Someone slap me back to reality..Please

Mich831 · 04-15-2003, 02:22 AM

Hi All,

Ok, first I have to say that I am having my FET (Frozen Embie Transfer) tomorrow. My girlfriend did my astrological chart for me tonight. She doesn't know that I am doing a FET tomorrow.
She doesn't believe in IVF at all. Of course she and her DH can get PG without any problems. Anyway, she was very supportive of me with my first fresh cycle in Nov and I got PG but sadly MC. She told me that she was PG the sameday I found out I was PG. So our due dates were 4 days apart. This is her 2nd child.
This time DH and I aren't telling anyone that we are doing a transfer except for my parents. So tonight she sends me my chart and she writes this:

I also checked into children for you and this is what I found...... All of the signs and Houses that would indicate children are balanced more toward difficulties for you. (I know you already knew that part.) However, there are certain places in a chart where planets and signs fit categories known as "barren" "semi-fruitful" and "fruitful". They are pretty much self explanatory. Each follows a certain pattern and can tell if you are more prone to having children, AND whether there are stronger possibilities for boys or girls. In the first two attempts/conceptions of children, you fall into a "semi fruitful" category. This means that some children have a chance of being born, others do not. After that, you fall into the "barren" signs for the next 4 attempts. HOWEVER, I have to point out that these do not mean your attempts lately, as you might have been pregnant at other times in your life and never known it. You could be on attempt #10 right now, but wouldn't even know it! Also, every single sign that shows your possibilities for children points to them being boys. I didn't find one girl. This does not mean that you cannot have a girl, as it depends on Tom's signs and Houses, etc. as well. If you show boys for your first attempt and he shows girls, the odds for you would be 50/50. I should also point out that you have one very strong influence that throws a lot of this off......Your Moon in Cancer is a strong influence, and that is a fruitful sign, good for children. This does not fall into the categories of signs that one would look up to determine children, but it shows that you have a very good chance to conceive and bear a child. I would have to look at Tom's to determine more.

Now I feel so worried. I am so worried that this FET tomorrow isn't going to work. Or if I get PG I will MC again. She talks about how I could have been PG and never know it. I've NEVER been PG before until Nov 02. I never get AF so I never ovulate. I know I've never been PG.
I need some incouraging words so I can get through tomorrow and have a positive out look on this transfer.

Thanks Girls:o

2cats4me · 04-15-2003, 02:40 AM

Good luck with your transfer! I hope your embies are in excellent shape and I send many growing and dividing vibes ~~~~~~~~~~~

Cat

STINA · 04-15-2003, 09:11 AM

Michelle, I honestly wouldnt listen to her. No-one knows whats going to happen or whats not going to happen in our lifetime. Its down to us as to what we make of our lifes and where it comes to being unable to concieve or holding on to the baby that is down to medical problems that women like us do have. And telling you that it would be unlikely for you to have a daughter.

Good luck with the FET and fingures crossed that this is the one.

Best of wishes to you, Stina

*DannysMom* · 04-15-2003, 10:37 AM

You need to somehow RELAX and concentrate on your FET... not charts... your mind shouldn't be filled with so much stress inducing possibilities.. truth be told... we really don't know what the future holds in store for us... invest your thoughts and prayers into your doctors and pray that your body cooperates for this procedure... anything else is a distraction... and you DON'T need distractions right now.
Best of luck to you!

Karen

Louie · 04-15-2003, 11:29 AM

Forget about all that, Michelle. No one can know the way things will go and the only thing you can bring to it that might help things go better is a positive confident hopeful attitude. Sometimes friends don't always like to see us feeling good - for whatever competitive reasons - and maybe this is some negativity from her that came through in the reading. I once had a reading that said I would never have kids... I don't believe it and plan to knock myself out proving it wrong!! Good luck with the transfer.

shawnapooh · 04-15-2003, 12:33 PM

Michelle,
I hope I dont offend you as that is not my intentions but I just have to tell you how I feel about what you friend said. SHE IS SO FULL OF SH*T. I cant believe she sent that to you. It is,to me very inconsiderate. No one but God knows what is going to happen in any given pregnancy. No tarot cards,charts or stars is wiser than the good lord himself. Please do not take what she said to heart. It is a bunch of crap. You do not need to worry yourself about it. Just trust that things will work out for the good. I will keep you in my prayers today and I will check back to see how things goes. Take care and God Bless.

Mich831 · 04-15-2003, 12:52 PM

Hi Girls,

I just read all your posts and I want to thank you all. You have made me feel so much better.

Shawna...my Mom said the samething to me. So don't worry you didn't offend me

Gotta run...I am off to my transfer.

heidi 1973 · 04-15-2003, 03:43 PM

Good luck on the FET. Keep us updated.

I will pray for you!

Mich831 · 04-15-2003, 05:33 PM

Hi Girls,

Well, 3 out of the 5 blast embies survived and they put 3 back in.
I couldn't hold my bladder so I tried to go in the bed pan laying down and that wasn't happening. So I sat up and had to push hard to get it out. I was worried that I pushed the embies out. I hope they can't come out. I keep asking DH and keeps saying Don't worry you can't push them out.

Well, I am going to bed so these little ones dig their way in although I know that won't be until tomorrow or the next day.

Thanks all

STINA · 04-15-2003, 08:27 PM

Best of luck to you Michele and I hope all works out well for you, I still have my fingures crossed for you.

Stina, xx

cystermoon · 04-15-2003, 10:44 PM

Michelle, don't worry, I couldn't hold it in either and I got up after 2 hours but still one stuck! I send positive vibes and prayers to you.

Sapphire Spirit · 04-16-2003, 03:18 AM

Hi Michele
I am praying that those embies are burying themselves in nicely

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Disregard the advice of your friend. Information like that does no one any good...it only gets you anxious and worrysome. I'm sending you positive vibes and bucketloads of babydust this cycle. I hope you get your bubby REAL soon

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Take Care

Amy