*sigh* Love, love, love...How did you meet your man/his thoughts on pcos? - Page 2

Cathleen · 07-10-2009, 12:58 AM

I met my BF when I was 16. I was diagnosed Oct of last year, he held me while i cried outside the doc. office. He has been great, checking if I have taken my meds, telling me im beautiful when I feel fat and ugly. Im such a lucky girl.

Mishee · 07-10-2009, 04:17 AM

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Originally Posted by thegumbiecat

I met my boyfriend on second life.... so i think i top the wow player here in nerdiness hahaha

Maybe, but I don't think you can beat me. My fiance and I met in a college marching band. Hooray band nerds!

We were friends first, knew each other from marching band, we had overlapping groups of friends.... eventually after he and his gf broke up and my relationship with my bf was going down the crapper, he asked me out to a movie and we've had a great time since. That was four years ago.

He's been with me all this time, even though I had acne when we met, I gained a ridiculous amount of weight, been so sick from medications that I couldn't work or leave the house, he deals with the hormonal stuff, and just recently he was a trooper as I had brain surgery to remove a pituitary tumor. We even did the long distance thing for three years. He's amazing. I'm so glad there's guys out there like that. I hope we all find wonderful guys!

jendix78 · 07-10-2009, 08:48 AM

Too funny... I have to hop on the nerd band wagon. My husband and I met playing Everquest 2. I actually started playing Star Wars Galaxies years ago, and my roommate and I met up with this group of Aussies and started playing together and became good friends. We played with them for about 3 years then moved onto Everquest 2. At that time, one of the players had another roommate who started playing as well... and we hit it off. We started chatting non stop, but it was always just friendly. After about two years we decided to meet in person. I lived in NYC, him in Australia. We both flew to Vegas and had the most amazing 10 days ever. We both knew we were meant to be. We kept chatting, and I flew to Australia a few months later when he proposed. He moved here, we married, and almost 3 years later now - I have never been happier.
As far as my PCOS, he is so supportive. He has plucked hairs for me, and doesn't mind that I shave. He has been there every step of the way while going through all the fertility stuff. He doesn't mind the extra weight, and helps keep me motivated working out and eating right. I asked him how he would feel if we could never have a kid... he told me all he needed was me and we'd have a wonderful life with a child or not.
There are men out there who will love you no matter what. Don't give up hope

TheNewMrs. · 07-10-2009, 09:08 AM

I actually went to Junior High and High School with DH, but at that time we never spoke - hung out with different people. ACTUALLY, I had a "crush" on one of his BEST friends ever since that time (7th grade). One day I braved it (well, sorta) and had a friend "ask out" this guy I liked for me. Well, apparently DH (someone I obviously didn't know well/like at the time) states "don't go out with her!"...and the boy said no. LOL

WELL, being in the same grade we actually went different directions to college. He went north in our state and I went south - still only about 3 hours apart really. Sophomore year, I moved into an apartment with a female friend of mine (who'd I'd known since kindergarden), but was also a high school friend of his. One weekend she decided to have her "group" of friends down to party with us. DH and I stayed up when everyone else had went to bed. "Neither of us were tired yet." LOL We were watching some romance movie (that's how I knew he had a crush on me at that point) and were laying on different couches across the room. Then a few minutes later, he started throwing pretzels at me. LOL Here we are, sophmores in college and he's throwing pretzels at me to get my attention!! Guys.

SO, we started dating...dated about 3 months, when I broke up with him to date that SAME guy I had asked out and been turned down by in Junior High! LOL DH and I spoke on and off that summer, but only once or twice when we ran into each other.

The very next year, 1 year after the first time we dated (exactly), I decided with this mutual girl-friend that I lived with that I really really wanted DH back as my boyfriend and that I was stupid to leave him (this HUGE crush on the other guy - well, the other guy turned out to be TOTALLY not what I wanted at all - after 8 years of a crush!!). We drove 2 hours that NIGHT to our mutual hometown where he was at still (one break from college for Thanksgiving weekend). I told him I was sorry and asked him back.

Needless to say, it was rocky at first and there was a lack of trust, because he thought I might leave again for any other guy, BUT we've been together since November 2004 and married since January of 2009. We're are completely in love. It's amazing. I think back and all through Junior High, High School...and even when we first started hanging out in college that I NEVER would have dated this person...but it's amazing how alike we are and how well we get along. Things have only gotten better.

