Stupid Things People Say - Page 3

kissthesky · 06-25-2009, 04:25 AM

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Originally Posted by sleepydumpling

I just don't understand why people feel the need to be so HORRIBLE to other people - friend, family or stranger.

I know why my father did it to me - when he realised I was smarter than him and that his fists and feet couldn't inflict any more pain on me than they already were, he used humiliation to abuse me. And I will hate him forever for teaching my brother that humiliation is OK.

EEK! Hate is also sad. I love you, though!

Try not to carry the weight of hate on your shoulders. Sometimes family is toxic. I am sorry you suffered but your point of view shows that you are, indeed, smarter, than your father. People like him are just sad and we should feel sorry for them. They must be miserable people inside.

Keep on being wonderful, friend.
Hugs,
Katie

Heather in canada · 06-25-2009, 01:23 PM

i had my best friend of 8 years who i thought i had explained things to, but i guess she wasnt paying that much attention cuz later on she got upset with me cuz i was complaining about some symptoms one day and she had the nerve to ask why i didnt just get a hysterectomy so i could solve the issues and stop my whining. i didnt even know what to say to her i was so upset, cuz obviously she had never listened to me or did any research on it to back up her 'solution'. needless to say, we arent friends any longer. its amazing the conclusions people come up with when they dont have a clue what they are talking about, and how upset they get when they get called on it. good riddance!

Tina Castle · 06-26-2009, 08:37 AM

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Originally Posted by Heather in canada

i had my best friend of 8 years who i thought i had explained things to, but i guess she wasnt paying that much attention cuz later on she got upset with me cuz i was complaining about some symptoms one day and she had the nerve to ask why i didnt just get a hysterectomy so i could solve the issues and stop my whining. i didnt even know what to say to her i was so upset, cuz obviously she had never listened to me or did any research on it to back up her 'solution'. needless to say, we arent friends any longer. its amazing the conclusions people come up with when they dont have a clue what they are talking about, and how upset they get when they get called on it. good riddance!

More power to you sister!

Your so called friend sounds like she was very self-absorbed. I think we've all had people like that in our lives and then one day we just cut them out and move on with ourselves. Someone who can't listen to your issues without complaining isn't a true friend.

I had a friend who I was complaining about not having my period to. I was very worried and confused. She has 3 kids and an IUD in that she has to be taken out every 5 years. She get's her period every 6 months because of the IUD.

Well I start telling her how I hadn't had a period since June 2008 (it was October 2008 at this time) and she goes, "I haven't had a period since April. Isn't it weird? Maybe I should go to the doctor" and she was laughing about it and I was being serious. I told her no because she's on BC, but she kept making it all about herself.

We're no longer friends because I stopped talking to her (Thank God), but at that moment I knew right then and there that she was only in the friendship half-heartedly *if even that*.

Corvidae · 06-26-2009, 07:41 PM

One of the first times I got finasteride from the pharmacy (in the UK it's marked prominently on the box '"FOR USE BY MEN ONLY") the 20 something male assistant marched up to the counter with the box of medication in his hand and loudly asked me if my doctor had prescribed the right medication whilst pointing to the bold warning on the box. At this point he had drawn the attention of most of the people waiting in line for their turn.

When I told him that it was the right medication, he asked me, right in front of the line of people, if I was having a sex change!

I told him, calmly and with as much dignity as I could scrape up off the floor, that I wasn't having a sex change and that, thanks to a medical condition, I probably had more testosterone in my blood than he had in his. He turned an impressive shade of deep crimson and, if my wish comes true, his penis will have fallen off by now.

I also sent a howler of a complaint letter to the store manager and changed to another pharmacy.

Tina Castle · 06-27-2009, 08:12 AM

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Originally Posted by Corvidae

One of the first times I got finasteride from the pharmacy (in the UK it's marked prominently on the box '"FOR USE BY MEN ONLY") the 20 something male assistant marched up to the counter with the box of medication in his hand and loudly asked me if my doctor had prescribed the right medication whilst pointing to the bold warning on the box. At this point he had drawn the attention of most of the people waiting in line for their turn.

When I told him that it was the right medication, he asked me, right in front of the line of people, if I was having a sex change!

I told him, calmly and with as much dignity as I could scrape up off the floor, that I wasn't having a sex change and that, thanks to a medical condition, I probably had more testosterone in my blood than he had in his. He turned an impressive shade of deep crimson and, if my wish comes true, his penis will have fallen off by now.

I also sent a howler of a complaint letter to the store manager and changed to another pharmacy.

I'm sorry that happened to you! That pharmacist sounds like a prick and I'm glad you gave him a piece of your mind!

Sadly all you really can do is write a letter and change pharamcies because anything more would just turn into a headache.

Don't these people in the medical field know anything about privacy rights? They aren't to ask such questions like that and in front of other customers...I hope he was fired.

Tikki · 06-27-2009, 12:08 PM

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Originally Posted by Shawn Marie

I ultimately had to present a physician's note confirming it was only acne and not contagious... which was then shared with parents and coworkers. Ugh!

