I don't know what to do next....Last night me and my bf had a long convo about ttc and he told me that he doesn't want to try to have a baby right now he wants to wait but I can't agree with him...I don't agree with him....but I really don't have a choice b/c I can't try alone if he is not willing...this has really left me confused and I really don't know what to do now. I really want to start now because theres no telling how long it will take. I think he thinks if i try a med. it's going to work ASAP.... At first he wants to try but now he doesn't....I can't graps it..my heart is torn and my eyes full of tears but I don't know what I should do next.....Please give advice if any.....
I don't really have any advice, just that I feel sad that you cannot agree, I know that it sucks not to be able to agree!
Best of luck
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We talked again and we are agreed to wait and give it a break....SO I guess it works out for the both of us, it's going to be kind of hard because ttc almost came an obession to me....it's all I could think about but I guess I really do need a break because this can be an emotional drain...So I just have to see what happens....
I feel ya on this one! My husband doesn't want to exactly TTC, but we don't prevent it, either. he's 34 and I'm 27 and I'm like, come on, let's try! You're right, it's almost like an obsession! The only thing I can say is this, we were engaged for 2 years before we got married and I was the same way, telling him come one, let's go! And nw I'm really happy we waited. So, I need to be patient once again. I pray the same prayer everyday for God to help me be patient. I figure (and I hope!) my time will come. Hang in there, I know how you feel! It feels like you may (or may not) have such a long process in front of you and you want to at least get the wheels turning. I think we both need to be patient though. Email me if you wanna chat!
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I understand completely what youre saying...been there done that got the t-shirt!!
But waiting for the actual ttc procedures til your both ready is a good idea...the emotional and physical impact on your self and your relationship is horrendous...you have to be ready!! But once youre ready to get going...the problem arrises that youre so ready to go and then you find yourself having to wait around alot...for referrals or appointments or whatever...even for a proper diagnosis...its frustrating to hurry up and wait all the time!! Once you get a referral you have to do all the blood work and tests and crap before you can actually get a tangible plan...so why not save yourself some time later and get other stuff taken care of now so you know what you have to work on?
Why not do a pre-conception consult...blood work, hormone levels...general health...if weight or insulin or blood sugars are an issue now...start dealing with those while your waiting. Take care of your general health now...so that when youre ready to sit in front of the RE...you're already ahead of the game and might avoid the usual lectures they like to give out!!
Good luck and time will pass quickly...but lifestyle changes will help alot in the long run...hang in there!!
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We've decided to focus our attention on other things(well I think I'm the one that needs to refocus TTC is a emotional roller coaster and I think taking this break will be good for the both of us...It's weird because I was so obessed everyday with finding out new things to ttc...I mean I have stacks and stack of papers on things I have looked up..its crazy...it was like I couldn't get on the computer without first emitonally draining myself from looking at things about ttc and having a baby...I woudl sit for hours and hours just looking at information and still when I got on the computer last night I had to tell myself to do other things instead of focus my attention on ttc....it's almost like a drug something you just so addicted to....I but I guess I can only tak one day at a time and keep on praying for the best....
it's nice to have people who just understand what your going through...thanks for the input
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