Thin Expecting Cysters April - Page 4

CaliGirl! · 04-12-2008, 05:37 PM

Rose...Welcome back! I'm sorry you were sick for the wedding. I hope you are feeling better now. You can get brown spotting from BDing. I get a little pink spotting every time, but I always have so I think I have a sensitive cervix. Check with your doctor if you are worried though.

Refrain...I hope everything is going well for you. I have a question...there is this woman on another one of the threads and she is doing IUI's and they haven't worked yet. I think it was you who was told not to BD before the IUI but eventually did and then got pg. I would just like to let her know what worked. She was told not to BD before too but her DH doesn't have any issues. When did you BD before the trigger? Sorry if this wasn't you.

wantsababy07 · 04-12-2008, 09:21 PM

Caligirl- That was refrain (she could give you more info on it) and she also told me to bd the night before the IUI and I did and now I'm pregnant. Not sure if that's what did it, but it definitely didn't hurt. My 2 previous IUI's I listened to the dr. and did not bd the day before the IUI and of coure those were negative.

mnstrpc · 04-12-2008, 11:42 PM

My RE told us that we SHOULD BD before the IUI. And it worked!

ShellBell63 · 04-13-2008, 12:07 PM

i'm pretty sure refrain said to BD when you trigger, then wait for the IUI, then BD after too. my RE said to BD whenever, before, after, whatever and IUIs didn't work for me at all. i got pg from BD every day for 6 days before O and one day after!

wantsababy--yes i'm still on progesterone, i should be stopping around 12 weeks too. actually i think the placenta takes over sometime in week 10 but they usually keep you on for a couple extra weeks just in case. glad you are feeling better about stopping it. i'm going to ask about the Premesis vitamin tomorrow at my appt.

so i bought a doppler off eBay a couple weeks ago and last night i found the heartbeat for the first time!! it was between 168 and 171 bpm. i was so excited i called my parents and held the speaker up to the phone for them, they were so excited and shocked because my mom didn't know i bought a doppler! it was the best sound ever....i am just so excited that this thing works and now i can listen to it a couple times a week if i want to.

CaliGirl! · 04-13-2008, 03:16 PM

Thanks for the BD and IUI input. I will pass it along!

Shell...I always wanted to get a doppler but never did. I think it will help during those stressful times when all you do is worry. Very cool!

refrain02 · 04-13-2008, 08:03 PM

Hey Cali - Ya that was me. I always could feel my ovulation 6-8 hours after the trigger, hence the trigger and then get down to business...I really think the hCG just worked faster on my system then what it is supposed to do (24-48 hrs). Probably all depends on your system.

This has been a really rough week for me.
1) First the anemia issues have made me a lump of clay. It's so hard for me to do things without getting winded and feeling horrible all the time. I went to Target today and thought I was going to pass out in the shampoo aisle...I got very dizzy and needed to lay down, but hey, I was in Target, what are you gonna do.
2) Grandmother passed away last weekend and next weekend is the service, my parents aren't making it any easier on me b/c they planned the service where they live (4.5 hours away) and all there is to sleep on is a fold out cot. Plus they have a weekend full of activities planned, go here, go there etc. etc. I tried to explain to them that I'm not trying to be selfish, but I really can't do all of that...mom's not gettin' it.
3) I found one of those pregnant women haters. DH & I were in JC Penny, and she heard me ask where the restroom was, came up from behind me, passed me, cut me off just was I was about to reach the single bathroom door, and ran in there, shutting the door in my face.
Funny, b/c all I could think about was she must have been one of those women on the other thread who said they are purposely mean to preg. women. Even had the nerve to look me in the eye when she finally got out.
4) DISASTER. DH & I excitedly told our families this weekend our babies names. Lillian Davis and Zane Gregory = (DH Grandma) (femine of David which is my brother) and (DH Grandfather) (My dad)...
Mom "Lillian and Zane???...why the hell Li-lee-en... & I've never heard of the name Davis???? and what am I supposed to call my grandson...Zane-ey???" Very negative and laughing the whole time at the names.

