Squeamish Dh

clarizza · 08-20-2005, 01:59 AM

Hi

I think this is the right place to ask this. How do I get my dh more involved with this whole PCOS situation? He's known I've had some problems since before we got married and I was dx shortly afterward. I know he wants to have kids as much as I do, but he also seems to want to leave all the business of trying to get pregnant up to me. That sounds a little weird. What I mean to say is he wants to be there for the fun parts of conception, but doesn't want to know or be involved in all the rest of it. I've tried to explain to him that this could be pretty difficult, but he just hugs me and tells me he knows we can do it. That's very sweet and all, but I need someone to bounce ideas and thoughts of off who knows what the heck I'm talking about.

I think the problem here is he's very squeamish about anything that has to do with biology or how the body works (or doesn't work, in some cases). He just doesn't seem to want to know anything about it. (He hasn't been to the doctor in over six years, but that's a whole other issue.) I think he's especially sqeamish about how female parts work, but I don't think that's too uncommon for a lot of guys, right?

So how do I get him more involved? I'd at least like him to be familier with the signs and symptoms PCOS and what is going on with me. We can work up from there to what it's going to take to concieve. Is there a good, easy to understand book, diagram, website or something that would be quick and easy for him to understand? (He's not stupid, just very artsy and science stuff doesn't hold his interest very long.)

Thanks to anyone who might have any suggestions on this.

Candy

Eva37 · 08-20-2005, 09:45 AM

Hi

((hugs)) my dh doesnt read anything on this website himself, so I always read out good bits to him. thats the way he's learnt things - through me telling him this and that. I usually say something like - 'oh, listen to this - it sounds like me...............' hes really supportive - just not into reading much.

hth Eva

Dragons*Fury · 08-20-2005, 12:24 PM

I don't think that it should be forced upon him to get involved and know whats going down with ya, but you're right, your hubby should know whats goign on so u have someone there that can help you. Just tell him that it would be really nice that u could talk about it with him so that it will make you more comfortable talking about it with someone that isn't a doctor or you're not typing to. Let him know about the site, or talk about the small parts of it at first and then go up to the major problems....I hope that helps and i hope that he's willing to listen.

clarizza · 08-21-2005, 01:14 AM

Yeah, I think giving him little pieces of information at a time in the way to go. I just have to make sure I know what I'm talking about first! I think he thinks I'm a hypochondriac, though, because I'm always talking about this symptom or that problem. Maybe I just need to make sure he understands it's all part of the same thing.

Candy