I'm sure that this is only adding to my depression.... but my therapist who I've been working pretty closely with for the past 5 months is moving out of the country this week. I have another therapist that I'll be seeing... but I am just so upset about her leaving, and I'm not sure why. Anyone been through this and/or have any suggestions that may help??
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Dx Major Depression, Sleep Apnea
Officially Dx PCOS 8/2006
Current meds: Lithium ER, Nardil, Yaz
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Oh Melissa I can so relate, I thought I was going mad.
I was seeing Therapist A because of PCOS/Fertility/Miscarriage issues (that was her speciality). But then it transpired that I had underlying issues (a specific event 10 years ago), plus family issues & anxiety.
She recommended that I go to someone else (once I had finished my work) to sort out these other issues (as it was outside her particular expertise). I finished with her (very relunctantly) but did okay. Then another "trauma/event" occured a few weeks ago, so I went back to Therapist A (who I knew couldn't help me but wanted her help in finding someone else).
So now I'm seeing Therapist B who is fantastic, and in some ways even better then Therapist A.
But I still miss Therapist A. I built such a close connection to her that I feel so abandoned by her, even though logically I know she hasn't done this. I feel almost 'in love' with her, even though logically I know that isn't right either. I really miss her. I guess because you form such an intimiate relationship with them, and that they are there for you during your darkest hour.
So I guess I'm saying I think it's normal & your not alone. I would voice your concerns to your new therapist.
Also do a google search under "transference". You will see that strong feelings for your therapist is normal.
Its good to know that I'm not the only one who has gone through this. I think I've almost become dependent on her - I was seeing her twice a week for the past 5 months, and now she left and is out of the country and I don't know if I'll ever speak to or hear from her again. I'm having a really tough time with this.
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Dx Major Depression, Sleep Apnea
Officially Dx PCOS 8/2006
Current meds: Lithium ER, Nardil, Yaz
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Yeah I still really miss mine. I kept wondering if I will ever see her again.
If I get the guts I will raise it with my current therapist to see what she says.
I'm surprised more people don't feel like this about their therapist - I expected more responses to your thread.
I think its understandable the dependancy feeling. I think also perhaps your therapist gave you something that you are not getting from your own life? Somone to talk to perhaps?
I know that you're right and there must be something that she was doing for me that I'm not getting in my own life. I tend to be a very private person and even my few close friends don't know much about whats going on with me. She was the only person that I was really open with. It takes me so long to get comfortable with therapists, but with her it was easy for some reason. I just wish that I could communicate with her once in a while, even through email or something... but maybe thats not such a great idea anyway, I dont know.
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Officially Dx PCOS 8/2006
Current meds: Lithium ER, Nardil, Yaz
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Hey Im a bit the same.
Im not the pick up the phone & tell a girlfriend my problems type.
I just don't talk about stuff like that at all in 'real life' only on here! Or in therapy.
So maybe thats a part of it?
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