Surpise pregnancy and miscarriage

PEANUT78 · 03-09-2004, 01:00 AM

SORRY ABOUT THIS BEING LONG!!

Well I'll start at the beginning, We were ttc but I had got accepted and started the physical therapy assistant program (2 year degree). So we laid off of trying but I never got back on bc. I'm suppose to take 1500mg of gluc. but I always forget to take the pill at night. I have the hardest time remembering to take that pill. So I knew that glucophage may not be working right and I have really tried in the last few months to take it right. Well, in december I spotted around new years and then I started spotiing in the end of Jan, and around Feb. 5 I started what I thought was AF but on the 10th I had the worst cramps that I had ever had and I bled like a water facet, and have a bloodclot about the size of my palm. (Sorry TMI) After that I had spotted til one of my class mates told me I should go find out why I was still spotting. So I got the first appt I could and went in while I was telling the nurse what had been going on she took a hcg test and it came back postive. My dr said that I had either a eptopic pg or a m/c. So they did and US and come to find out that I was 8 weeks pg, but the embryo had dissolved and the placenta was still intact and growing. I have never heard of that before! The dr was happy that I had gotten pg without fertility drugs or without trying. I know that is great but it is just hard to deal with, I have longed to be pregnant and to know that I would have a baby growing in me but to find out that I did have and didn't even know it was devastating. So my dr told me that if I started bleeding or cramping to go to the ER and have him called asap. So tuesday night around 2 am we called him and made the 40 minuted drive to the hospital. So the admitted me and sometime Wednesday I had a D&C done in surgery. He told my DH that everything went great but that I had lost alot of blood and they had to keep me in recovery for 2 hours. So that made my DH very worried but it all turned out ok. I think that this is the hardest thing that we have ever had to go threw together. We grew up together so we have been there for each other. Over the weekend I had reliezed that I was pg before my DH grandfather passed away in Jan. That crushed us to know that we did not get to tell him before he passed. He wanted us to have children so bad. Sorry for getting off the subject. I have so my different emotions and feeling that I feel I need to get out. I know that it was a blessing from God that I was able to concieve and be pg but I know that God took my angel for a reason but it is so very sad.
I have one Question, How long should we wait to ttc? My husband wants to start right away but now I'm scared to try or even think about trying. If anyone has any suggestions in what to do please let me know!!!! Thank you for letting me get this off my chest, sorry its so long. Tracy

April_Bee · 03-09-2004, 03:14 AM

I am so very sorry you have to go through this. I hope you are feeling better, physically and emotionally. I do understand what you're going through, especially regarding your grandfather. Mine passed away two months before my pg. Before I m/c, I was so sad because I thought he would never get to see his first great-grandchild. Now I know my grandfather is holding my baby in Heaven.

Please email me if you ever need to talk. ((((hugs))))

lots_of_dots · 03-09-2004, 03:16 AM

((((hugs Peanut))))

I'm so sorry to hear of your loss. Planned or unplanned ~ a loss is a loss. From what I've read, you should wait one cycle before ttc again in order to allow your body to heal. Some drs tell their patients to wait longer but that's really more for mental healing than physical healing.

((((more hugs))))

B4MROSE79 · 03-09-2004, 11:17 PM

God Bless you. You'll have a baby very soon just keep having faith and ask your gf to pray for you. He's there at God's feet.