Thats just plain illegal!!

I am lucky in that most of the "hair" can be covered up. But my face is getting worse and worse...

Only my mom constantly says "Oh, its time to pluck" --she has the hair issue too...I dont think she realises she has pcos yet...

tiffanyleigh614 · 06-28-2009, 03:51 PM

I feel very fortunate to have a family who all understands and cares and that I haven't ever had to suffer from the hateful comments. When my sisters and I were growing up and we would be fighting I would occasionally get the fatass comment from her, but I know it was just because she was angry and she would apologize shortly after.

But I did have to suffer the hateful comments from my own doctor. It was about 3 years ago I went into to see a gyno because I was having some bad pains in my lower sides, (thought it might of been a large cyst, also this was my first time seeing the doctor) Well he walks in and says so how can I help you today, I jokingly said, just make me feel better. He said losing all that weight will make you feel better. It shocked me and I really didn't know what to say so I just kind of sat there. I can't remember all the exact words that were exchanged (this is not a memory i like to relive.) About 5 minutes later some more words had been exchanged and I was crying my eyes out. He never even asked me what brought me in to see him. My mother was with me took and she was just in shock. Even after he saw me crying so hard, he still CONTINUED with the comments about me being too fat and that was my only problem. I just couldn't believe what was happening I finally said screw you and got up and walked out. My mom came following me and asked me if we could just please let the nurse do an ultrasound because she was concerned with as much pain as I had been in, and I agreed because I wanted to know, but I said as long as it's just the nurse. She did the ultrasound and I calmed down some. Then the doctor came back in to confirm everything was fine and it was all just because I was fat. Those were the exact words. I ran out of the building and my mother stayed and went off. My mom wrote a letter telling of what all the doctor had said and done, a few months later "he left the clinic."

DebraC · 06-28-2009, 11:13 PM

OMG, the comment above about the clueless chick asking about which vd caused PCOS takes the cake. The pharmacist's question about the sex change is horrible!

I have had some people ask me what my rash was under my chin (my hair stubble, but I always agreed it was a reaction to an insect bite, lol) -- Laser surgery helped a bit with that, but now it is coming back.

The one that hurts me to this day (and I hear it from everyone, including my PCOS doctor), honey, you know that if you just exercise and eat right, you will lose weight. Shut up - I spent hours a week and still nothing! That really pisses me off. Or "just cut out the snacks" -- as if I sit home and eat Twinkies -- Ugh!! People are really ignorant.

I am afraid to run into friends from high school. I weighed 105 in H.S. and weigh 205 now. They smirk, actually smirk as if telling themselves like I got fat and lazy in life. My ten year reunion was nine years ago and I had just had my DS, thank goodness, and held his photo in my hand to kind of give me an excuse. A boy I knew actually looked at my son's picture and asked when I had him and then he said "oh, that's why." Why what, buddy? Why I was fat? He then went to a group of guys and then they all looked over. ugh. I won't ever go back unless I can lose some of this.

pinkearth88 · 06-29-2009, 11:35 PM

I'm overweight (PCOS weight) and also recovered from an eating disorder ( i would eat less than 500 calories a day) and i had just started seeing someone, and after having sex that first time with him, we were laid in bed talking and i can't totally remember what i said, but it was something about feeling self concious, and his reply was ''Honestly, there is some flab but its not as bad as you think it is.'' then he rolled over, said goodnight and went to sleep.

i was so horrified that i waited until he was asleep, i got out of bed and i sat on the couch until i felt tired. i just felt so down about it. and i know that was kinda his way of being honest with me and complimenting me at the same time, but it was a kind of blow to hear it right after being intimate with him.

some people, mainly men lol, think what they say to you is honest and a compliment and they dont mean any harm by it, but it still hurts sometimes.

thegumbiecat · 07-01-2009, 02:53 AM

man you guys have had so many instances where I would have thrown a drink in someone's face! ug!

The one that stings the most was before diagnosis I got a 2nd hand elliptical machine and was doing that about 30-45 minutes a day, and lost about 5lbs in 3 months. It was bad enough my EXhusband would make fun of how I looked when I exercised, I was telling my skinny blond perfect looking friend how i had tried and tried to lose weight those months and nothing had happened. She then responds with "why don't you come to my gym, i can bring someone with me for free" and i told her i thought something was wrong that I had gone that far and lost almost nothing...well she droped it then but kept badgering me on occasion to go with her to the gym. I finaly told her "Look X, I would be really embarised to be in work out clothes around a bunch of fitness nuts who i know will be thinking 'look at the fat chick'". so she responds with "i've just kept on you about this because i think you'd be really beautiful if you just lost 60lbs." I told her I was beautiful now and if she didn't see that, it was her problem.. she appologised but it really stung.

my mother always told me she didn't understand why i didn't have boyfriends in highschool, that you'd think they could over loook the fact i was fat because i have big boobs. thanks mom. thanks.

she'd also always gripe at me about trying to fit into "skinny clothes" that i looked like crap...and she'd get angry and me and call me selfish for getting depressed about my size.... one time she didn't see me for about a year, and I HAD been trying to lose weight again, happy i told her "hey i think i've lost weight these pants are loser" she then glares at me like a moron and says "um, i wasn't going to tell you but you're obviously fatter then when i saw you last." thanks again mom!

