*sigh* Love, love, love...How did you meet your man/his thoughts on pcos? - Page 3

kapuakea · 07-22-2009, 12:45 AM

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Originally Posted by Sarrahhh

...some men will be superficial but it may be a good way of weeding out the ones who dont' really love you .

Could not agree more!

mrs_good06 · 07-22-2009, 01:59 AM

I met my DH when I was a freshmen in high school. His friends and him thought it would be amazingly cool to flick nickles across the hall during lunch. As fate would have it... his nickle hit me in the head. I open my eyes to this huge 6'2" senior guy in my face.

All I could think to say was, "Don't hurt me. I don't know where your nickle went!" He laughed and said, "I was making sure you were okay. I don't care about the nickle."

We talked everyday since then. He would pass me notes in between class. Our first date was his senior prom in May 2001. We were married on March 11, 2006 (I was 20 and he was 23). We have been married 3.5 years and altogether 8.5 years. My husband is a wonderful man. He helped me through nursing school by supporting me and working full time.

After graduating school in 2008... I wanted to start having children. I went off birth control in September 2008. I was diagnosed with PCOS in May 2009. It has been emotional because my mother had PCOS, and it took her six years to get me. Her doctor told her she might as well give up because it was a one in a million chance for her to get pregnant. I hope it doesn't take us that long. Plus, I want more than one! Travis thinks PCOS sucks, and he just holds me when I'm emotional. I don't think he totally gets the whole process of it or how much it effects me. He tries bless his heart!!

Katie, 23
PCOS dx: May 2009
Metformin 1,500mg at bedtime since 05/09

StudentNurseGirl · 07-22-2009, 02:47 AM

I met my boyfriend online in 2007, on fusion101.com. We started chatting and skyping with one another as just friends and did so for six months before I drove three hours to meet him and we started hanging out. After we had gone out together twice, (about three weeks apart) we decided to try dating.... and at this point we are approaching the point of getting engaged, and have been dating for close to two years.
I had been dating him for about a year when i found out I had PCOS- I had suspected it for awhile but didn't know for sure. He is very supportive. I struggled with body image a lot for awhile- and to help me feel better about my body- well, first, he thinks I am pretty and beautiful- and thought so when I was my heaviest of 219lbs when he met me... and he didn't care if I was that heavy or if I lost weight... i was beautiful to him all the same- but he had me take pictures of myself- my arms, legs, parts i thought looked fat, unattractive- and the parts I liked- just all of me- and give them to him... and he went through them and liked all of them- and wanted me to take pictures so that I could see my progress of weight loss as time went on.
He also doesn't care that I have to shave my face every couple of days- it bothers ME to shave it in front of him- but it doesn't bother him... and he knows I may or may not be able to easily have kids- and he's ok with that too.

A lot of us definitely have really sweet guys!

FaeSpirit · 07-22-2009, 02:51 AM

I met Ray when he was my boss at work! It was later revealed that we both had intense crushes on each other, but he thought he never would have a chance with me because I said he looked grumpy. Plus, he had a girlfriend at the time. Sadly, she hurt him really bad and I was there, as a friend, to help him through it. Then, one day, we decided to at least start dating. 3 month later we were a couple.

He knows bits and pieces of my symptoms of PCOS, but I have never gone into full detail. I don't think he really care all that much. By that I mean, as long as I am doing all that I can to be healthy for me, he's very supportive. Physical/Cosmetic hang-ups I have with myself, he really doesn't care about it, he truly likes me for me.

XxRaeRaeXx · 07-22-2009, 03:03 AM

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Originally Posted by 1momwannabe

Thegunbiecat! You are not a nerd for playing wow. Trust me ! A 69 rogue lol-

Oh, and I met my DH in yahoo personals !! Lol! Only 7 months later we were getting married. And it has been about two years, he didnt care neither if i had a belly and some mild acne haha!

80 Horde mage here << Lmao and although i didnt meet my DBF through WoW we do play together

My Dbf is my friends cousin..i need to thank him someday for introducing us (even though i dont think he knew we would end up dating lol)

sillyliltickles · 07-22-2009, 12:53 PM

hey ladies...aww this Thread sounds fun!

I met my husband when I worked at a casino. I was a floor server and he did custodial work in the Basement. It wasn't really apropriate to talk with or date the custodial guys especially when you were a Beverage Server(short skirts and boobie tops) we were THE Girls of the Casino! hahaha Its funny how much it reminded me of High school! Anyways....I thought he was kind of a nerd, but decided to hang out with him after about a month of taking breaks at work together!(I had a good for nothing BF at home by the way) One thing lead to another I kicked my BF out, moved in with DH 2 months later, got engaged 2 months later then that, and got married 8months after that!! We just got married in January of this year.

