gee, you have posted a difficult question for me. i'm not even sure how i rate myself. i guess it goes between what i do for others, and my maturity, wisdom, life expierences. i certainly do not love myself unconditionally! now, if i was my own dog, i'd be set!
jen
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Winter- 1983-1998
Tiger- 1986 & Jeroth-1988
loved by Mark 1994
stepmommy to:
Mark- 1988,Josh- 1990 & Kris- 1991
highest weight- 188 in november 2003, now 142!
hopeful goal weight- 130-135
joined SC 11-06-2003 under different user name
Though no one can go back and make a brand new start, anyone can start from now and make a brand new ending.
I look at what I've accomplished in life I guess. I came from a pretty poor family. Our little part of the family was never exoected to do anyhting with our lives and yet I have managed to get into and suceed in some very professional jobs, more what one would term careers. I also am proud that I have such a wonderful family and though we are far from perfect, we are not as dysfunctional as what I grew up in. I am still shocked every once in a while when I stand back and take a look at my life. It's cool for someone who grew up poor to realize that anyone would look at my life and easily say that I am in the "middle class." We have the house, the cars, the yard, the jobs everything. So, yeah I measure myself by what I've accomplished, but I also consider what I have accomplished emotionally and spiritually (Lacking there a bit) too.
What has influenced your feelings or opinions about your worth?
Strangely, the biggest thing to affect my opinion and confidence in myself are the problems my husband and I have had. Through them I have come to realize that I am worth more than I thought. I deserve the best life has to offer and that I am my own person, a person who stands up for what she values and believes.
How has PCOS impacted your feelings about your self-worth?
I'd love to say that it hasn't but we all know that would be a lie. I'm one of the lucky ones, in that my only outward sign of PCOS is my weight (and that can probably be changed I just haven't felt the need to do anyhting about it yet.) But, not being able to get pregnant again has affected me. I have trouble even dealing with it and usually just avoid doing so. The lack of sex drive affects me to. I know longer see myself as a sexy or sexual person.
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Momma to Kaelyn (10), Devon (6), and Savanah (4)
The shortest distance from a problem to its solution is the distance between your knees and the floor. The man who kneels before God can stand up to anything!
Interesting responses indeed. Many of us tend to measure ourselves by what we've accomplished. I've noticed that some people who measure themselves by acheivements, etc. tend to feel guilty about that because others label them as being shallow. Everybody has their own right to feel good about themselves for whatever reason.
Wealth and achievement are not quite as important to me as knowing things that I didn't know when I was younger.
I measure myself by a number of things. I voted for what people think of me but by "people" I generally mean my son, my mother and my bosses.
I also think of my experiences and the amount of things I have managed to come through against the odds. On the downside I also measure myself against all the romantic failure and the fact that I now know that I will never be loved in a romantic way.
My experiences, good and bad, are what influence my opinions, as well as what I have achieved, such as my career, buying my own house, etc. so material things definitely come into this as well.
PCOS has affected me by the excess hair (although thankfully not too much on my face), the infertility (it took me a very long time to have Stewart) and the excess weight. I could control the weight when I could go to the gym for 2 hours a day, 6 days a week and I smoked 10-15 cigs a day, but now I don't smoke and, as a single parent who works full time, I don't have the time to go to the gym.
__________________ Jane
Divorced (twice!), Miracle son, Stewart born May 1999
42 years old
1000mg Metformin
Chronium, Vit B Complex, Vit C & Zinc
26/01/09 on Prostap to induce menopause
Probable hysterectomy during 2009
"The Happiest Women, like the happiest nations, have no history" (George Elliott, Mill on the Floss)
Unfortunately I do measure my worth as a person by how much I weigh. I am so bitter that this PCOS has caused me to gain 50 lbs. feel hopeless. especially since I worked hard and lost 7 lbs but have now gained it all back..I am getting desperate, I need to be thin again. No matter what I do I am not happy
Sizing yourself up 
