Thin Expecting Cysters April - Page 5

aufachse405 · 04-14-2008, 10:29 AM

Amy----I doubt I ate a single healthy thing between 8 and 14 weeks. ALL I could keep down were carbs and starches. I just went with it, at least I was eating, right? I don't think I had any fruits or veggies during that time. Im trying to make up for it now with plenty of healthy foods. I don't know what a doctor would say, but I think as long as you are eating and taking vitamins, the baby will be okay. At this point its taking its nutrients from you, not the food. So you should be fine. I hope the nausea goes away soon!

Rose28 · 04-14-2008, 10:41 AM

Evyn - Good to hear. I asked a friend of mine that has a 2 year old and she said the same thing. For a very long time she only ate carbs and starches cause she just wasn't able to eat anything else and her son is healthy. How have you been feeling? Shouldn't it be over for you yet?

aufachse405 · 04-14-2008, 10:46 AM

Its a loooot better now. Ill get waves of nausea now and again, but I havn't thrown up in like a week! WOOHOO! (Small victories, right?!) I mainly get sick now if Ive not had anything to eat in awhile, so I try to keep snacks nearby. Granola bars are a fave, because they are small and fit into my purse.

There was one week, one of my worst weeks where i think all I ate was sour candy and mashed potatos. Everyone at work kept making jokes that the baby would come out mad at me for what I was eating, but I couldn't help it!! it feels sooo good now to be able to eat an actual meal.

bobbysgirl2005 · 04-14-2008, 11:12 AM

Refrain: Thanks for the iced tea tip. I think I'll give that a try so that I can get some relief. I also agree that your DH and his brother must have other issues to work out. Aren't families fun??

Rose: I'm sorry that your BIL reacted that way at your announcement. It does hurt a little, I'm sure. My DH's immediate family are all nuts and make our lives miserable. (Sorry, but they really are.) Anway, not one of them even said "Congrats", "How Exciting", nada. They didn't even acknowledge that we are pregnant. It hurt at first, and probably bothers my DH more than me. Since then I keep telling myself, "Oh, well. It's their loss." Also, like Evyn said, I didnt' eat hardly anything healthy from week 6 to week 11. Mostly jello, popsicles and carbs. I still have food aversions and carbs taste the best, but I am trying to add more fruits and veggies.

Evyn: Yeah, you're right. So far we haven't really discussed baby names with family. I'm sure we'll have a reaction from someone. It's really gonna bug me if people at work start offering their advice.

sheepiegirl · 04-14-2008, 11:58 AM

Amy--yeah, I went through my 'bad food stage' about weeks 9-12 when nothing sounded particularly good. I ate a lot of organic bean and cheese burritos. I figured, at least they're organic! But don't worry about it. You have plenty of time to eat healthy--now it's just important to try and eat whatever you can handle. It gets better! It was just weird for me since I'm SUCH a veggie/salad girl.

Bobbysgirl--yeah, I got headaches around your time too. Ugh, they were horrible, I didn't get much in the way of morning sickness, but the headaches weren't any fun at all. That's when I started incorporating caffeine back into my life. The whole first trimester I was really pretty good and basically had maybe one or two cups of coffee per week. But with the headaches I felt like the caffeine helped, so I went back to having a cup of coffee on most days (which I still do). And it seemed to help, and a little caffeine isn't bad to have.

About the names: Yeah, naming kids is crazy. We're not telling anyone our choices until she's actually here and named. Otherwise people think they have some say in it, when really they don't.

So, I feel like I'm going to dislocate my hips! They hurt so much! Usually at night I toss and turn and sleep on one side until the hip hurts and then switch over. Now they start hurting within a few minutes, and even sleeping propped up on my back doesn't stop them from hurting. And every time I bend over, my hips click and pop! I'm sure it's just ligaments and stuff, but I'm going to ask my dr about it at my next appt--I don't want my hips to pop out of their sockets! And today I am SO sore from all the popping. I feel like I've done leg bends.

aturnbg · 04-14-2008, 12:17 PM

refrain - I am so sorry about the rough time you are going through. Families suck, that's for sure. It sounds like we all have a similar story, and the same is for me. You are a strong woman though, and you will get through this. Have you found out what is causing the anemia yet?

sheepie - I know what you are talking about, my hips are killing me. I dread going to bed at night anymore, b/c I know I'm not going to sleep well and my hips will just start killing me! They make popping noises to! I can only lay on my left side, b/c I get a crazy pain in my right lung if I lay on my right, so I am always flipping left side to sitting up! It is driving me crazy!

Amy - So sorry about your DH brother's crappy repsonse to your pregnancy news. Siblings can be jerks!

I am having a ultrasound tomm. morning to check on the girls growths and a doctors apt. on Wednesday. I am excited about seeing them, keeping my fingers crossed they are both still head down! They are getting close to the point where they won't be able to flip, so I am hoping they are both head down. I am getting to freaking huge now, I can hardly move around the house. Forget stairs to, I just want to sit or lay down in a up right position. I know i'm just going to get bigger, I just don't see how it's possible or how I'm going to handle it. I keep reminding myself... it's for the babies...

thirteen · 04-14-2008, 02:48 PM

Wow, I feel really far behind!

