depression and taking it out on my bf

[unborn angel]

ok i was diagnosed a few weeks ago, on the meds now n pain relief but i carnt seem to shake the depression. my bf is wonderfull but i keep takin it out on him. i get it in my head he doesnt want me, n that hes cheatin on me n that he can get better. am i goin completey bonkers?

[finallymrsvb]

wow, that's a lot to deal with. i know how much anxiety and depression can impact me, and i understand where you are coming from. what has really helped me (and saved my poor hubby's sanity) has been therapy. i was only recently diagnosed with pcos, but have been struggling with anxiety and depression for a while. i started seeing a therapist and it is SOOOOOO helpful. i felt embarrassed about it at first, but soon realized that seeing a therapist doesn't make me crazy.

hope you feel better soon.

[unborn angel]

aww thankyou. hes brilliant and hates me feelin like this. ive bin lookin at a theropist but guess i was scared to go n see them, i think ill go back to my doctors n see if they can reffer me. but i seem to be alot calmer n less stressed since iv bin on this medication.

[doesitinspire]

Often we push away those who challenge our difficult thoughts the most with their consistent support. Just try to be aware that its your depression and not fact that you're wanting to respond that way. If you can remind yourself "I'm feeling this way because I'm depressed and vulnerable, not because my boyfriend is doing anything wrong." you might find yourself more able to keep thoughts as simply that.

Good luck!

[missyrooloo]

EAch persons depression or other emotional things are all different, but I can understand where you are coming from...I've often had the same line of thinking w/my fiance and am amazed he is still with me and loves me, Ive put him through h*ll.
I agree with therapy/counseling (maybe even see if he would go with you). At one point I attended a DBT program (as Im bipolar, a big part of my depression) and that helped tons too.
You most certainly are not going completely bonkers =D...Be sure to feel your doc in on your not being able to shake the depression, he/she can figure out whether to change/up the medication or add another one to it...depression is not always the most simple thing to overcome and can take quite a bit of time and finding what works for you, give yourself credit in that you have made the step to even acknowledge it and are recieving help with it.Im rooting for you hun and obviously so are your loved ones, take care of yourself much hugs to you.

[unborn angel]

thankyou everyone i really appreicate it. ive became alot better since the meds even lost half astone woohhooo lol. i know he loves me n worrys about me just sumtimes find it hard to explain how i feel, but u lot are great u totaly understand me. i got abit upset at a meetin at work the other day in a meetin so my manager wants me to see a counciller but i tryed to explain to her i was just upset cause of my problem n the fact theirs rumours going round work im preganent whitch im not but i wish i was that why i was up set all came round at the wrong time. but thats what u get for datin people u work with NEVER AGAIN xx

[mandylovesnd]

You just have to laugh at yourself with him when you realize you are being *silly* (how I like to phrase it to my bf). I also recommend just voicing your concerns openly and bluntly when you have them because it's easier for your bf to clear it up, u 2 laugh about it, and everyone feel better. I ask my bf at least once a day if he's mad at me, but he always says, "No I love you. You haven't done anything" and I say "I must be being silly" and we laugh. I always feel a lot better and a i think he likes knowing he helped so easily. Plus turning it into a joke keeps it from becoming nagging and annoying! Hope that helps!