*sigh* Love, love, love...How did you meet your man/his thoughts on pcos?

e.nigma · 06-26-2009, 04:03 AM

So I haven't been here in a while, but I always forget how wonderful soulcysters makes me feel. Just knowing that there are girls/women out there like me....it's just SUCH a relief.

So anyway, being 19 and having a ton of time to do nothing, my mind turns to thinking of love and boys, or lack of them in my life. Especially because even in my daydreams, I'm very practical and always think of the hair, the fat, the acne - and how all three have found places EVERYWHERE on my body. Seriously, wherever possible you can find all three.

So to uplift my mood as only other girls can do, I was wondering whether any of you beautiful girls can share your stories of love - how you guys met, where you guys met, was it at first sight, do they know about your PCOS, do the effects on the body bother them?

Yes I know, I'm not normally a sap. But hey - hormones

Love you all!

Tikki · 06-26-2009, 12:01 PM

My husband and I met in Math class at Art college... but it wasent love until he glued a roll of toilet paper to school wall... *snickers*

Actually, we started talking one day in math--(the teacher asked if we were getting married), and after he asked if I want to grab some pizza down the block. When we got there, there was one of those quarter machines with cheap aluminum rings. He put a quarter in, and got an electric blue ring. He got down on one knee and asked me to marry him. Jokingly of course. Well, 1.5 years later we actually did get married.

I still have the ring though.

As for the weight and pcos, well. Shortly after we "got together" I got severe case of tonsilitis-- I was on a 6 week program on prnzone(spelling??) with high doses---this didnt even work, but it did cause me to have roid rage and to gain over 20lbs. We survived through that <3. Also, he does see the hair soemtimes. I lucked out in that he has one damaged eye, so he really cannot see clearly unless he is very close. But he does notice now and then, but doesnt seem to care. I used to use dipilitory cream in obvious spots (my mustache), and pluck my chin---but now I just use one of those bakini trimmers. The hair isent too bad there. My worst spot is my belly... I sware ill never get to wear a bakini again! (not that I would until i lost a bunch more weight).

So, dont worry, it really is personality that counts.

College helps too. I find that if you smile alot, more people will be receptive of you (real smile, non of this 'im doped up on suger and caffiene' smiles

You will find your love.

kapuakea · 06-26-2009, 03:49 PM

Mine plucks my chin/facial hairs out for me. We lay on the bed together and he pluck pluck plucks! lol

Corvidae · 06-26-2009, 05:55 PM

Romance is a wonderous thing -- I met my man on Netmeeting. Two webcams, an expensive memory upgrade, and a peculiar way of chatting on ICQ with the keyboard and watching each other on the cameras on Netmeeting with the occasional bit of garbled laughter and more than a few encounters with the blue screen of death, and we fell for each other.

He was an Australian in London, England and I was a small town redneck tomboy from Nowhere, Minnesota. I threw any shred of good sense I ever had to the wind and I got a passport and a plane ticket and flew to London to meet him. I almost didn't come back when my holiday was over. I moved to London later that year and we married a year to the day from our first chat. It was the most wonderous, crazy, magical adventure.

That was 12 years ago, and I'd like to say we stayed together and has lots of sex and babies, but not every fairy tale has a happy ending. We parted after few years having discovered that we weren't really meant to be together forever. And PCOS was too much for him too, he made more than a few cracks about excess body hair. I could probably grow a better beard now than he could.

The divorce wasn't much fun, but that was many years ago now and, despite that, I have no regrets. I've stayed in England and spend my spare time pretending I'm on a permanent holiday.

Someday, I may go back to Nowhere, Minnesota -- if I get bored here -- but then I don't see that happening anytime soon. If I find another man that I think I can live with (and mind you I'm a bit pickier now) I may get married again... but then maybe I won't. What I do know is that I intend to be used up, worn out, and ready for a rest when my name hits the top of the Grim Reaper's list.

februarystar · 06-26-2009, 10:58 PM

I went on a first date with my partner a week or two before I was diagnosed. He obviously didn't care that I had a big belly, too much hair and some acne on my neck because we got serious only a month or so after.

Darlow-babe · 06-27-2009, 08:27 PM

I met dh on a website called interrodate and we started chatting in november 2006, he lived near london and i lived near manchester we decided to meet up in january 2007, he was supposed to stay at mine for the weekend and he ended up staying a week. I went down to see him in febuary and he took me out for a meal and proposed i said yes. He moved up in april 2007, and we started planning our wedding for originally 2009, but we decided to have it in october 2008 instead cant remember why we changed the date.
As for the pcos i got diagnosed in september 2007, but i had the symptoms for many years before but they never picked up on it.
Me and dh went to the hospital and he got the results same time as me and he has been ever so supportive. Best partner i could ask for. I was put on metformin and was told to go back in september 2008, in that year id lost 2 1/2 stones, but the symptoms were getting worse shaving my face, chest and belly every 3 days. My hair growth on my face was and still is worse than my husbands, but he's never minded me shaving in front of him. When we went back in sept 08 the gyny dr said that i cant concieve on my own and that he didnt want to see me in his office again until id lost 6 stone. I learned about clomid through this site in january this year and went 2 my gp blagged his head and he gave me some. Did 2 cycles of clomid 50mg and concieved (proved the gyny wrong !!!!) Unfortunatly our little bean ended in m/c last month. But im waiting for af to show and then im on clomid again and determined to be pregnant by decmber 2009.

