Think I wish Someone had told me after my 1st M/C - Page 2

tcrock02 · 04-02-2009, 05:19 PM

You know whats sad about this is that we find more information out for ourselves on here and by surfing then the doctors even give us. I hate feeling like i dont have any answers. I know they say well sometimes there is no reason but i think that is a cop-out. If my baby had a heartbeat and then zap it is gone there has to be a reason. MAybe they dont know where to look or what to look for but there HAS to be one. You know what i am saying?Its heartbreaking.

R0xyg4l · 04-02-2009, 05:22 PM

I definetly know what you're saying. Something has to happen from one point to another that the hb just stops. I think whats a joke is they tell you after you hear the hb you have this very minimal chance of m/cing... I've heard the hb each time and it just vanishes. There has to be a reason.

tcrock02 · 04-04-2009, 12:50 AM

WEll Af finally came for a visit so i am torn wether to ttc this month because i still have no answers about my m/c's... this just sucks. dh says it is totally up to me since it is my body that has to go thru everything. on one hand i think i wont know if i dont try and on the other i am not sure my heart can take another crack. so i am pondering asprin therapy and also considering what you reccommened roxy. i am anxious to get my results on monday also. my mind is everywhere. let me know how both of you are doing this post is really giving me something to look forward to. i can get on here and rant and rave and no one thinks i am nuts.....LOL

R0xyg4l · 04-04-2009, 12:55 AM

IF it were me personally, I wouldn't waste another month. I mean I definetly know how you feel. I will probably ovulate before I find out whats wrong... but if I'm Oing... I'm BDing for sure lol. It's a personal decision, and going through a m/c again just the thought makes me want to curl up in the fetal position and give up all faith in anything BUT the chance that you may get pregnant and you always have the chance that it MAY be a successful pregnancy. I say go for it but thats for you to decide!

wannabamama · 04-04-2009, 01:17 AM

tcrock - I'm not where you are yet, but I say do what feels right. It's so good that DH is behind you and thinking of you in moving forward. I can only imagine how scary it will be moving forward. I'm sort of on pause right now. I know that I want to move forward, but don't know if I can with TTC. I know eventually I will, but when?

My appt. with OB is on 4/13, so I'm hoping she'll give me more information/direction. My first therapist appt. is on 4/16, so I'd like to see how that goes as well.....

I'm thinking of both of you each day.

R0xyg4l · 04-04-2009, 01:22 AM

Jen ~ I have my OB appt on 4/10. I'll be thinking of you that Monday after (though I will be away in Indiana). I will try to check in for an update. I'm hoping my brother at home has internet...

I think for me I have such baby fever that I wouldn't want to wait. I know it seems reasonable for me to wait and a lot of people are telling me "I'd wait till you know whats going on." Ehhh I may never know whats going on. But I'll keep trying till I get what I want. Ultimately, I second what Jenn says, go with what feels right.

Either way let us know how it's going!

tcrock02 · 04-05-2009, 11:45 PM

Roxy do you get your results on the 10th or see what tests they are going to order? i can t remmeber if you already told me i am getting old-lol
I will be thinking of both of you on your appointment days and praying for some direction. i get my last tests results tomorrow and i am pretty nervous. as for the rest of me AF is really pissed. This is the worst period i have ever had. Yesterday i was changing pads every 30 minutes and tonight i had to come from church for the same reason. it has kinda tapered off now but holy cow i think i lost half of my blood these last few days. well i am gonna TTC this cycle. Either way there is no guarantee for the results but i wont know unless i do try. i know my body is tired but my heart so much wants to touch that little baby. Do you guys ever feel like BD"ing becomes a chore? or is it just me? Do either of you belong to cafemom? it is another site that has support groups but it is not specifically for PCOS. I like this one better though. WE could start a new thread and all TTC together--- silly? maybe but i need all the support i can get from people who understand my up days and down days. ok im going to bed. nite ladies

R0xyg4l · 04-06-2009, 02:01 PM

Trock ~ I've heard of cafemom but I don't think I've ever been there. I use to post a lot on ivillage back in the day. I love the wealth of information here but having more support is always a good thing! I am definetly down for starting our own TTC thread. What should we call it? Maybe something related to Spring? Since a lot of our m/c was right around the start. I go to just get my stuff for bw. I'm going to have to keep myself busy til we get results I am not a very patient person. Good thing the whole first week I'll be visiting my fam in Indiana. You're bleeding quite heavy! That would be considered hemorrhaging (well really any bleeding could be but thats pretty freakin' heavy!). The rule of thumb is if you're filling up one overnight pad in less than a half hour to call someone. I hope you're OK and still have some blood inside you!

