works there and she said $9. I was going to hit the floor, I couldn't believe my luck. So I walked up to pay and another lady says "That's $35.XX" and I said no, one of your sales people said it was $9. Anyways I argued for a little bit because that was the price I was given so she gave it to me for $9....ahhh I'm in HEAVEN. I looked online and even $35 would have been good as a similar wallet was being sold for $450. I would never pay such crazy prices for a wallet, especially when I could do so much more with that money. I love going out of business sales. I feel like I'm almost stealing at the prices I get.

[mamawantmore]

Assalaamu Alaykum,

Noor I am so sorry you are feeling this way, may Allah make thing easy for you,ameen. The sisters gave good advice.
InshaAllah you should stick to the metformin. I will keep you in my duas.

How is every one else?

[Nomadic]

Okay, I'm so sorry! I got confused between Noor and Sara last night... God, this is so silly. I'll write more later inshAllah, just came to correct myself!

[DiamondInTheRough]

Asalaamu Alaikum,

Noor, I have to agree with the ladies: Get back on the Metformin! This is like a miracle drug for so many cysters. I know you mentioned you'd like to go "natural" but this is not a 'fertility drug', it is used for matters of insulin in men and women alike. There is no shame in Islam in using medicine for things like this. Allah made it available for us, and masha'Allah you know it has made a difference for you, you should go back on it. If your periods became like clockwork while you were on it, I am sure those were ovulatory cycles, insha'Allah. It's safer then clomid in my opinion.

Nomadic: I'm sorry I don't have experience with Femera, insha'Allah Sarah's Mom has given you some answers. However, with the pain you are experiencing during your relaitons, I agree you should talk to your doctor about it. Have you ever been checked for Endometriosis? You would have had a laporoscopy for that. It sounds to me with the pain and excess bleeding you are having, that it could be from something like this, which is more common in women with pcos. The good thing about it is if you have a laparoscopy to look for it, the doctor can remove it at the same time if she finds any, insha'Allah.

maroon: Nice to see you around! Insha'Allah khair with ttc# 2.

I'm sorry I didn't have time for more personals, but I'm thinking of everyone and I'll check back soon insha'Allah. Thank you all for your du'a, I'm feeling much better this week.

Wasalaamu Alaikum

[Nomadic]

The nurse called to tell me the other day my thyroid levels are high. Now I could have endo too. I'm just so tired -

[DiamondInTheRough]

Nomadic - I found out I had borderline hypothyroidism while ttc as well. It's something that can be easily maintained, insha'Allah. You'll have to take a supplement everyday, and it's the tiniest of pills. It might take a few months to get the right dose, but it will be one less hurdle when it comes to ttc, insha'Allah.

[miria]

assalamo alaykum sisters,. i've been to the doc and they confirmed that the lump on my son's testis is a cyst, they referred him to a urologist.sorry, i'm typing one handed as i'm breastfeeding, will write more as soon as i can insha allah.

[maroon22]

sarakh- how did ur appt at curves go? i use to go to curves when i was living in the states..i really enjoyed it! so when do u start? sounds like a great plan u got there..stick to it and im sure u'll see wonders!

Nomadic- thanks for the iron advice..thats a good idea and important! in prepping for ttc ive been taking my prenatals so inshallah i should be covered..but i hadnt thought of anemia and heavy periods! as far as DTD its hard to say cuz the deff of pain is diff for everyone..i think some initial discomfort during penetration is fairly normal.. but after that if ur feeling pain then deff go check it out with the drs again. rather be safe than sorry i think! and it will take away that worry...even calling the advice nurse might be an idea. im sorry to hear about ur high thyroid..inshallah u will be able to manage it fairly easily like diamond was saying..i know sometimes it just seems like one thing after the other gets thrown ur way..but God tests those whom he LOVES! u'll get through it inshallah..i thin kits better to know and deal than not know and wonder what the heck is goin on..so alhmd another hurdle ...but more information which can help u in the long run

noor- im so sorry ur feeling frusterated and down..deff look into goin back on metformin..i was on it for a long time..and it didnt work for me at all..but alhmd uhave had SUCCESS with it...so thats really great! there are alot of diff options if u want to have a baby..a lot of diff meds and treatments..ive tried them all so if u ever need advice dont hesitate! i know what it feels like to be drugged up all the time..but alhmd..now that i see my son it was ALL WORTH IT... u will get there sis..just hang in there and remember ALLAH.

sarahsmom- ahhh a good bargain..i can appreciate that!

diamond- alhmd sis im glad ur feeling much better..takes a while to get ur strength back after that!

miria- it must be really hard to have to go through all those tests and the worry for ur son..but inshallah it will get sorted out soon and u cane take a deep breath and say alhmd its over! poor little guy..alhmd u are breastfeeding though! im a strong advocate!! ur doin a great job!

ok well im off..zayd is going to wake up from his nap soon and i need to enjoy the rest of my green tea lol..ok salams

[Sarahsmom]

The nurse called to tell me the other day my thyroid levels are high. Now I could have endo too. I'm just so tired -

Oh I hope its not too much. My sister has hypothyroidism and she just has to take a little pill once a day. She said it was annoying to get her levels fixed (they adjusted her meds a few times) but now she's fine. Oh and she had Type 1 diabetes and auto immune diease. And three kids. Inshallah it's not going to hinder your chances of being a mom. But you're not going to be as tired anymore. (which is good)

[Sarahsmom]

assalamo alaykum sisters,. i've been to the doc and they confirmed that the lump on my son's testis is a cyst, they referred him to a urologist.sorry, i'm typing one handed as i'm breastfeeding, will write more as soon as i can insha allah.

Our prayers will be with your son. Please don't worry about posting as we all know that your son is more important. I would like you to know that my brother had a cyst on his cheek (on his face) and it was easily removed in the doctor's office. Inshallah your son will be ok. Is he sleeping well yet?