Thread: Thinking About Trying Again After A Loss?

Tia, my fingers are crossed for you!

Siany, I'm glad to see you are still around.

Mustard Seed - Good luck persuading the Dr.

Hi ladies –

Well had my RE appt Tuesday to discuss this up coming cycle. But before I get to that want to discuss the cycle I’m in… trying not to get my hopes up too much as it truly is just more a let when get that BFN. However, my temps are still up and being having a lot of symptoms that I had in the 2WW when I got pg – such as hot flashes , creamy cm, heartburn, and major cramping going on in the lower ab area.

OK so about the RE appt as I figured… he wants to think about injectables. There have been so many things swimming around in my head right now 1. if I choose not to do injectables no more clomid from this dr so would have to find another dr (very far for me to drive) and probably could only do 2 more rounds of clomid. 2. If I choose not to do shots or find another RE then I’m putting us out and then we may never have kids. 3. If I do the shots if we have multiples (more than 2) than dr is talking about “selective reduction” and just not sure how I feel. 4. Dr presented the idea to me instead of doing injectables to move straight to IVF as it has a higher success rate on any given cycle (yet much more expensive and I’m sure my insurance would probably only cover 1). 5. Lastly, injectables is going to require (especially the 1st month) more time off from work and what do I tell my job?

So can you see why my brain hurts?!?!? LOL Oh and I almost forgot he wants me to think about having the hsg xray (he won’t push me to do it but advised it would be a good idea); biggest problem is I would have to take a cycle off. Hello? Why didn’t he mention this during the 3 months I was off have my m/c?

Needless to say DH and sat down last night to talk over all our options ; I really need his support on this (he is the best as he keeps me grounded most of the time when I feel like I’m losing it) – no matter what we decide. We talked and then decided we would make a decision in a few days after we both had time to mull over things.

Tia: dr offices do get really busy and sometimes you totally feel like a number. Hope this cycle is a good one for you ending in a BFP!!

Alenna: I know how frustrated you must be. You know you might ask if you could do the progestrone shot (really isn’t that bad) and my drs office doesn’t require the b/w like with provera. Progestrone is natural and if you were pg wouldn’t hurt the baby.

Sian: I’d like to have a “snowed in” day! Enjoy your time off!

P4B: good to see you here! Guess even after you get pg there is so much to worry about. So you having any feelings boy or girl at this time?

I will be testing this Saturday am – DH is going to be there with me when I do it because not sure this time around if I have the strength to look at the results (good or bad). We have decided only to tell our moms right off and plan to have a few good betas before even telling some close friend and lastly 1st u/s to show pg is viable before telling our bigger cycle of friends and such.

Gina: thinking about you! How you doing?

Hello Ladies,
I recognize several names on this Board. Now I am officially joining! I have been on the PG, MC rollercoaster for almost 2 weeks. After almost 3yrs of TTC I o'ed on 7.5mg of Femara on Jan 29th. I got an official BFP on 2/14, then on 2/20 I started spotting the beta # didn't go up like it should have on 2/21, then on 2/23 it dropped and I had an US and there wasn't anything in the uterus except "debris" per my ob/gyn, so I went home and thought it was all over boy was I wrong!!! I had a follow up appt on 2/28 where I got the " sometimes these things happen and I am so sorry" spill. He said that if my urine pg test was - I wouldn't have to have a beta well wouldn't you know it it was still + so I got stuck AGAIN. they called me 3/1 and told me I needed to be seen that day Because the beta # was now higher than it had ever gotten, so I went had another US and still the "debris" in my uterus, he said I needed to have a D&C that evening because it wasn't certain I didn't have an ectopic PG. well now lets review I was estatic B/c i am finally PG, now sad b/c I am MC'ing, and now doubly scared because on top of all of my Infertility I really can't afford to loose a TUBE!!! So I went in and had a D&C at 6pm 3/1 the dr's came in and said my beta had dropped but they were still uncertain that the minute amt of tissue they retrieved was actually the pg. So I opted to be safe than sorry and had them give me an injection of Methotrexate to dissolve a tubal pg if there still is one. So now I am here. empty handed and determined. By the time I had the d&c i was 6weeks and 3days pg, eventhough I started bleeding at 5weeks I am Naming my angel baby Loren.

TTYL
Jamie

Welcome Jamie!
I'm sorry you have to be here though. I've been following your story on another thread and I'm so sorry for your loss.