I'm glad it's tapered off. It's horrible to sit around and worry "OMG what if I spot through my pants!?!". BDing definetly seems like a chore when you're TTC. After we got pg with my first m/c bebe my DH goes "Thank goodness that was tedious!" I was like "Boy did you just call making love to me tedious?" lol. Sometimes when it feels like you HAVE to do it... it kinda takes the fun out of it. I hope you get some good bad news today lol. At least it will give you direction to say OK this is it and this is what we have to do. I will cross my fingers and toes for you!

annem84 · 04-06-2009, 02:06 PM

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Its ok to call it a baby-not a fetus or a product of conception

That one hits me the hardest--to me it is a baby--to the medical profession it is a fetus. They knew it was a baby to me but yet kept calling it a fetus. It hurt so much every time they said it. That and when they say "not viable". Those two words are so cruel, in my opinion.

R0xyg4l · 04-06-2009, 02:26 PM

Anne ~ I agree. Thankfully, I've never had anyone call my babies a product of conception. I would be really offended. But they've always let me refer to the little one as "the baby".

wannabamama · 04-06-2009, 03:00 PM

The phrase that stings me the most is "Spontaneous abortion." I know my OB could tell my reaction, because she immediatley told me that that's the "medical term" and that we both know that it's not an abortion, but a miscarriage.

tcrock02 · 04-07-2009, 01:59 PM

Ya really spontaneous abortion what kind of crap is that. to even tack abortion onto anyword connected with miscarriage is insensitive all in itself. I am so against abortion anyway but probably mostly because of all of us. I mean hello we are struggling to just hold it together some days and there women walk into clinics and kill their babies everyday-i dont understand it at all...ok im off my soapbox. my dr called my last baby a product of conception and i was quick to correct him and he didnt say anything like that to me after that.
Well i didnt get my results yesterday from my MTHFR test.The dr said i should call Wednesday again to see if they are in yet. Dont it seem like we are always waiting for something. i mean seriously. we wait for Af, wait for temps to raise, wait for stick to turn colors, wait to BD.....grrrrr.....I know it will be worth it in the end. I told DH yesterday that i want to try this cycle. And he said that was up to me. It took me a year last time to get pg again so i am not wasting any time. My DH is 47 though and he tends to want to sleep instead of BD so i have to be really creative in my tactics.LOL.Man i swear this AF is aweful. totally crampy and i have used 2 almost 3 packs of pads since friday that is how bad it is.
So any suggestions ladies what we should call our new TTC thread together? My brain is just not working correctly.
Oh ya Roxy when u are indiania u better try to get on here....lol....i need my Cyster FIX daily- talk 2 u all later

R0xyg4l · 04-07-2009, 02:04 PM

TTC after a Spring Loss ? Simple too the point pretty accurate lol.

I am DEFINETLY going to try to get on during my trip. I get too anxious to see whats going on with everyone. My older brother has access to the internet I'm just not sure if he does it on his Blackberry or if he does it on his laptop. Either way I'm going to be bugging him. Its a subject I've already brought up and unfortunately no answer yet.

I hope you get the results on Wednesday. I can't imagine having to continue to wait for stuff. The results are what is going to eat me alive from the inside out. OK tell me what it is so I can move on!!!

Good luck Trock trying to get your man to DTD. My Dh is so easy lol. The other night... this may be TMI lol but I told him I thought I felt a spot on my breast. So I had him feel it and that was it... But he is 27, those hormones are all over the place.

R0xyg4l · 04-07-2009, 02:20 PM

Jen (TTCTeacher) made a TTC thread we could join! Here's the link: TTC after any kind of M/C (scared, confused, and everything!)

wannabamama · 04-07-2009, 10:33 PM

Trock - Yes, I agree! We are always waiting on pins and needles! I'm sorry that you have to wait yet again for your results. I hope you get some answers too!

Kristina - I agree! You better check in with us! What are we going to do without you? Well, at least we're forewarned in case you can't get access! I'm going to check out the new TTC thread now. ANother forum that I'm on actually has a board called TTC after a loss. Maybe we can see the response to the thread and ask Kat to start this type of board on soulcysters.