Since I had my mc a few months ago ( I didnt know I was pg and neither did the dr's, I had the MC that never expelled itself fully and bleed for 3 1/2 months untill a new dr did an emergency D&C and found necrotic fetal tissue on the pathology report) I get so emotional around babies or pg women. I feel so cheated! I didnt think I would have those feelings beign that I didnt know I was pg and didnt really have time to get attached. Bu I have them now. And to top it all off DH is "unsure" of wanting a baby now. Im so angry and sad and upset all the time. I just got back from watchign my neighbors baby for a few mins while she ran to the bank and it was really hard! I don't knwo I just didn't expect to have these feelings. How do you ease them, what , if anything , can you do about it? I need help..... I have been waking up with visions of a little boy about 4 yrs old with blond hair and a red and blue striped shirt on, could it be the baby I lost? or am I crazy? I will just sit straigh up from a dead sleep and realise I saw him flash in my mind. Does anyone else have this or am I truely off the deep end?
Cathy
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I'm so sorry for your loss.
I think most of the feelings you have are pretty normal to be having during this time. Yes, I can tell you that it will eventually get easier. But the memory and thoughts of what if will likely remain with you forever. Just because you didn't know you were pg doesn't mean that it wasn't a baby! You did have a bab and lost it, it is still a baby.
Hang in there!
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Cathy,
I am sorry for your loss. I think the dreams you are having are normal. I have dreams all the time, but in mine I don't see the face on the babies.
Like Pamela said, every day gets easier, but you don't forget. It's just that the memories get a little easier.
Cathy, I'm so sorry you are still hurting so much. This might be happening because of the fact that you found out so late in the process. Your baby is gone, and you have every right to grieve. Just let the feelings flow, that's the only way to get them processed. And grief comes in waves, some good days, some bad. If in your heart you had a little boy, then just believe it. No one can prove otherwise, and it can help your grief to identify the child as well as you can. Name him if it will feel good to you. Don't feel crazy, this is normal. If it really keeps going down hill, you can talk to your doctor or a counsellor for a little evaluation. Otherwise, I feel like you're on the right track.
(((Lots of Hugs!)))
Sheri
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((Cathy)). I have conversations with Rivi all of the time, so if you're crazy, so am I.
It's going to take a long, long time to come to terms with your loss, and there will always be times that it hits you all over again. Please be patient with yourself. I think that maybe your dreams might even be sent from your little boy - his way of letting you know he's okay.
Take care of yourself,
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I don't see the face on the babies.
I dont really see his face, he is usualy looking down or to the side but its so strange... same blond hair as my husband when he was a little boy. Its amazing how the mind plays tricks on u. Or maybe its him, who knows... I get little shadow movements out of the corner of my eye too so maybe he's around (Im a firm believer in spirits and afterlife) not to sure if I sould be happy about that or spooked out LOL
ty all for teh supportive words they really do help
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