Tibbyz28

Morning all!

I'm completely depressed. We went through our first round of IVF and it worked although my betas levels weren't rising appropriately. We saw the heartbeat and it was strong at about 7 weeks. However today we discovered that the baby stopped growing and the heartbeat stopped. I'm completely devastated and don't know how to handle what I'm feeling. I'm upset, angry, scared, sad, you name it. But then I start to feel dumb for being this upset over something that was just 'alive' for a few weeks, I knew it wasn't doing well but I was still hopeful, and someone I never even met. I know that none of you can tell me how to get through this.....I'm sure if you're reading this you're going through or have been through something similar. I am so sorry for your loss as well. just needed to vent a little. Thanks for listening. =(

Tibby

Anonykat

Oh honey...the answer is a resounding no!!! This was your child, your flesh and blood, who needed time to grow but was already as human as he or she was ever going to get. Most women never quite get over it - this is a life-changing event, and you need to grieve as much as you need to. I hope no one has told you it's dumb!!!

I'm so terribly sorry for your loss.

czara

(((HUGS))) I am so sorry for your loss...
No, it is not silly to be that upset- that baby was a part of you and you wanted it so badly.... there is not reason at all it would be silly to be so upset.
I lost my baby in july at 12 weeks (stopped growing too) and to this day I am still depressed and upset....
Try to keep your head up and continue to have faith and hope that you will become pregnant again and have a healthy 9 months!

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hela

Tibby I'm so sorry, of course its not dumb to be upset, this is your baby we're talking about, and we love them if they are with us for a few weeks, months or a lifetime

take time to grieve

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BabeKins

Never Feel Dumb about feeling anything... This was your child. You go ahead and feel whatever you need to. everyone grieves different and everyone has a right to grieve. For me the first MC was the worst.. it was the first step over the hump though... Im not saying it gets easier to loose Im just saying that your one step closer to making it to your nine months next time.... I know some people will find the wording of this confusing but it's hard to word emotions. They can't easily be explained.

praying for you oxoxox

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SheriKCMO

Especially with the intense experience of fertility treatment, most likely following a long ttc process, these little babies are desperately wanted and loved. There is nothing silly whatsoever about missing him or her terribly. You saw a heartbeat, for goodness sake. You weren't imagining things, you were pregnant and hopeful for a long and healthy life for your baby. I'm so sorry that is not to be, and I wish you lots of luck when you are ready to try again. (((Hugs)))

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