I had sorta talked to him about PCOS in the beginning but it all got confusing for him so I broke it down like this....I have man hormones LOL I grow hair in places I shouldn't which you have never seen cuz I pluck everyday! My weight goes up and down and its super hard to lose and super fast to gain! I am moody to the point that I AM A MEAN GIRL! I will more then likely need help gettign pregnant!

He has been so sweet, encouraging and very interested in PCOS the past couple months especially since we are TTC. Grrrr what a Battle. He wishes he could do more for me also....but him just being there as my Best friend, Hubby and my punching bag is all I need from him! LOL

Another thing I wanted to add is that if you are positive about yourelf and have confidence in yourself you shine to alot of people. People are really attracted to that! A guy who thinks our symptoms and the things we have to go through are Gross...is totally not worth it! Don't waste ur time on LOSERS! I spent a lot of time with losers and didn't realize how easy life and love was until i met my DH.

Oh yea~ I got frustrated when people told me Im young and have plenty of time..blah blah blah! Most PCOS sufferers do! Thats why I don't know why I still here it thru the boards...hahaha thats funny to me! All of us know that these things don't go away and things will be easier when lets say...we are 25 or so...C'mon! and we all know that TTC can be a huge challenge, as well as everythign else that comes along with PCOS. No matter how much we tell ourselves we need to be independent and don't need love.....live life blah blah Most of the Human population succeeds and lives alot happier with a Companion by your side. Sorry just my thoughts I guess.

You will find someone perfect for you who will except you for you...Promise!!

MDC05 · 07-23-2009, 10:56 PM

These stories are great, but I'm, of course, biased towards my own romance...

My DH and I met on eHarmony senior year of college. We were 6 hours away from eachother, and I'll try to make a very long story short. We spent tons of time talking on the phone before we met face to face. I told him so many things, including the fact I have PCOS. (He's the kind of guy that would like to be like that family the Duggards - meaning he wants LOTS of kids, so I thought it was fair to tell him up front that I may have issues TTC).

We met face to face and got engaged very, very soon afterwards - okay, it was the same day. We were engaged for a few months, and I just didn't feel peace about it. I broke it off with him, even though I loved him like crazy. I had prayed about it and it just didn't feel right. He kept telling me he knew I was "the one." I told him if God brought us back together, I'd know that was true.

Eventually, I moved away and I changed my phone number because he wouldn't stop calling. I starting dating another guy, and after I got my last email from my (now) DH, I told him I was seeing others and he should too. About a year later (no longer dating new guy), I talked to my dad who was living out in Montana, and he told me he had talked to him, and that he had been on a missions trip. His base camp for the group was out near my dad in MT, and he thought this guy was lonely and just wanted to talk to someone familiar. Dad said he didn't ask about me, but dad knew he wanted to...maybe he was respecting my need for silence.

I kinda felt like dad had betrayed me. Talking to my ex? How could he? Just at that time, I was reading a book called "Captivating" and I was seriously convicted about some of the attitudes I had in our relationship. I tried to get a hold of him to apologize, but with no luck. He never returned my email....well not until 6 weeks later! He said he hadn't checked his email for a long time, but was glad he did. A year and half after I broke up with him...that's how long we didn't speak.

We emailed for about two weeks, then we started talking by phone for about a week, and by the end of the week, he had, without telling me, no joke, quit his job in TN to move out to VA where I was. I had told him it was okay if he looked for jobs near my area, but he totally surprised me by really doing it. He found a place to live that week. He proposed to me (again) 3 weeks later on August 4. We got married September 23 of that year.

He told me that all along, his friends and family kept telling him to give me up. He kept telling them that he knew that God said I was the one. They didn't belive him. Heck, I didn't either. He said he prayed and prayed, and finally gave it up to God, but he never stopped believing I was "the one." I'm so thankful for his faith and faithfulness over the situation. I thought if we were meant to be together, God would make us run into eachother on a street corner. I'm thankful He did it by healing my heart and allowing me to let true love enter a place of bitterness and distrust.

This year will be 3 years married for us. He has never complained we haven't had kids yet. He sees past my weight, and my hair, and the skin issues, and he loves me for me. He's so supportive of my efforts (whatever they are at the moment). He's kind and an amazing guy, and I wish every girl could have someone like him.

Seriously, that is the reader's digest version of our love story. There's so much more, I should write a book, but I won't do it here.

Pnksunflrws4ever · 07-24-2009, 08:56 AM

My husband and I have just celebrated our One year as of July 12th.

