thejakester

I thought I would stop being someone who lurks and introduce myself. My girlfriend told me to get involved in this to understand her so I'm giving it my best shot here.

To make a long story short, me and Debbie started dating a year ago and all was fine. She was and still is a wonderful lady with a sex drive that wont stop, but who's complaining right? She was diagnosed with this pcos problem a few months back after having mood swings I couldn't handle and I broke it off. But over time I realized she really is irreplaceable. I just have not found one woman like her and I want to try and understand. We are working things out and taking 'baby steps'. This is the first step besides listening to her. OK OK I'll listen!

I hope I can get some assistance and maybe make this easier.

I've read we all have a hard time understanding this but what do you think works best when she goes off the deep end? When your GFs get freakin moody what works? She is on glucofage and it seems to be working and I am getting my old girlfriend back but it is working.

The Man of the Board

First off your doing things right your here and talking. Learn all you can about PCOS it changes daily and is different with every woman. Listen and talk to her about everything you can think of. And what ever come here and talk it helps I know. I kept everything bottled up for so long it almost ended a 10 year marriage. Remember one major thing bro it not always you. There are so many aspects besides sex and moods. I have found my woman is more passionate then before. But with understanding and meds PCOS can be lived with. But as i have said before PCOS is a life long battle. If you ever need to talk look me up. I am newer too but this is my home.

thejakester

Hey brother. Yep-it changes daily. I know its not only me and she apologizes after she realizes shes going off again, but looking back I did get into power struggles with her which made things worse. I think the extra teststerone makes her argue even better than men but its not as often with her medicines now.

I really do feel sad for her predicament and would like to make her happy. Thanks for your advice Man.

The Man of the Board

When i was in the military I used to tell my people to pick thier battles. If it is going to make it so you dont sleep on the couch then why fight it. I am a prideful man to allow myself to just walk away when i knew i was right or i knew for once she was wrong. But women are never wrong so just get that out of your head now. >)

thejakester

No, I never sleep on the couch even if I am right. It seems as though a good argument gets her in the mood.

The Man of the Board

Yea we seem to find that out too.. even if it is an argment it gets feeling out sometimes without getting what is really on your mind, and thos times you forget the other stuff that was getting you mad in the first place.

Sweetface

Same thing happened to me. My bf left after 'knowing all about hormones' and then after months, not being on medicine, I went off the deep end and he ran. But we are talking alittle now, not much though.

I'm glad you went back to her. I'm sure she was pretty upset when you left. We are alredy insecure when in that space and what a man really should do is be a big strong support and just be there. I now see there is hope.

thejakester

I did not know what can of worms Id open by leaving Deb. My intentions were to take a hike for a while, but I lost a gasket on my way out and I should have had more control. I think once a man has time to think about things he can see when he was wrong or out of line if he has the maturity and if he loves her. Give it time, he may be back. Deb went nuts when I took a hike. Thats when I knew she loved me and thats when I did some cave dwelling. I had to gear myself up for going back and what I was going to endure in the journey. Deb is my total package even with the crappy dish shes been served called PCOS. I know I wont find anyone like her even if she is difficult at times. Thats why I went back. No one compares to her even on a bad day - and she can be really bad.