I'm glad to hear that you feel ready to join us. There is a fantastic group of women here willing to offer you hope and support whenever you need it. We are all here in different stages of grief but, all with the same goal in mind. We are all determined to think ahead. We all know that we want to be Mommies, and not just mommies to angels.
Just know that you are among friends here. Nothing you say or feel will sound crazy to us. Someone on this thread has either been there or is there right now. Feel free to vent, rant, cry, laugh or to share good news.

We are here for you!

.... and I'm going crazy!!! So I just need some people to obsess with me LOL My temp is going up and up and up... now of my other charts have been such a stair step up. My symptoms so far have been.... hot flashes, creamy and sticky cm, heartburn, and major cramping going on in the lower ab area.

Trying not to get my hopes up to much but if my temp stays up I do plan to test tomorrow am - 10dpo as my average LP is about 12 days. This cycle I decided to test with Jason there - not sure if I could read the results on my own (whether good or bad) and I know he is kind of excited to be part of it this time. I know that even if I get a BFN tomorrow that I’m not out as it could be too early, but fingers and toes crossed!!!

I’ve been thinking about if I don’t get pg this cycle taking a few months off from the RE before we would move on to injectables and try the soy route (see there on some threads around here about it). Also DH and I talked about the whole injectables thing the other night and want to mull over it for a few days before we made an actual decision.

Tia: I did 2 rounds of clomid and got pg on the 2nd round and m/c at 10 weeks. I guess I have to have the month for a hsg cycle due to the fact I have to be off met for about a week and also because he does it a few days after AF and when you do clomid or injectables you have to start them on CD3 and the hsg won’t be to CD4, 5, etc Oh well just hoping I’m pg and not have to make any decisions

I think that unusual sleep patterns could throw your cycle off a bit but hopefully not too much. GL to you this cycle!

Jamie: (((hugs))) sorry about the roller coaster of emotions you have had to go through! Welcome to our group and hope you find all the support you need here!

Michelle,
I have everything crossed for you!!!!

I havent been on in here in so long it is almost too hard for me to comment to everyone like I want to. So instead I will just say good luck to everyone in ttc and to those that already are pg. I went to my Dr on tuesday and she is literally starting from the beginning after I lost my twin boys on 2/10/06 due to incompetent cervix. She said she wants to get my body in the best shape possible before I getpg again. I am trying to look at it as taking steps forward towards being pg again. It is frustrating though. Ahhhhhh. I had to have a million and one tests done and have to go back for glucose tests. Then I go back March 14 to be sure I healed from the delivery and D&C so we can start ttc again. I wish all of this was easier. Oh well...everyone hold their glasses up and cheers to moving forward in the journey to being pg! Wishing everyone lots of baby dust!!!

Cheers!

hi girls!
well its still snowing here its startin 2 drive me mad now fun for the first day but after 4 days its a pain in the a**e!! been on a downer all week for some reason been feeling really fat and frumpy u know wot i mean?????
but just been 2 have my hair cut and straightened and feelin pretty good bout myself again! yay!
am prayin that this snow clears 2day or 2nite cos weve got a christening at 10 am 2moro and me and my dh are ment 2 b godparents but at this rate doesnt look like we'll be able to get there! ive got my appointment with my gynaecologist on tuesday which im kinda excited bout cos ive been waitin since june for so will hopefully be able to prescribe some meds! wish me luck!
hope everyones ok and havin a good weekend and good weather!!

Siany,
I'm with you, snow is beautiful for about one day. After that, it's miserable. We haven't had much snow here this winter but, it's not over yet. I hope the weather cooperates so you can go to the christening.

Good luck with Tuesday's appt.!

.... and BFN however my period isn't scheduled to come my way for 2 days so there is still hope. As long as my temp stays up I plan to test 11dpo, 12dpo, etc until I end with a BFP or AF!!

I have to say that having Jason there when I tested was a bonding experience for both of us. First it showed him what I went through all the times I tested and got a BFN. Secondly I got to see that he had more a reaction to it then the times I just told it was negative. Lastly we realized that we are a team and together we can do anything - that is why we got married to be together and having or not having a child does not change our feelings towards each other.

Guess you could say that it has been a life changing day for us! Now here is BFP for tomorrow morning LOL

Hi ladies –

Sorry no personals right now kind of in a yucky mood. 10dpo, 11dpo and 12dpo all BFN!! And of course my temps have been dropping all weekend… I think AF will find my tomorrow or Wednesday. I tried really hard not to get my hopes up for this cycle but my temps were so good and all the symptoms I was having! I just don’t know if I can do the injectables but if I don’t then we are out because I don’t ovulate without the meds. Why does this all have to be so damn complicated???