Started adoption process, and now I might be pg?

SweetPea76 · 09-22-2004, 02:01 PM

Hey all-

DH and I began the adoption process a month ago. I am very excited about adopting and am hoping the process goes smoothly (especially since DH might be deployed before things are finalized!)

I had a m/c in July and the doc followed my HCG until it hit 16 in early August- he said that was close enough to zero. DH and I had decided I'd stop all meds and ttc. The year we spent ttc made me miserable. I hated the meds and the visits to the doc. I knew from the beginning that advanced fertility treatments were not for me. So we decided to adopt (we'd been talking about it since Feb.)

It was a heavenly month not worrying about anything- no meds, no temps or charting, no bding on certain days. Its been 6 weeks since my last AF and nothing. I took a HPT yesterday and it was positive. I go to the doc on Monday (the appt is to talk about BCPs- to help with my cramps and acne), so I'll have him run a blood test then.

DH and I have talked about what this means, and have decided that we want to continue with the process anyway. We know in our hearts that we have a daughter waiting for us in Guatemala. Would they still let us adopt? I know depending on timing we might have to update the homestudy and change some paperwork (maybe delay the whole process a few months), but I"m hoping they don't say no to us because we might be having a biochild.

Granted, this is all assuming that the test was right, and if it is, that this baby sticks.

Man was I caught by surprise. Never expected this to happen!

dna · 09-22-2004, 02:42 PM

Sorry for your loss

Congrats on your +++

I agree the months with no ttc worries are the greatest ! LOL

Guat as far as I know will still let you adopt with bio kids...there are a few experts that will be able to help you out a bit more in that area...You should contact your agency and make sure (however my SW told me to wait a good 3 months if I were to conceive before stopping the process)

Good luck !

SweetPea76 · 09-22-2004, 03:58 PM

Thanks. We're definitely not stopping the homestudy or anything- its almost finished. I figure I"ll talk with my agency when/if I get confirmation from the doctor and even then maybe only after seeing a heartbeat (although I saw a heartbeat last time too and lost the baby.)

My agency is pretty cool, and I'm hoping that as long as the travel all works out things will be fine (b/c we are US citizens living abroad, both DH and I must see our daughter in person before the adoption is finalized due to immigration reasons.) DH is a little worried about the possibility of two little ones running around (and I know our famliies will think we're crazy) but like I said before, we know in our hearts, our daughter is waiting for us.

Lisa2008 · 09-22-2004, 04:38 PM

wow, you have a lot going on.
im sure your agency should be fine with it. keep us updated, and good luck!