I once had a woman at layne briant measure my cup size (wrong), and informed me loudly infront of all the customers that they don't make bra's big enough for me. I just picked up my purse and told her she was a dumb b**** cause foley's does, and stormed out.

I've had little teeny girls make comments about my weight before and i just annouce that the concept of asult on a minor charges don't stop me from slaping ignorent little girls who obviously want it...and they tend to simmer down.

One time i had this very very gay manager of mine annouce that all the men must love me because of my big titties, and grabed them and told me I was sexy. that actualy made me feel good for some weird reason (we had a grabby kind of relationship). He had this whole thing about celebrating what is female, and female is round, and you know...other ignorant people aside, i'm gonna go with that. It makes more sense then society lifting up girls who look like little boys with a bra on.

Patah83 · 07-03-2009, 12:44 AM

I was quite oblivious of my facial hair until my friend's boyfriend in hs told me that he couldn't get his friend to go out with me because I was cute but too hairy

elizabethsmum · 07-04-2009, 07:58 PM

Wow people are dumb!! I feel so sad for everyone that has had to deal with that crap x

I have had a few nasty memorys tattooed into my mind by a""h%%es the first was when I was at school and I was told "Wow you have a moustace before me!" by boys

The stupid comments whilst TTC are the worst me and my hubby have been TTC for another baby for 5 years unsuccesfully. These are a list of the crappy comments.

"You have a child why do you need any more?" My MIL
"My hubby just looks at me and im knocked up" a Neighbour, just after a failed cycle
"Just relax and it will happen and dont think about it" from countless people.

My daughter bless her was 5 and said loudly a few time "Mummy you have a moustace like Daddy!" this always happened in public, she dosent mean it and dosent mean it harshly its just what she sees.

LovelySerpent · 07-05-2009, 11:41 PM

Oh these made me ache to read...

Let's see, my ignorant gems:
I'm a custodial step-mom, so when I was TTC several years ago, I was constantly told I was lucky. If I couldn't have kids, it was okay, because I was raising my stepkids instead! (And I love the little suckers like my own, but it still stung)

I've been told repeatedly "you used to be so pretty".

"Your face is so pretty, but you could be so much prettier."

"You dress so well for your size."

My mom, bless her meddling heart, has sent me material on lapband surgery, Jenny Craig, Nutrisystem and Weight Watchers. She repeatedly asks me to get my thyroid checked. She is constantly asking me what I am eating and if I am sure I am excercising. Ya know, I might forget.

I haven't seen anyone in my family in over a year, because I am so sick of them watching me exercise and carefully watch my calorie intake and yet still struggle with my weight. Then they all sit around and discuss it in pure fascination. Would it be horribly wrong to moon your family?

My oldest stepson is severely bi-polar, so I'm trying to forgive him for his....teenage-ness. He recently told me that I should take up smoking, that is how his mom lost a lot of weight. I deserve a pat on the back for smiling and walking out of the room.

Sylvestergrl · 07-06-2009, 02:41 AM

Oh man. I feel horrible reading these.

I have gotten all the "everything will be fine if you lose weight" from all the doctors and such too. Man that hurts!

My mom always calls me "bush woman" if I let my eyebrows go too long without tweezing.

My step dad, growing up, always said whenever I ate something "cha-ching, adding up the pounds!!!"

My grandmother, who I swear is the one that gave this condition to me, was always my harshest critic about the weight. She was always telling me that I needed to lose weight or exercise and I could be so pretty if....

But my favorite, my friend who is 110lbs soaking wet who when I told her I was finally able to lose some weight (with intense medication, exercise and a crapload of other things which she of course overlooks) all she can say is "Well I hope you can keep it up...." No good job, no you look great! This is the same friend who always has to one up everything I do. When I told her I was having issues TTC because I had PCOS, she was like Oh I have that too. I had a cyst burst a while back and I got pg. Twice! (She of course doesn't have it. She just has to have everything just a little worse than me) Oh I want to punch her sometimes!

CaliAmandalyn1981 · 07-06-2009, 03:17 AM

Hi ladies!

Not sure if you are just venting about the various stuff related to PCOS or just stupid people in general...but I wanted to throw in my own $0.02.

I had went to my gyno (ex-gyno now) one time because I was on BCP, but had no period and had a teeny bit of hope that I was pregnanant. After being practically molested (the exam was THAT horrible, and he didn't say one word to me during it) he asked me to meet him back in his office. Once I got dressed and went to sit down with him he proceeded to draw me a picture and told me that my uterus looked like that of a menopausal woman (reading...no way in HELL was I pregnant). I didn't even know WHAT to say...so after picking myself up off the floor (emotionally, not figuaratively) I found my way outside. GOD!! Needless to say I NEVER went back to him again. Looking back, I really should have written a letter to his office or something.