...as for everything else - PCOS. He knows about everything. I don't broadcast that I shave everyday, etc, but he knows. You can't be in a deep committed relationship without them knowing. He doesn't mind. He's madly in love with me.

heather07 · 07-10-2009, 01:49 PM

My husband and I met online almost 9 years ago! We are so alike in our interests and emotions that we are definitely best friends. He's very supportive of me with my PCOS, but does make the occasional comment when I'm plucking my chin. He thinks he's just being silly, but stuff like that can hurt sometimes. Now we are trying to start a family, and he's with me 100% on that.

Rose_Bud · 07-11-2009, 04:09 PM

My boyfriend is helping me to figure out what's wrong with me. I haven't been diagnosed yet, but he's done a lot of researching of PCOS, too, and when there's a symptom I have, he'll say "that's the same thing you have..." "this sounds just like you!" We are long distance and I went to be with him in the same city this summer, but we decided I should go back home to take care of my health and figure out what's wrong with me. He's really been trying to help me deal with excess body hair, hair loss on my head, eating healthy and exercising. He knows I'm embarrassed by some of these symptoms, but he says I'm still his beautiful girl. I'm determined to see my gyno this week. If I am officially diagnosed, I hope it won't be too much for him, because he recognizes how tough this can be to live with.

Toots192 · 07-11-2009, 04:28 PM

I met my DH in college like a lot of people. He saw me reading my New Testament and decided to introduce himself even though he had noticed me many times before. We ran into each other all the time and he asked me out like 3-4 times before I finally agreed to go out with him like 1.5 years later. We were engaged 1.5 years after starting to date and we just got married this spring. He loves me despite all my hairs and pimples. Don't worry E. Nigma - you will find love! You are still young. And if someone really loves you he will love you in spite of your PCOS symptoms.

1momwannabe · 07-11-2009, 04:34 PM

Thegunbiecat! You are not a nerd for playing wow. Trust me ! A 69 rogue lol-

Oh, and I met my DH in yahoo personals !! Lol! Only 7 months later we were getting married. And it has been about two years, he didnt care neither if i had a belly and some mild acne haha!

loving.me · 07-11-2009, 05:27 PM

I needed to read this. LOL *cries*

sinnie · 07-13-2009, 03:11 PM

enigma: love your avatar. I love that Hellsing anime!! Alucard is super cool!

I met my husband in an internet teen chatroom sometime around the age of 13, but officially started dating when I was 15 (long distance.) We met a few times, after I turned 19 and got married when I was 20. We'll be married for 5yrs in October, together for 10 in September. I'm happy with my husband! He thinks PCOS sucks and hates what it does to my body, but still loves me and thinks of me as sexy which I can't get over even now.
We don't have kids, no hurry in it currently, so hoping the PCOS isn't too bad when it comes to that later on.

ReverseTheCurse · 07-15-2009, 05:44 PM

My ex and I were together nearly three years, and he was incredibly supportive. Although I know it bothered him.. he always tried to get me to lose weight, (at the time I was 40 pounds heavier than I am now). The truth is, men are visual. They will always be drawn to women that possess the traits that they are innately wired to desire. ie large breasts, healthy hair, smooth skin, .7 hip to waist ratio. It's just the way the animal kingdom works.

It's difficult for me to date now, as I've worked my ass off (literally) and gotten that staple "hot body." I think I'll always deal with hursitism but I have it under control.. anyway now that I'm "hot" I get substantially more attention from the opposite sex and it makes me resentful. I know why, as I described already, they are drawn to me, but it still hurts. When I was heavier and didn't know anything about fashion or how to take care of my skin properly.. I never got a second glance. I can't help but feel bitter.

Poor me right? I've finally reached that look that I always thought I wanted. But I've come to realize that it's funny.. what you think you want often times materializes and then you realize, you gave it far too much credit. Beauty is an illusion, and sometimes I'd rather just be the way I was and live happily with an absence of superficiality.The problem is I love kicking PCOS's rear, and feeling beautiful. In the end however when it comes to men, being desired for how great you look feels just as rotten as being shunned for being fat and hairy. I can't win.

