Has anyone ever been...

[fat&anxious]

....envious of another woman's looks while attracted to her at the same time? I've been. It's like the older, "female" part of my brain being merged with the newer, androgen-wracked part of my brain. It's an uncomfortable, creepy feeling to me - for more than one reason. Such is life with "sexual confusion".

[J.]

Naw, it's not creepy. I find I'm most attracted to women that I'm envious of. It's like wanting to be with them makes my appearance better somehow... or something corny like that...

[mkkelly]

The girls that i get big crushes on are always women who i envy for some reason- her looks, her confidence, her talents. I think its normal, and heathy. I mean as long as its not that like hateful envy? that might not be good. But in general, i want a woman who makes me attempt to be a better person, who i envy because of whatever qualities in them i admire. Does that make sense?

[TashaRose]

I agree with you, mkkelly ~ every time I've developed a serious crush on a girl it's always been because of how amazing she is in some way - honest, creative, passionate. I feel it's normal to develop an envious feeling towards that quality and want to duplicate it in yourself. So yes, it does make sense to me!

[femmegrrrl25]

Absolutely I have... it's maybe not so much creepy for me as it seems to be a healthy normal thing. Mkkelly said it well...

[Flipmutt]

I notice myself attracted to girls that I want to look like... I think its more so wanting to look that attractive than me actually wanting that person sexually. I would want to examine the body figure more so I know how to look like that... hehe