Rose – Glad you had a nice trip to Aruba, even though you weren’t feeling well. Sorry your BIL wasn’t more excited about your big news. As for certain foods, I actually crave fruit a lot lately and it tastes SOOO good! The thought of veggies isn’t very appealing, but I’ve actually found that most veggies (minus those bland winter tomatoes we get up here in WI) taste really good too. But the rule of thumb is usually to eat what you can and just *try* to get a balanced diet. It’ll get easier in a few weeks when you hit the 2nd tri.

Shell – Yay for finding the hb on the doppler! It’s amazing how great those can be for peace of mind.

Bobysgirl – Sorry to hear about the headaches. Hope it’s gone soon!

Sheepie – Sorry your hips are so sore! I’d definitely check in with your dr – maybe there’s something you can do to reduce the pressure.

Aturn – Hope the appts go well this week! What is the normal time for delivery of twins? Will they let you go to 40 weeks or do they usually try to deliver them sooner? I hope you don’t have too much longer to go!

Refrain – So sorry to hear about your rough weekend. I’m sorry for the loss of your grandmother. For some reason, the cycle of life hit me harder once I got pg with DS and I became a part of that cycle… I hope you’re doing ok. I’m sorry your mom is putting lots of pressure on you. She’s probably very emotional right now, so it’s hard to say no, but you absolutely need to set your limits and stick to it. The Target incident should be a good reminder that you need to take it easy right now. And OMG about the pg woman hater! You should have knocked on the door until she was done! lol FTR, my SIL & BIL are pg women haters. Actually, your name problem with your BIL sounds like something they would have told us too. And, like you, our situation is pure sibling rivalry. (In fact, we still haven’t told them we’re pg because they were so awful the first time around I just don’t want to deal with it again.) Anyway, I’m sorry the name is such a hot issue. There’s plenty of time for it to blow over – maybe he’ll feel honored instead of cheated, maybe you’ll find a way to compromise, maybe there’s an even better solution out there… But whatever happens, I hope it’s settled with no hard feelings. As for your mom, I can see her POV and being hurt about not passing on the name Ann, but isn’t Lillian a form of Ann? I say that counts!

Evyn – Good choice to keep quiet on the name game. I know so many people who have sealed their lips and not divulged until the baby was born and it drove people crazy! But it’s better than being driven crazy by the whole world giving you their opinion on what you name your child and ruining some names for you. (Oh, I had a dog named Piper once. Ugh, I knew this girl in HS named Annmarie and she was a b*tch – but it’s a nice name! Kieran is not a boy’s name, it’s such a GIRL name. You can’t name your son THAT!) Ugh, it's no fun!

We had a good, but busy weekend. DH was sick all weekend so I tried to take DS out and give DH some quiet time at home. DS had a tumbling class on Sat, then we headed to Target where I dropped a small fortune on who knows what! The weather was crappy so we came home and spent the rest of the day inside. Yesterday we went to “Kidsfest” with my sister and her 4 yo. It was so busy and bright and loud and crazy – talk about sensory overload! But DS and my nephew had fun and it was good to get out of the house. I’m glad it only happens once a year though – whew! I was ready for a nap when I got home!

Last week I had a weird thing with a tightness in my chest. Has anyone else experienced this? I felt like there was a lot of pressure on my upper chest, but I could still take a deep breath and expand my rib cage without it hurting any more than it already did... It went away after about 20 minutes or so. It was so weird. And of course when anything weird like that happens I find myself wondering if it’s serious enough to call the dr or if I should wait and bring it up at the next appt.

Hmm, seems this post got awfully long. Sorry for the novel!

TrishainAZ · 04-14-2008, 02:59 PM

I keep trying not to pipe in, but wanted to say sorry refrain for all the drama. Unfortunately its been my experience that bringing children into your family can cause HUGE drama. I got along fine with everyone until i had kids. Now there is a lot of tension. We all deal with it, but I never expected it. Good luck!

thirteen · 04-14-2008, 03:35 PM

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Originally Posted by TrishainAZ

I keep trying not to pipe in, but wanted to say sorry refrain for all the drama. Unfortunately its been my experience that bringing children into your family can cause HUGE drama. I got along fine with everyone until i had kids. Now there is a lot of tension. We all deal with it, but I never expected it. Good luck!

Isn't it sad that that's the case?

It should be a joyous occasion to bring new life into the world - and especially into your family - but sometimes it brings out the worst in people. I just can't figure that out.

refrain02 · 04-14-2008, 05:23 PM

I was naive. I knew there would be drama with our wedding b/c I had seen what other friends had been through...but I was ignorant enough to think that bringing a cute baby(ies) into this world would be so wonderful that no one would cause a stink. Oh well. Lesson learned.