So! I've resorted to celibacy and making myself happy. I haven't had sex or dated in two years, and I've been focusing on my career and building my business. I've never been happier and I don't need to fulfill some kind of traditional role that the flock follows. I don't want to be chased for my uterus anyway, I don't want children. I'm satisfied being alone. Being a self fulfilling bachelorette is my path, I love it.

But don't listen to me, I'm sure some people are living that fairytale love story, either that or they're delusional and think they are lol

mbeth426 · 07-16-2009, 01:21 AM

I met my boyfriend on OkCupid in March 2007. I was just there to meet people in general, while he was looking for potential girlfriends. We chatted online for about 2 weeks and then met up in person. He was interested in me from the get go and I said I wanted to wait until we met in person. Well, obviously the chemistry was there and we've been together since. Our relationship isn't exactly easy due to circumstances out of our control right now, but it'll get better in a couple years.

I'm not exactly sure when I told him I have PCOS, but it had to be pretty early on in the relationship because I'm all about being up front and honest. Ever since I was a little kid I never wanted to have kids of my own anyway, so it doesn't really bother me too much, but I like the option to still be there just in case. I especially don't want kids of my own now because of the health issues in my family and I don't want to pass it down anymore; diabetes, mental illness, PCOS (my dad's mother died of uteran cancer)....it's too much and I don't want my child or grandchild to go through it. I say, let it end with me. My bf was cool with the idea of adopting, so we had no issues there.

He is Vietnamese and I'm Caucasian, so we'd really like to adopt a child from Vietnam, but we'll see what happens down the road.

My bf has no problem with my weight, except when it bothers me. He doesn't like to see me being upset over it. It's been nearly a life long battle for me and I'll probably never get down to the ideal weight for my height due to my extremely low metabolism and other complications. That's yet one more reason why I never want to get pregnant because I know I'll gain even more weight and it'll just be even harder to lose after pregnancy; more like nearly impossible.

e.nigma · 07-16-2009, 06:18 AM

This was great! To all those gals who told me to not worry - I don't

I hope I will find love someday. It's funny because my first and only relationship lasted for a month (I broke up with him because he just wasn't right) but it taught me that I have so much time and that I value my independence and being alone.

I just thought it would be a nice change to hear some positive stories once in a while.

Cheers!

punkylovesjohn · 07-21-2009, 04:54 PM

You hear all of these horror stories about meeting people on craigslist right? Well, that's where I met mine. I had just broken up with a CRAZY man after a looong list of failed dating attempts with psychopaths and my ad on craigslist was more of a rant than an actual attempt at love. My ad was like a list of things that I hated about men and how if ONE man could prove to be normal and actually have a job, car, and home of his own I would date him. To my surprise I got about 40 replies and Johns stuck out like a heavenly light in a thunderstorm. We went on a date, went out to eat, grabbed a movie and took it back to my place and watched about the first five minutes of it (although I do not recommend this type of behavior on a first date to anyone else lol) and the rest is history. He owned his own home and I had an apartment that I never lived at after that until my lease was up and I could finally stop paying for it. It was love at first sight.

He met me far after I had been dx with PCOS and I am 6' and weigh 285 lbs. There are men out there who love you for you. They are a little bit harder to find, but once you find them it makes the struggle all worth it and you appreciate them that much more.

Sarrahhh · 07-22-2009, 12:43 AM

Kapu - mine does the same. He helps me pluck with tweezers... we tried home wax but doesn't work and he bought me one of those epilation machines which he likes to use on me but it makes a loud scary noise and hurts but when he sees the hair (if I have let it go or gotten lazy- he gets it out LOL)

So cute. Mine has been really good even through the weight gain which I had before I was diagnosed....it was a traumatic time but once I was diagnosed got on the met and low gi eating my life changed... the weight came off...

The hair problems however have stayed. I still lose head hair and no longer have THICK hair and I think I'll always have the chin,nipple and thicker than averaage leg and arem hair but manageable...sometimes the extra hair makes me sad but there are worse things. I think the worst for me was the weight gain and the head hairloss.

Unfortuantely some men will be superficial but it may be a good way of weeding out the ones who dont' really love you .