Sorry for my long story.

Indira · 06-27-2009, 09:15 PM

My hubby and I met at a night club. It was a Friday night when I had just gotten off work, I was in jeans and a over sized sweatshirt. Looking pretty bad for a Friday night. So we met and talked on the phone a couple times, he asked me to go out to lunch one day and guess what??? I HATED HIM!!!! I thought he was the most annoying guy on the planet!!

So we didn't talk for like 3 or 4 months and one day I picked up the phone and called him. I gave him a second chance and the rest is history. We have been together now for almost 7 years, 3 years married, 1 boy and another baby on the way.

MommyDreams08 · 06-27-2009, 09:24 PM

I met my df through our cousins, my cousin was doing my hair and she was like " Girl I got a great guy for you to meet!" it was her boyfriend's cousin. My df is such a wonderful guy, he loves me despite me being hairy and a bit fluffy. He says he doesn't care how much hair I grow, he'll always love me. And he even offers to pluck me

. I never have to be ashamed around him, he actually gets piping mad when I try to hide my body, he says in his eyes I am beautiful, the first time a man ever said that to me. That's my best friend in the world, he has been so supportive of me, I can only hope to be half as supportive and comforting as he is to me!

Darlow-babe · 06-28-2009, 09:20 AM

sounds like we all got good men by our sides ladies

Mills89 · 06-28-2009, 09:54 AM

I met mine last year online playing "World of Warcraft". We did a little flirting then i told him i liked him, turns out he liked me too! We met online on Feb 3rd, I developed a crush and told him on March 30, He was coming down in mid May to meet me, and i was just straight up with him, he didn't mind at all! (I didn't see what he looked like until a week before he came down, and by that point i was already falling in love with him)

So we met in May, Fell in love <3, He came down in June for my Birthday and he moved down in the July!

And we've been going strong ever since, he had to learn alot about PCOS and had to deal with my crazy hormones, but he's an amazing man and always see's past it.

I never thought i'd meet someone, i was too flawed. But it turns out there are some men out there who will love you for who you are

ginettelg · 06-28-2009, 11:53 AM

My boyfriend had been admiring me for a looong time before we even met. He was too shy to approach me, so one day, his friend decided to set us up on a date. We ended up driving to a beach and talking. After that "date", he asked for my phone number and we have been together for 4 and a half years. He is the best friend I could ever ask for and a wonderful man. I told him about my pcos and he was very supportive. I even had 2 miscarriages while with him and am now expecting our first child. He loves for who I am. I am fluffy as well and occasionally have hairs growing on weird placed on my face, and he even offers to pluck them as well. There are men out there that can't take the stress of pcos, but I thank God that my man loves me for who I am and is very supportive of me.

MommyDreams08 · 06-28-2009, 05:03 PM

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Originally Posted by Darlow-babe

sounds like we all got good men by our sides ladies

We're some lucky ladies to have such good men! I agree Leeanne!

babebelle06 · 06-29-2009, 11:53 PM

My boyfriend and I met back in early Feb. we talked 24/7 we went on a few dates but like a loser i went back to my ex.. needless to say I couldn't stop thinking or talking about Geoff and so about 2 months ago me and Geoff decided to make it offical after i dumped my boyfriend of course.. but I have been sick so long and Geoff knew I was and he was with me when I got the dignosis of PCOS and Endo. He is very supportive he helps me take care of my Diabetes by checking my sugar and keeping up with my medicines and my doctors appointments. He tells me that if God wants us to have children we will.. just gotta put our faith in him. He is soo good to me I just love him and I hope one day we will get married.

thegumbiecat · 06-30-2009, 08:45 PM

I met my boyfriend on second life.... so i think i top the wow player here in nerdiness hahaha

anyways he loves me for who i am, and the rest is just hugs and skittles. He's upset to see me struggling and wishes he could do more. I just wish he'd do better at fighting his fast food demon around me.

anyways at 19...don't sweat love. and personal advice from my own stupidity, don't get married before 25. enjoy your youth while you're young.

Alilly80 · 07-10-2009, 12:43 AM

I met my fiance in college. I was diagnosed with PCOS after we had been together for a couple of years. He understands my issues with the excess hair and infertility and thinks I'm beautiful, even without makeup! He agreed to laser hair removal for me, which puts quite a dent in our finances. And he loves my rear-end, which is actually one of the hairiest parts of me. We have been together for almost 10 years and he's the best thing that has ever happened to me!