sorry long and ranting

PEANUT78 · 04-17-2004, 02:51 AM

Its been 6 weeks since my D&C and I went and saw my obgyn today and he just really upset me. He wants me to get back on bcp and try to get the cyst in my ovaries to go away. He wants me to be on the bc for 6 months. He also wants me to take provera seen I have not had af since the d&c. It was hard telling my DH, he is ready to ttc, it breaks my heart that I have not been able to give him a child that he wants so bad. Was socked when I found out that I was pg and having a m/c. I have getting over it slowly, but its hard when I look at all of my friends and family that are pg or just had a baby. I also found out today that my sister-in-law is pg and this is my brothers 5th child (3 from previous marriage, 1 from her). I'm happy for them but it just makes the pain and all the emotions come back stronger. I long to have a baby. I know the Dr knows what he is doing but 6 months is along time to wait and went I got off bcp for the first time I gained 60 pounds and was dx with pcos, and that worries me that I don't want another weight gain. I still struggleing to get this weight off. Sorry this is long, I needed to Rant!

Delila · 04-17-2004, 10:27 AM

Peanut78- I am not a medical professional but after trying to have a baby for almost five years and after all the doctors, testing and procedures I think I have learned a few things. You should ask your dr besides the cyst why does he want you to go on bcp for so long. It usually only takes a month for the cyst to dissapear. I have been put on bcp several times for cysts. Six months is an extremly long time to have to wait between m/c. As for provera, do you normally get af on bcp? Why wouldn't your dr try a month on bcp first and see what happens. He can play with the dosage to bring af on before months end. My dr has done that too. I just m/c a few days ago and my dr said I need to get af one time and we will do more testing and the following cycle I can resume trying. About 3 months. That is my RE. My ob/gyn said yesterday that I don't have to wait that long but he forget for a second that I don't get pregnant on my own. I told him I think My RE said to wait because of testing and the IVF we would be doing. If you are conceiving naturally I would get a second opinion. Unless your dr has a extremly good reason for the wait. Just try to hang in there. I know it hard with all the pregnant women and babies all over everywhere. My first m/c was last year when one of my good friends was pregnant. Our due dates were the same! She has a beautiful 5 months old baby and I have a second m/c. It just doesn't seem fair does it. I am an older wanna be mom. So I even have friends who are having grandchildren. It is so hard to be around them. After I don't know how many baby showers, birthday parties and holidays , I am finally learning that you don't have to go anywhere or do anything you don't want to. If they are your close friends and family and know what you and dh are going through they will or should understand. Good luck. and keep me posted.
Delila

RunnerDuck · 04-17-2004, 01:37 PM

I think it really depends on the size of the cyst, what is causing it, and what effect is is having on your body... I have heard of 3 months straight BCPs to eliminate cysts. Six months seems a bit long, but I'm sure your doctor has some reasoning behind that...

You are always free to ignore your doctors advice or seek a second opinion, of course.

As for DH being "ready to TTC..." does that mean he is agreeable to it, or that he is dying to have kids? IME, men are faaar less eager than women to have kids. So don't beat yourself up over not being able to give your husband a child. He married you for YOU, not just for you as a baby facotry. (I hope!!!) Getting your health in order should (and probably must) come over producing him a child.

Which pill were you on before that you suspect made you gain weight? You could try a different pill, or you might find the weight gain isn't an issue if you are on both BCP and glucophage...

Focus on you now, and your health. You're young (I know, you probably don't want to hear that) but in the grand scheme of things, 6 months is not that long. Enjoy your freedom, your time with DH as just a couple, getting your health in order. Of course, ask for reasons why the six month wait, maybe negotiate to 3 - and seek a second opinion, if your insurance/fianances allow. But the better your helth, the batter chances of concieving/carrying to term, so this is not something to just thoughtlessly poo-poo or refuse to do.

PEANUT78 · 04-18-2004, 05:19 PM

I just wanted to thank you Delila and Runnerduck for taking the time to answer back.
Delila- I'm sorry to hear about your loss and I will be praying for you. I don't know why he wants me to be on them for six months but I did see the ultarsound and my ovaries are full of cyst. When I was on bcp I did get my af every month with out a problem. When I was dx with pcos he did put me back on bcp for 3 months but my cyst shunk but did not go away. So maybe that is why he wants to do it for 6 months. I have never taken provera and have only heard about it he on this site. I go back in 2 weeks to talk to him so I'm going to start getting my questions lined up for him. I agree that this is not fair, but I wish you the best of luck with ttc.
Runnerduck-I was on orthotricycine for 5 years and the last year I was on Yasmin. I did like yasmin while I took it. I will find out when I go back what he will put me. He said he my even change my glucophage. I hope that with the glucophage I will not have another weight gain. I was happy to find out that the 12 pounds I lost around the m/c, I have keep off.
Thank you both for your support! tracy

SheriKCMO · 04-19-2004, 12:47 AM

Tracy,
((Big Hugs))
I'm sorry to see you going through this. Too many of us have suffered, and I can't wait until they figure some of this stuff out so it won't happen so often! I hope that you will ask for another sonogram to check out your ovaries in a couple of months so that your doc can reconsider. If you feel strongly about moving forward, there are other doctors out there. Of course you can also just stop the pill after the number of months that you feel is right for you.
Our fertility is tied so closely to our sense of worth as a woman and a person that it is hard to remind our fragile hearts: You are a great person and worthy of your husband's love, regardless of fertility.
Believe me, I have to tell myself this often.
We all wish the very best for the future. I hope the glucophage helps keep your body going in the right direction. There are lots of helpers on the diet forum, too. This time when you stop the pill, your body will have all of your knowledge and quite a bit of healing on its side, so you should be just fine.
Take care, Cyster,
Sheri