I really really hate insensitive ppl. How do they know untill they unfortunately have gone through what you are going through. At some points I too want to bring the taurus out. Some days all i want to do is and at how much ppl get on my nerves with there stupidity.
I cant imagine any pain greater...........
EXCEPT...........for someone telling me that my pain is not the worse........
Its like my baby died again......
I cant imagine any pain greater...........
EXCEPT...........for someone telling me that my pain is not the worse........
Its like my baby died again......
That's exactly what I was going to say. Some people just don't think before they open their mouths.
I'm gonna play devil's advocate here and wonder if maybe this woman has been through something she truly does think is worse? I have never suffered the loss of a full term child so can only imagine how horrific it must be - and yet I can also think of things that might hurt worse. I would have to wonder if this woman might have had a good reason (from her point of view) for saying what she said? Has she also lost a child, perhaps through even more horrific means?
Of course it's entirely possible that she's just an ass... and even if there are worse pains to feel, right now this IS the worst pain in the world to YOU...
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"We've tried to wash our hands of all of this
We never talk of our lacking relationships
And how we're guilt-stricken, sobbing, with our heads on the floor
We fell through the ice when we tried not to slip..."
- the verve pipe
I'm gonna play devil's advocate here and wonder if maybe this woman has been through something she truly does think is worse? I have never suffered the loss of a full term child so can only imagine how horrific it must be - and yet I can also think of things that might hurt worse. I would have to wonder if this woman might have had a good reason (from her point of view) for saying what she said? Has she also lost a child, perhaps through even more horrific means?
Of course it's entirely possible that she's just an ass... and even if there are worse pains to feel, right now this IS the worst pain in the world to YOU...
Even if she perceived her pain (situation) as worse.....thats her perception.......it doesnt make it my reality.........
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And I do believe that burying your child is the worst thing that can happen to a person. Bring on the torture, I would gladly take that instead!!
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Runnerduck ~ This woman was told she would probably need IVF to conceive and she sissied out and didn't go for it. She didn't want to deal with all the testing so she gave up that dream. That was a choice!
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I agree that fertility problems and choosing to stop with treatment are very hard things to experience. I hope she never knows the pain that we do, because she would definitely eat those words if she did. There is no comparison.
I hope you are feeling better today. I completely agree with Kim, taking one day at a time. And I cry every time she posts the part about the babies not wanting us to stop living just because they did. That is so powerful!
Well... I'm not saying it wasn't an ass thing to say... just wondering what could happen to a person that would make them say that. I mean, I'd HOPE there was some justification. And I guess from her point of view, even if you see choosing not to pursue IVF as a choice, it's still her lot in life - I guess she feels she can't have a kid at all and that pain trumps being able to get pregnant and losing a child.
I'm not saying she's right to say it - again, just wondering.
People say some incredibly dumb things when you are experiencing miscarriage or loss... sometimes it is well meaning, sometimes it isn't. Maybe she's really thinking you will feel "at least you can get pregnant." My best friend said that to me during my last miscarriage - and then she immediately said, "I can't believe I just said that" - given it had taken 2 miscarriages and a year of trying to get to that point. It's like yeah... I know I can get pregnant. But what the hell good comes of it? I don't want to just GET PREGNANT, I want to actually get a living baby out of the deal, too. (She then redeemed herself by bringing me coconut rum and a bottle of pineapple juice... )
Then there are people like my mother who, after my first loss, I learned just not to talk to.
Anyway I am sorry she said that to you. Sometimes you just gotta learn to ignore people ... I am not a taurus, I am an aries. But sometimes I find being an ostrich works wonders.
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"We've tried to wash our hands of all of this
We never talk of our lacking relationships
And how we're guilt-stricken, sobbing, with our heads on the floor
We fell through the ice when we tried not to slip..."
- the verve pipe
The taurus in me is coming out! 
I really really hate insensitive ppl. How do they know untill they unfortunately have gone through what you are going through. At some points I too want to bring the taurus out. Some days all i want to do is 
and
at how much ppl get on my nerves with there stupidity.
I know how you feel.
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