No point in getting angry or upset about it -- just tell him as a matter of fact and the chances are he'll be absolutely OK about it.
this is true, thanks. im sure he'll take it as it is. frustrated wouldve been a better word than angry i think. i just get self conscious when i start to feel the stubble coming back. the hair also gets a little more stubborn the week i take the sugar pills, so thats contributing to my frustration with the situation. as is my allergy to dipilatories since that seems to be a good alternative to shaving. but next week ill prob just be like "whatever its life. its fine." this week, however, i needed to get that all out in a place where people understand. cuz even though i have a friend with pcos, she doesnt have the excess hair.. so i dont really talk to her about that. ok. im done! just happy thoughts now.
I find that the fact that shaving is a regular part of EVERY day's routine is very helpful in the matter of accepting it. And if we're going out at night both dh and I will shave again. The fact that dh, the kids and I myself all accept that my moustache and beard growth are part of our life means that I've stopped thinking of it as "abnormal" -- in our house it's normal for us that mom deals with her moustache and beard just as dad does. And for that matter both dh and I use electric razors from the Philips Norelco men's range.
Hi ladies! I to have to shave and have been since I was 14 or so. I only have to two or three times a week thank god but it still seems like SO much to do when your not supposed to have to in the first place.
My ex husband used to make fun of me about it and tell me how disgusting my little mini goatee was which sucked. Not like I asked for the facial hair anyway. And now because of that with my new love I don't even like him to touch my face just for in case he feels stubble or hair or something. He's so much more understanding though it's amazing.
Try to at least grow your facial hair out a little bit. Let say on a break or something. I wax mine (moustache, cheeks, chin, sideburns, all that stuff) and it has made a big difference. Waxing may not technically reduce hair but it DOES help it grow in finer and lighter over time. Go on spironolactone/BCP (I was only on 50 mg and it DOES DEFINITELY WORK) since I wax I can actually feel the finer hair growing in. It's a long process but hair growth, I've read, can be reversed. Slowly, yes, but it can be. Make sure you get yourself treated because no matter how you remove it it will keep coming back and perhaps more...
and you know what, you CAN get through this....it's really psychologically tough as a woman, especially in this kind of society, to have hair growth or hair loss or any of the multitude of problems women with PCOS face. I learned not to care so much...I take care of the hair and I even let it grow out...I just cover it (put my hair down) or just bleach it and make it less noticeable. I grow it out and wax it and then use an acne cleanser to prevent pimples from waxing. My face used to get very irritated from waxing but now it doesn't so much. And you know what, if someone sees a hair, WHO CARES. What's it to them? If they have the balls to say something about it you can shoot back at them telling them you have a life altering disorder called PCOS. Try the vaniqa if you can...I can't afford it right now but try it.
I know the feeling ladies, and it's horrible I been dealing with excessive hair all my life ever since I was a kid. It never made sense since both my parents are not very hairy but once I was diagnosed with PCOS it all made sense. I pluck my chin & mustache every single day for like an hour, is very fustrating (I'm afraid to shave because it might grow thicker)..I wax the rest of my face once a week or once every 2 weeks. I always have my hair down to cover my face.
My legs I shave because it takes too long to wax, but I noticed that my hair is so thick that when it grows in, it hurts. my skin hurts until the hair is long enough. Is very fustrating.
I was paranoid of anyone ever touching my face, but my husband has and I know he loves me for who I am hair or not. I'm very lucky to have married such and amazing man. At least he gives me a bit more confidence
I pluck my chin & mustache every single day for like an hour, is very fustrating (I'm afraid to shave because it might grow thicker)
One thing you don't need to worry about. Get a quality men's electric razor like a Philips Norelco rechargeable and save yourself an hour every day.
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I was paranoid of anyone ever touching my face, but my husband has and I know he loves me for who I am hair or not. I'm very lucky to have married such and amazing man. At least he gives me a bit more confidence
I do have to shave EVERY day. It has been a source of much pain and low self confidence for me. I feel like it's this big secret I have to hide. I can't go camping or stay over night at someone's house if I don't have my electric razor with me. It has kept me from looking people in the eyes, getting too close, and afraid of what people would think. I have spent THOUSANDS on laser and it has not worked. It worked on my eyebrows, but didn't work on my cheeks, neck, upper lip or chin and I do not know why. They promised me results in 6 treatments - but it never worked. I have probably had 18 treatments total and still have to shave daily. It is a horrible thing to have to live with.
If people have suggestions on how to keep this problem (when it's severe,not just a few dark hairs) from ruining their confidence and enjoying life, I'd love to hear from you.
we've come to agree on this board that laser doesn't work unless your hormones are being regulated with meds at the time. i did have laser without meds and electrolysis without meds. neither removed hair permanently. but now that i'm on BCP, the areas that i had lasered grow in really fine. i still have to shave though. i'm blaming it on the incompetent doctors i have right now. i'm hoping that better meds will improve this. i feel your pain. some people can handle it psychologically, but i'm not the kind of person who can. it dampens my spirits.
I do have to shave EVERY day. It has been a source of much pain and low self confidence for me. I feel like it's this big secret I have to hide. I can't go camping or stay over night at someone's house if I don't have my electric razor with me. It has kept me from looking people in the eyes, getting too close, and afraid of what people would think. I have spent THOUSANDS on laser and it has not worked. It worked on my eyebrows, but didn't work on my cheeks, neck, upper lip or chin and I do not know why. They promised me results in 6 treatments - but it never worked. I have probably had 18 treatments total and still have to shave daily. It is a horrible thing to have to live with.
If people have suggestions on how to keep this problem (when it's severe,not just a few dark hairs) from ruining their confidence and enjoying life, I'd love to hear from you.