We met in 9th grade through some friends and he was interested in me, but I was not interested in him. More into the Bad boys and ones with sexy accents. We graduated from High school and that summer our friends set up for us to all hang out at a local Hookah lounge and sat me right next to him. I saw him and a there was a little flicker of a flame as I slowly realized I was interested in him. I spent that entire night trying to get his attention and he was WAY too interested in the Hookah! I told me girlfriend that I was interested in him and she was shocked, because she knew how much he liked me. We started dating the next week and that quickly flourished into a beautiful romance. We moved in together in October 2007, he proposed in March 2008 in Disney World, and we married in July 2008.

We just found out that I have PCOS in March 2009. He has been so supportive through everything. The acne and the hair, it has been so embarassing for me, but he has made me remeber that beauty is more than skin deep. He still doesn't realize that you just can't take a pill and your fixed, but we're working on it.

I love him more and more everyday. I find it so funny how love can just happen all of a sudden when you least expect it. We are meant to be and God made sure for us to find eachother.

When you find that man, you'll just know too!

PUFFIN_KISSES · 08-09-2009, 11:25 AM

I met my Trent in my drive way. It was more like a phone interview the night before. A friend hooked us up! We've been together ever since. 3 years and some odd months ago. Its been kinda rough but we <3 eachother. Were getting married in DEC.

Greatest Hits · 08-10-2009, 08:22 PM

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I first met DH in high school through marching band and he eventually became one of my closest friends. We were always together but never had any real desire to date. He eventually had a girlfriend and I had a MAJOR crush on another guy friend.

Well... Eventually his gf broke up with him and I realized the hard way that my crush was never going to reciprocate my feelings so we spent some time consoling each other. One day he came out of the blue and told me he loved me and wanted to try dating. I turned him down right away. I still didn't want to go down that road with him and I didn't want to date him "on the rebound" if you know what I mean. So he let it go and we continued on as if nothing happened.

After a visit to my house to hang out my mother made a "if you can't date your best friend who can you date?" comment and I brought the subject up again the following day. I agreed to give this dating thing a try and see where it went. But at the moment I still could not say "I love you" back to him. Just wasn't there yet. So we became a couple in early June of 2003 and we eventually got married November 2008.

It was NOT "love at first sight". The first time I saw the boy I'd eventually marry, I felt very intimidated. He was so TINY with BIIIIG glasses. I thought he was a 10 year old prodigy that skipped several grades to enter high school. I was nervous that he'd be all arrogant and "smarter than thou".

Turns out he was our age and had not skipped any grades...yet he was still a gifted child and every bit as smart as I feared. Though sometimes people assumed the worst in him, he never intentionally tried to make anyone feel bad. He certainly never made ME feel bad. There is no denying he has more booksmarts than I do. But he's always very supportive of me and is appreciative of my talents as well. I think he enjoys my optimism and that I haven't lost my inner child. I can tell I've rubbed off on him a little. Plus he actually wears the stuff I knit for him...willingly! Even the sweater!

No more glasses though...and he's taller than me now. The years have treated him well and he's grown up to be pretty cute.

As for PCOS...it's been a long running joke between us that I ended up with his missing testosterone (he's about as effeminate as I am masculine). He worries about my weight a lot but it's more for health reasons than cosmetic. The only thing that bothers me is that he doesn't really understand just how difficult weight loss is for me. But I can't really blame him for it because he's never ever been overweight and his metabolism is ridiculously fast. Though it helped to put things in perspective when we found out how many WW Points he consumes on an average day compared to my daily allotment (way more than he thought).

We're currently not TTC but we use fertility awareness methods instead of BC. Using these methods with PCOS can be a chore because the ovulation signs come and go in waves without ovulation occurring. He's very patient and isn't really all that needy (if you know what I mean) so what could be a sexual nightmare actually isn't that bad. Actually I'm a little needier than he is. ^^>

He's awesome and I'm so glad to have him in my life.