Worse: DH's brother. DH's brother's middle name is Zane as well. Let's just say he is furious about it all, and so is his wife. They came over today (thank God I was at Target) and DH's brother flew off the handle...yelling cursing, calling us selfish and arrogant etc. He ended up leaving by slamming all the doors he could and driving off angry.
Then he called (I walked in from Target 1/2 way through the conversation), and my DH was calmly trying to explain to him that we meant no malice by our name choice. DH's brother's main point is, what if he wanted to name his son (that doesn't exist) Zane, and since it's his middle name, he should have been consulted first by us to see if he was ok with it.
It was awful, I had to get on speaker phone and he was just going on and on about how we just assumed he wouldn't want to name his future son that, and we should have asked him first, and how he can't believe how selfish we were ...blah blah blah blah...I ended up bawling b/c I could just hear the genuine hurt in his voice. I mean, whether he's right or not, he's still hurt, and I hate hurting anyone. He said that he's not going to talk to us for a while because he needs to work through all of this.
siiiigh. I wish I could have a beer.

wantsababy07 · 04-13-2008, 08:16 PM

refrain- Wow, you have been through a lot this week. I'm really sorry. (((hugs)))
The thing that got me the most was the making fun and mad at the names. That just seems so ridiculous. I could kind of see the point of dh's brother maybe wanting to name his future son that but he didn't need to get that mad and also does he really want to or does that just sound appealing since you guys picked it! They definitely should have not been so mean and especially to a pregnant lady. Are you and dh going to keep the names or change them?
You need to do what is best for you and your babies and I wouldn't feel bad about not being there for your grandmother's funeral. Maybe just send a card and flowers. It's not like under normal circumstances you wouldn't want to be there.

CaliGirl! · 04-13-2008, 09:02 PM

Refrain...I am so sorry to hear about your grandmother. I know how hard it is to lose a grandma anytime but much more when you are pregnant. I think your family would understand like wantsababy said, if you just send flowers. I know my family really didn't think I should go back to MN for the funeral and I was only 24 weeks with a singleton and no problems. Think of what your grandma would say. She would want those babies to stay safe. And the pressure of the funeral was so hard on me, it was almost impossible to get though. Also, after hearing your family's reaction to your name choice would make me want to keep my space for a little bit. Sorry all this is coming on you at once. ((Hugs))

~Amber

refrain02 · 04-13-2008, 09:41 PM

wantsababy- just to clarify, we named our son after my DH's grandfather (who is of ill health) not after his brothers middle name. Thats the frustrating point.

bobbysgirl2005 · 04-14-2008, 09:38 AM

Refrain: WOW! You have had a very tough time. I hope you don't mind me saying this, but you Mom's reaction to the names was really rude. If she doesn't like them, she should just smile and be quiet. It's your choice and you need to do what make you and DH happy. Also, I totally understand wanting to honor DH's grandfather by using his name. Honestly, DH's brother should not be so upset. He should also be honored that his nephew is sharing a family name. Yes, I can see his point about maybe someday wanting to use that name, but it's no reason to be ugly. My SIL family has like 4 David's and 2 Jim's and it's NO big deal.

Rose: Welcome back! I am sorry that you were not able to enjoy your trip. I would definitely talk to your doctor if you are throwing up a lot. Yes, BDing can cause spotting.

My weekend was very busy. I don't know if these are pregnancy headaches or something else, but I've had almost a migraine for 2-1/2 days now. Tylenol really doesn't help very much. I really don't feel like being at work today. *Sigh*

I never had the opportunity to post my ultrasound pics, but am going to attempt that tonight.

aufachse405 · 04-14-2008, 09:48 AM

Ughhhhhhhhhhh. Refrain, I am sooooo sorry about the name drama. I am so over name drama. We have been experiencing it also---not to the level of being yelled at and being called selfish...but it still sucks. My mom literally told me the girl name we picked out sounded like the name of a witch, and she would not call her granddaughter that, etc. Since then she has called me every single day to tell us names we SHOULD use. Its is so frustrating. I can't even imagine going through what you did. I hope you guys still use Zane, if DH's brother really wants to use it too then he CAN. There are plenty of families that have people with the same name. THATS what makes it a family name. Sheesh. In any case, I love the names you picked out, they are nice and have family ties which I like.

