support group in Herndon, VA

Support4Infertility · 08-10-2009, 11:24 AM

I am a 27 year old hopeful mother. After our first year of marriage, my husband and I began trying for our family. A year and a half after that, I was diagnosed with PCOS. It has been another year and a half and, I imagine like you, I have a list of what I’ve done to improve the situation.

I’ve read, what feels like, every book on the subject.
Seen a holistic doctor.
Taken hormone tests ranging from blood to a month long salvia test.
Gone to acupuncture (so did my supportive husband).
My husband and I participated in fertility massage.
Taken natural herbs thought to improve fertility
Metphormin.
For the past two months I’ve been seeing a therapist to help me deal with my guilty and inadequate feelings.
And, currently, I’m on Clomid (after taking pills to induce my period).

Originally, I had gone to family and close friends for support. But, it’s been years now and I’ve found I need what they simply can’t provide. I continue to get hurt when I hear the following comments and then guilty for feeling that way.

You’re young.
You should count all of your blessings.
You need to relax.
Patience is a virtue.
God only gives you as much as you can handle.
Adoption is easier than you think.
Not all women are meant to be mothers.

If you’ve heard these or other similar comments, you might be feeling like me – misunderstood.

Another failed cycle, and I continue to feel broken and more alone than before. I’m sad. Period. No pun intended. I wanted to join a local support group where I could meet in person with women experiencing the same thing. I did not find one.
So, I’m going to start an infertility support group in HERNDON, VIRGINIA. Do you live near me? Would you like to join? Write back and we’ll get started.

We’ll create a relaxed, comfortable atmosphere where we can share our stories and tears without worrying about judgment or that the listener is getting tired of hearing the same tale month after month. We can be the support we’ve been hoping to find in our closest friends and family – but we know they aren’t able to give it, as they just truly don’t understand.

I hope to hear from you and be the supportive friend you’ve needed and I hope to find that in return!