Sareybear · 08-10-2009, 09:31 PM

My husband was the brother of a girl in our "circle" that I really didn't care for. He gave me a ride home from school one day and he got grounded. His sister and I went to a Favorites Dance together and his step-mom put a picture of us (me front and center) on his entertainment center. Years later we kept going to the same events; however I didn't recognize him, but thought he was cute. I had boyfriends and he said he "listened to the ques" I gave him and backed off. I DON'T REMEMBER THESE QUES! haha. Anyway, I invited a friend named Nick to my house one day and he asked if he could bring our mutual friend Drew. I said of course and then when I opened my door, my DH was there. A few drinks later he confessed that he had liked me for six years and he wasn't leaving without a promise I'd give him a chance. Well, I was already kind of dating Nick (r.i.p.) so I told him no and they got into a fist fight in the front yard. lol. Boys. Two weeks later Nick and I went to Drew's house and turns out he lived with my DH. I didn't know. Anyway, Nick didn't really make anymore moves and seemed disinterested and DH took me out on a walk that he promised would be "purely platonic" We walked out onto a bluff overlooking the Luguna Madre where the lights flikered from cars passing the causeway and he told me how beautiful he thought I was and we ended up making out on the ground, covered in stickers. I have been with him ever since. He is so wonderful. When we got married he said "I want you to be in a natural state, no hair dye, don't put on fake nails etc because I want to see you as God intended you, beautiful and wonderful as we swear before everyone our lives together"

le sigh

anyway, about a year ago Nick died. He was found dead and I found out first. They had been friends, but DH knew that we had seen each other and that I had always felt a kindness for Nick. He had helped me in more than one way since we stopped seeing each other and he told me I was the one that got away. When my DH came home from work and I told him I was afraid to cry. He held me, put his head in my neck and told me, "It's ok. I understand that you need to cry and I can't imagine how hard this must be for you" and he held me while I cried over our mutual friend, and my ex-boyfriend for hours.

He is amazing!

kirsty21 · 08-11-2009, 09:22 AM

hee heee i wanna join in
well i met my boyfriend when i was 16 on a clubbin forum for my town, and made a lot of friends on the forum, and we all decided to have a nite out and meet everyone, including tez who was one of the site creators, and it was love at first sight for him haha, anyway we got on really well that nite and within a week we were exclusive.
we've been together for almost 6 years now, and ive known about my pcos for around 9 month, he has been really supportive and put up with all my mood swings and feeling ill,
and has jus said we will deal with infertility if and when it happens, i feel really lucky to have such an understandin boyfriend
he doesnt mind the hairs or the belly and the only thing tha seems to bother him is the drop in sex drive hhaha

lumpyone · 08-14-2009, 05:35 PM

I met my DH on a rare night out when I was 16 - I'm turning 21 and we're still together and trying for a baby (yes, young but I want my kids before a career and the potential wait means I can get my HND done at the same time). He's very supportive and harasses me to keep taking my pills so I have a smaller chance of developing worse problems as I get older

missmoss · 08-16-2009, 01:02 AM

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I just wish he'd do better at fighting his fast food demon around me.

for real gumbie! my boyfriend is 6'5" and has the metabolism of a rabbit or something. he could toss back three fast food meals a day, follow it with a six pack, and not gain a pound. some nights i have to yell "NO! WE ARE GOING TO HAVE SALADS AND THAT IS THAT!"

we met in college, almost nine years ago. i decided to stay in my dorm room that night while all of my roommates went to the bar to find some men. i was in grody clothes working on a self-portrait for my figure painting class when he knocked on my door. he had the wrong room (or maybe the right one?) and he shook my hand and we ended up chatting for a few hours. i had a boyfriend at the time, but when he asked for my number, there was something so deep inside of me that was yelling that i should give it to him. he walked back to his apartment that night, discovered he was locked out, and called that number on a pay phone. we've been together ever since.

i wasn't diagnosed with pcos until recently-- for years my missed periods gave us lots of pregnancy scares, so it was a relief at first. i don't have excessive hair, but i've always struggled with my weight. he doesn't mind it (granted, he seems pleased and amazed at the weight i've lost since i started taking met) but i think its just icing on the cake for him. the right guy is going to love you just the way you are. at 19, my number one recommendation for meeting guys would be going away to college. join clubs, go out with your friends, have fun. i never had any problems meeting guys in college, overweight and all.

charisse** · 08-16-2009, 03:22 AM

Ahh how cute everyone !!

I met my DF in 2005, our best friends were dating each other and we all went to a bar to meet up. I went to vegas the next day and he had called the next week. We have been together ever since. He has become an awsome Daddy to my son. We bought our first house together last summer and our wedding is next summer.

As for PCOS, he kinda gets it but doesnt ask unless he is just lost. But I think he knew something was wrong before I was Dx'd this year. No BCP for over a year and only 1 pregnancy that ended in M/C. He has always been really hesitant on having kids ( he is nervous about "not doing it right") LOL... but after that m/c he still brings it up. He loves me even when I want to bite his head off, or say leave the bathroom I have serious plucking to do...LOL He laughs when I take my Met that smells like dead fish (nasty !) most of all he loves every bit of me even the PCOS parts !