Also, Im so sorry about your grandmother....this has to be a lot on your shoulders right now, so try not to stress out too much.

refrain02 · 04-14-2008, 09:50 AM

bobbysgirl-sorry about the headaches...I had them bad too, right at your weeks too. What helped was iced tea...yes it has caffeine in it but its not that bad...not like a mountain dew or anything...it took the edge off for me.

I think this whole name argument is a front for a longer standing argument between two brothers. DH's little brother always feels like DH gets more attention, is the first to do everything (buy a house/get married/have kids) and its nothing but pure sibling rivalry. I want to get in the middle of it so bad and tell his little brother exactly what I think, but I'm attempting to stay out of it all. It's not about the name, its about them.

Mom is just insensitive sometimes, and she called yesterday and said something revealing. She had always just assumed that my daughter would pass on her side of family names. From me up to g-grandmother, we all have the middle name Ann, and she just was shocked that my daughters name had nothing to do with her or her side of the family. selfish people, I wanna kick em.

aufachse405 · 04-14-2008, 09:51 AM

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Originally Posted by bobbysgirl2005

Refrain: WOW! You have had a very tough time. I hope you don't mind me saying this, but you Mom's reaction to the names was really rude. If she doesn't like them, she should just smile and be quiet.

Haha! You obviously have not started talking names with people. You will not BELIEVE the reactions you get. DH and I like really NORMAL names, nothing crazy, but when we tell people what they are, they scrunch their faces, they say things like "Oh. That sounds bad..", etc. If no one does this to you, then you are the luckiest person ever. Even people I work with have made comments. Its like..everyone thinks they are an expert. Ill go to work, and a co-worker will say "I thought of a new name for you." Its like everyone thinks its their choice too. I swear, when we finally choose a name, its a secret until the baby is born. ugh. Its terrible and frustrating!!

aufachse405 · 04-14-2008, 09:54 AM

Refrain, your mom sounds soooooo much like my mom. I just had an email from her this morning saying that her maiden name would be the perfect choice for a middle name if we have a son.

Also---our middle name choice for a boy is my dad and my brothers first name. My brother has a son and had the chance to use it, he didn't, so its up for grabs. Well, my parents are divorced so my mom keeps making comments on how Im going to use my dads name if its a boy but not hers for the girl name. She says things like "I know you want to name the baby after your dad...I don't know why..." Im not naming the baby after my dad, Im using a name that has been in our family for a long long time. Gimme a BREAK. UGHGHGHGHGHGH. *head explodes*

Rose28 · 04-14-2008, 10:22 AM

I had no idea that people could react like this about a name! I'm definitely keeping my mouth shut until that baby shoots out cause my family is so opinionated and will probably make fun of anything I pick.

Refrain - I was just gonna say, this sounds like it has more to do with an issue between two brothers than the choice of a name. I hope they can work it out. My DH has a younger brother and there is always drama between us. For example, we were out for dinner with my brother-in-law and his new wife and DH told them that I was pregnant and all his brother had to say was "No Sh-t" which basically meant that everyone figured it out cause I wasn't drinking on the trip. He didn't say anything else, no congratulations, nothing. I just figure that it's his problem and not mine. Even if he is hurt about your name choice, it is not fair for him to react that way. Sorry to hear about your grandmother.

I'm taking diclectin for my nausea and it seems to be helping quite a bit. My diet is so limited, did you guys have trouble eating certain foods? I pretty much only eat carbs and meat and I feel like the baby is not getting proper nutrition, but the thought of eating most foods makes me ill.