anyone want to adopt and still ttc?!?!

[charmain.canfield]

My DH and I have been TTC for 5 years and we are just starting the foster to adopt route here in ohio:-) We are super excited but nervous at the same time.

[MHootie]

So if one of the perspective adoptive parents had been sexually abused as a child, would that count against them when trying to adopt? I was reading the Adoption board and I saw that it was brought up and that it CAN affect the process. Is this true??

At least in Texas, it would definitely NOT count against a person. They just want to make sure that the issues have been resolved and there is a plan in place to prevent contact with the abuser, if applicable. Caseworkers want to know the good and bad. There is no perfect family and if everything appears that way, that's a red flag.

[cleeszoooo]

At least in Texas, it would definitely NOT count against a person. They just want to make sure that the issues have been resolved and there is a plan in place to prevent contact with the abuser, if applicable. Caseworkers want to know the good and bad. There is no perfect family and if everything appears that way, that's a red flag.

yep... be honest and they will work with you...

[ChristinaLee]

Oceanicsix--I agree with the pp's about the abuse issue.


This thread makes me so happy! It's fun knowing that there are so many of us all with similiar hearts & goals!! Anyone else out there?
I can't wait to hear as everyones stories as things progress!

[theOceanicSix]

Thanks girls. I was seriously worrying about it last night.
charmaine, I'd be interested in hearing how that goes for you! We're in Ohio too and will probably adopt from here next year.

[andieromano]

Friends in TX had trouble ttc for a few years and once they adopted got pg with their 2nd biol. My parents tried for years and once they put their names for adoption, had me. I've thought about it since I was little, as my parents divorced and I had friends who were either adopted or came from broken homes. I guess that's why I have such a passion for children of broken backgrounds. I'll parent as many children as God will let me!

[ChristinaLee]

Ditto: I'll parent as many kids as God will let me too!

[MHootie]

Ok girls....we are taking the plunge!! I didn't think DH would be so open to it this time after many strained conversations. But we are starting the classes Sept 26!! I think he has realized, or God has spoken to him, that it's going to be a really tough road. We will start trying again for our own in January but my mind and body needs a break. Seriously. We will be moving after he graduates but by the end of the year so we agreed not to take any kids until after New Years. I am just so freaking excited I can't stand it. Since I work for CPS there are a few hoops but I know that when that precious child is put in my arms, it will all be worth it. Anyone else decided??

~Michelle

[ChristinaLee]

I think I'm going to mention it again to DH and see how he is feeling about it lately. When we had gone to the first meeting about it, several months ago, and we both felt emotionally we weren't ready...but I'm hoping he is feeling more ready...but of course I wouldn't push it on him. It worries me that I wouldn't be able to take off of work very often for court visits and parent visits. I guess we would learn in the class about how often those types of visits are.

I'm so anxious to start! I'm so ready to love on some kiddos for as long as God has for them to be with us...hopefully God has a permenant placement for us!!!

Ladies keep us updated! This thread makes me so excited!

[cleeszoooo]

I think I'm going to mention it again to DH and see how he is feeling about it lately. When we had gone to the first meeting about it, several months ago, and we both felt emotionally we weren't ready...but I'm hoping he is feeling more ready...but of course I wouldn't push it on him. It worries me that I wouldn't be able to take off of work very often for court visits and parent visits. I guess we would learn in the class about how often those types of visits are.

I'm so anxious to start! I'm so ready to love on some kiddos for as long as God has for them to be with us...hopefully God has a permenant placement for us!!!

Ladies keep us updated! This thread makes me so excited!

as far as visits, where I am CYF has transporters that will pick up/drop off at daycare(if your working) If any of you has more questions about doing foster care please visit/register at www.fosterparents.com the women there are sooo wonderful and helpful...

ps I have the same user name there

[ChristinaLee]

MHootie--i forgot to say congratulations!!!!

Cleeszooo--thank you so much for that info! I can't wait to get off of work so that I can go check out that website!!

[ChristinaLee]

Theoceanicsix--today I got the book Adopted for life...I'm only in chapter 2 but it is AWESOME!! I've already cried a ton reading it, it really hits home with me. Thank you again for reccomending it to me! I can't wait to read more!

Mhootie--your classes start soon! I bet you and DH are so excited, I know I would be!

Anyone else have any news, updates or thoughts on this topic?!? Remember to keep us updated!

[theOceanicSix]

I'm so glad you like it, Christina!!

[dkim1986]

does anyone ahs a list of good adoption, foster books, i know some were mentioned in the thread, but it is taking to long to flip back through them TIA

[melindaleigh]

DH and I went to our first Adoption orientation class last week to adopt through the state of FL.

In that meeting, they mentioned that some of the best books are Three Little Words, and Parenting or Adopting? the Hurt Child.

I just bought twenty things adopted kids wish their parents knew. I haven't started reading it yet though.