I now have the attitude that with all of the pain and struggles DH & I have had to go through just to bring these two miracles into the world...anyone who has the nerve to take one ounce of joy away from us can just go jump off a bridge (nice way of saying f&$* off).

hey thirteen...why does your avatar have fourteen dots. It keeps confusing me

OH forgot to say...had my 3 hour GTT today. I didn't know the drink would be 2x as concentrated and taste awful (I didn't think the 1hr was that bad). I got really dizzy and thought that orange stuff was going to come up and onto the floor. Glad its over...

thirteen · 04-14-2008, 06:25 PM

refrain - LOL at the avatar question. You got me! I swear when I picked it out I counted the dots 100 times and it was always 13 dots. Months later I looked at it and realized it was 14 dots. I've been looking around for a new avatar but so far haven't found one I like. Since I'm bored at work today (hence my numerous posts lol), maybe I'll go work on that.

Glad the 3 hr GTT is behind you - tho I'm sorry it was so yucky! Crossing my fingers for good results.

I have to say, I love your attitude about bringing a baby(ies) into the world. I'm at a bit of a disadvantage in my situation because DH and I tried off & on for 18 mos to get DS, then were totally surprised with this one. Meanwhile BIL & SIL have been trying for #1 for probably close to 4 years and have been dxed with fertility issues. They refuse to talk to anyone but MIL & FIL about it so I don't even know what they're dealing with... other than frustration and jealousy. Don't get me wrong - I am very sympathetic to their situation. I wanted a child desperately for years before we even started trying. And between my PCOS and the possibility that DH could be sterile we had our share of worries. So I know how hard it is to want something and be frustrated when other people get what you so desperately want. It just kills me that they can't find an ounce of happiness inside them for their nephew. It's heartbreaking that *their* issues are more important than an innocent child.

I'm sorry. I didn't mean to rant. As you can tell, this is a very emotional matter for me and it's been a hard two years. But maybe I just need to take a different attitude that they, too, can jump off a bridge!

ETA: Hmm, changed it to a new one. Not sure if I like it or not... I may have to keep searching.

ETA again: Ok, this one is better. And i'm pretty sure there's 13 circles.

WishinIwasInCA · 04-14-2008, 06:39 PM

So I just had to comment on the naming thing. I can't get over people out there. Why is it that people don't understand if they can't say anything nice they shouldn't say anything at all, especially family. I totally agree at not telling anyone untill the kids are born. My DH and I have been ttc w/ help since 2004, and we are expecing twin boys next month. We have had a list of names picked out for years. We told our famlies our choices...which was fine....but my SIL & MIL let me know that they didn't approve over Thanksgiving. I was so hurt I had my husband let them know that it was not acceptable. Mom and Dad are the only two who get the say in the naming and parenting of their children. So in Feb my SIL threw me a shower. The night before the shower she started on the whole thing AGAIN. I kindly let her know that it was not up to her, that she had no right to say things that were hurtful, it's our decision and she can name her kids what she wants. Well she is so immature she WOULDN'T drop it. Now I don't ever want to speak to her again, and she is not allowed arround my boys. Why don't people get that it is a personal decision.

About the vaccine thing, I don't think there is anything wrong with a delayed schedule. I do have to say that so far all the scientific research shows that genetic factors most likely combined with environmental factors are the most likely cause of Autism. They believe that the genes that made human intelligent are most likely responsable for the mutations that lead to autism. And there are studies showing that exposure to pesticids also increases risk for autism. It's only one study so it's not conclusive evidence yet. So far studies show no link between vaccination and autism. The reason why they are associated is because autism usually rears it's ugly head about the same time children are vaccinated. With the MMR there used to be a form of mercury used as a preservative in it which people assumed was the cause for autism. They no longer use mercury in the MMR and rates of autism are on the rise, so I don't think it would be the cause.

hsuter · 04-14-2008, 07:18 PM

Hey ladies,

Refrain-sorry about all the drama, families can be tough sometimes! Hopefully once those two little miracles arrive everyone will be able to put their differences aside...hopefully.

About the names thing...dh is named after his dad so he is John David II, so of course if one of our little ones is a boy he wants to name him John David III. Unfortunately I do not like that name but feel obligated to use it...ugh!

I have an appointment Thursday morning to check my BP and just check in with the dr...hopefully we will get to hear the hb's w/the doppler.

TrishainAZ · 04-14-2008, 07:57 PM

Yeah, my hubby is the third **** in his family but he goes by his middle name. Luckily, it never even came up as an option to name our son that!!!! I'm sure that was an issue amongst his family though but no one mentioned it. I figure, hey he gets their last name, let us figure out the first name!

wantsababy07 · 04-14-2008, 08:37 PM

Hi Ladies! I must say I'm not looking forward to any future name drama. We already know the name if it is a baby girl since I have liked it for years and still thinking about the boy's name but have a few that we are considering.

Refrain- I meant to tell you in my previous post that I think the names you and dh have chosen are really pretty and cute. I guess if you don't stick to these names your fam may think they can continue to influence you on future choices. Yes we have all been through a lot just to be pregnant and I wish family could sometimes realize that and be sensitive to the whole thing.

Evyn- I'm glad you're starting to feel better.

I hope everyone else is doing well in their pregnancies