You've tried LHR and clearly it hasn't stopped your moustache and beard growth. Nor can it, unless your hormones are kept in the normal female range. Sometimes even that isn't sufficient.
You've got an electric razor -- is it a rechargeable one designed for men? That's the only sort that will really deal with the sort of growth you seem to be talking about.
For myself, I accept that I have that I have the same sort of moustache and beard growth as DH has and my rechargeable razor goes with me whenever I go out, unless I'll be back well within twelve hours. If I've got an important afternoon meeting, I'll take it with me to shave before the meeting. If we're going out at night, I'll shave before we go. I'm used to looking for washrooms which are located away from attention and without stalls so that no-one will notice the sound, even though my Philips Norelco razor is very quiet. But I refuse to allow all this to spoil my life. It's not a guilty secret, it's just a fact of life.
Joy- I have to say, you seem to really have a handle on this nonsense. i really admire that. I'm trying to get there. It's very helpful
Just went to the doc the other day and was told I will have to be on the pill indefinitely.. even in between and after having kids. She said I didn't really have any other options. I've been back on it (and not the generic version) for about two months and I'm back to shaving every other day instead of every day. I've also just been a little more open with people about it.. hopefully the idea of it being just a natural part of my life will help. still haven't told the guy i'm seeing.. haven't really decided how to approach it. Although for all I know he may have noticed. I do kinda pull away when he touches my neck so that might be an in.. hm.
Oh and I agree with Joy - bring your razor with you. I typically keep a disposable bic (i like the men's ones, although the soleil ones are pretty sharp and work much better than my shick quattro) in my glove compartment and another one in my make up bag so that if i stay over anywhere I always have it.
Joy- I have to say, you seem to really have a handle on this nonsense. i really admire that. I'm trying to get there. It's very helpful
Remember that I didn't always have the confidence I do now. I used to be scared out of my wits that I was hopelessly unattractive and that no male would ever want a girl who had to shave her moustache every day, not to mention being flat chested. I couldn't see how I could ever tell any guy about these problems, either. In the event, as most people here, I'm sure, know, the problem solved itself. The guy who's now my dh met me for the first time when I hadn't shaved for 24 hours and wasn't wearing any padding. I reckoned it was my worst nightmare come true, but that's not how he saw it. He was interested, but couldn't figure out how old I was. From my figure, or lack of it, I might have been a poorly-developed 12 year old, but from the way other people were treating me he thought I might be as much as 24. Then he saw my coarse moustache stubble, so he reckoned -- correctly -- that I must have been shaving for years, so I must be at least in my very late teens to have such coarse moustache growth. The rest is history. We married two years later and we've been married for over 30 years. At first I couldn't believe that he didn't think of my moustache growth as a negative thing at all -- in fact he was glad that I had it or might never have attempted to get to know me better because of thinking I was too young for him. He's always been completely at ease with the fact that I shave and that didn't change when my beard started to grow in after I passed 40. I came to realize that it isn't something dreadful, it's just a fact of life. We simply refer to my moustache and beard using these words -- on the basis that that's what they are and there's no point in dodging the reality. With our kids, we've simply explained that most men have to shave every day and most women have to take some hair off their face occasionally -- but I have to take it off every day; most women don't like talking about it, so we don't talk about it outside, but in our home mom shaves every day just like dad and if she didn't she'd have a moustache and beard just like dad would if he didn't shave. They've accepted it as a fact of life. And indeed both my daughters have to shave their moustache several times a week themselves.
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Just went to the doc the other day and was told I will have to be on the pill indefinitely.. even in between and after having kids. She said I didn't really have any other options. I've been back on it (and not the generic version) for about two months and I'm back to shaving every other day instead of every day.
I avoided the pill, but more for the sake of preserving the fertility I had naturally. And actually, I think shaving every day makes it a whole lot easier than every second day.
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I've also just been a little more open with people about it.. hopefully the idea of it being just a natural part of my life will help. still haven't told the guy i'm seeing.. haven't really decided how to approach it. Although for all I know he may have noticed. I do kinda pull away when he touches my neck so that might be an in.. hm.
I'm sure he must have noticed. I'm sure too that he would much rather a bristly neck than not to be allowed to touch your neck.
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Oh and I agree with Joy - bring your razor with you. I typically keep a disposable bic (i like the men's ones, although the soleil ones are pretty sharp and work much better than my shick quattro) in my glove compartment and another one in my make up bag so that if i stay over anywhere I always have it.
I love the ease and freedom of my rechargeable electric razor.
So I've been contemplating an electric razor for... well... quite some time. I've heard a lot of recommendations for the top of the line Norelco razors... but I'm still leary. I just become fearful that the electric will never get as close a shave as my razor and I will have just thrown Lord only knows how much money down the drain. I can't handle feeling any sort of stubble on my face. Does anyone have recommendations for one that's good at making your face feel as smooth as a baby's behind?
Ive heard the Norelco razor mentioned alot here. I to have almost a full beard...I shave it before I leave my house. Im using Fusion Clear Skin shave cream and cheapo disposable razors(Daisy) a new one each time. I get ingrown hairs and have some scarring...which sucks. But I would like to try a Norelco as alot of you have stated they are alot easier to use in the long run and easier on the skin. I am curious which models you all use as I would like one that gives me a really close shave and since I am a poor college student I cant buy the $300 one that Im sure works fabulously
My ex husband used to make fun of me about it and tell me how disgusting my little mini goatee was which sucked. Not like I asked for the facial hair anyway.
Awww! that is so mean!
My little brother makes fun of me all the time..he always refers to me as a man
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I'm there with yah 
but it still seems like SO much to do when your not supposed to have to in the first place.
And now because of that with my new love I don't even like him to touch my face just for in case he feels stubble or hair or something. He's so much more understanding though it's amazing.
