This is a sad one ( have kleenex handy & be ready to read it ): I recently read a thread on this site about a child who was born w/ downs syndrome & 3 heart defects & had to have surgery on his heart & didn't make it. I've always questioned why God would do this to parents who want nothing more than to experience life w/ children. I remembered an e-mail I received sometime after I miscarried. Miscarriage is bad enough. I cannot even imagine what it would be like to go through a child passing away after it has a name, seeing its face & features, & feeling its delicate skin as you rock it to sleep. I am not the most religious person & have never claimed to be, but I do believe in God. I do one day, when it's my time, hope that I will see the 2 babies I miscarried in heaven one day. This is getting lengthy, so I will post this e-mail that I received that helps me to get through......WHY???????????
Sally jumped up as soon as she saw the surgeon come out of the operating
>room. She said: "How is my little boy? Is he going to be all right? When
>can I see him?"
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>The surgeon said, "I'm sorry. We did all we could, but your boy didn't make
>it."
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>Sally said, "Why do little children get cancer? Doesn't God care any more?
>Where were you, God, when my son needed you?"
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>The surgeon asked, "Would you like some time alone with your son? One of
>the
>nurses will be out in a few minutes, before he's transported to the
>university."
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>Sally asked the nurse to stay with her while she said good-bye to son. She
>ran her fingers lovingly through his thick red curly hair.
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>"Would you like a lock of his hair?" the nurse asked.
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>Sally nodded yes. The nurse cut a lock of the boy's hair, put it in a
>plastic bag and handed it to Sally. The mother said, "It was Jimmy's idea
>to
>donate his body to the university for study. He said it might help somebody
>else. "I said no at first, but Jimmy said, 'Mom, I won't be using it after
>I
>die. Maybe it will help some other little boy spend one more day with his
>Mom." She went on, "My Jimmy had a heart of gold. Always thinking of
>someone
>else.. Always wanting to help others if he could."
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>Sally walked out of Children's Mercy Hospital for the last time, after
>spending most of the last six months there. She put the bag with Jimmy's
>belongings on the seat beside her in the car. The drive home was
>difficult.
>It was even harder to enter the empty house. She carried Jimmy's
>belongings, and the plastic bag with the lock of his hair to her son's
>room.
>She started placing the model cars and other personal things back in his
>room exactly where he had always kept them. She laid down across his bed
>and, hugging his pillow, cried herself to sleep.
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>It was around midnight when Sally awoke. Laying beside her on the bed was a
>folded letter. The letter said:
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>"Dear Mom, I know you're going to miss me; but don't think that I will ever
>forget you, or stop loving you, just 'cause I'm not around to say I LOVE
>YOU.. I will always love you, Mom, even more with each day. Someday we
>will
>see each other again. Until then, if you want to adopt a little boy so you
>won't be so lonely, that's okay with me. He can have my room and old stuff
>to play with. But, if you decide to get a girl instead, she probably
>wouldn't like the same things us boys do. You'll have to buy her dolls and
>stuff girls like, you know. Don't be sad thinking about me. This really
>is
>a neat place. Grandma and Grandpa met me as soon as I got here and showed
>me around some, but it will take a long time to see everything. The angels
>are so cool. I love to watch them fly. And, you know what? Jesus doesn't
>look like any of his pictures. Yet, when I saw Him, I knew it was Him.
>Jesus himself took me to see GOD! And guess what, Mom? I got to sit on
>God's knee and talk to Him, like I was somebody important.. That's when I
>told Him that I wanted to write you a letter, to tell you good-bye and
>everything. But I already knew that wasn't allowed. Well, you know what
>Mom? God handed me some paper and His own personal pen to write you this
>letter. I think Gabriel is the name of the angel who is going to drop this
>letter off to you. God said for me to give you the answer to one of the
>questions you asked Him
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> 'Where were you, God, when my son needed you?' "God said He was in the
>same place with me, as when His son Jesus was on the cross. He was right
>there, as He always is with all His children..
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>Oh, by the way, Mom, no one else can see what I've written except you. To
>everyone else this is just a blank piece of paper. Isn't that cool? I
>have
>to give God His pen back now. He needs it to write some more names in the
>Book of Life. Tonight I get to sit at the table with Jesus for supper. I'm,
>sure the food will be great.
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>Oh, I almost forgot to tell you. I don't hurt anymore. The cancer is all
>gone. I'm glad because I couldn't stand that pain anymore and God couldn't
>stand to see me hurt so much, either. That's when He sent The Angel of
>Mercy to come get me. The Angel said I was a Special Delivery! How about
>that?
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>Signed with Love from: God, Jesus & Me.
What is so sad is a coworker is going through this with her 8 yr old son.
He has tescular(sp?) cancer. Yes age eight!! This is the same cancer Lance Armstrong has battled!
Things don't look as bright for him. It took his mom 4 doctors to get one to test him. Why?
because...as I quote...." He is too young to have test cancer. Lumps/tumors in lil boys are benign"
Zeke is now on his second week of a 47 week run of chemo!! He has had bad reactions to the treatment so far. So if the cancer doesn't kill him...the treatment might.
Any loss of a child wehther 2 weeks along or 8 years old is horrifying. I too have miscarried.
I also know what it feels like to loose a child. In no way can I attempt to compare my loss with any other mother.
I have a 10 yr old boy and every time I think about my friend and coworker and what her family is facing...I cry. This is her only child and she can not have more.
If anyone can take a moment to pray for Zeke and Terri, I would appreciate it very much.
Thanks again for sharing.
Patty
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Pattyannruss, I will definitely keep them in my thoughts & prayers. Please keep me posted on how things are going for them. I truly feel that my problems do not even compare to what others go through in daily life. This site has helped me to not take things for granted & feel pity for myself.
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I really enjoyed reading that. Thanks so much for sharing that with us. Sometimes we ask why but God has a plan for all of us and sometimes that plan is not what we want but there is nothing we can do but try to remember the good things about the person that has passed. He does not give us nothing we can not handle in life, somedays and sometimes it feels like we can't handle it but we can, because he will be there to help us with anything that we need help with, he will hold our hands forever and help us along the way when we feel like we can not make it anymore, He is a good god and all we have to do is put our trust and faith in him and everything will work out. When someone passes whether it is someone that is young or old it HURTS and we ask Why, we have so many queshtions, we have so many emotions. God knows that there will be sorrow but he is our Heavenly Father and he will take us by the hand and lead us through the sorrows that we cannot understand, He feels the pain we feel and he knows that a heart takes time to heal, but he will stand beside all of us through the hurting and healing. He is a GOOD GOD!!
First, my prayers are with that little boy and his parents. I pray for them to have some comfort through this battle. I pray that the doctors have learned something from him and not to dismiss things so quickly.
Second, I've had pregnancy losses before and have had healthy children after those losses. Those losses never go away. The pain is always there. It gets better, but it never goes away.
Thanks for posting this...
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My mother-in-law died last Friday of multiple cancers (bones, stomach and lung) on my father-in-law's birthday. This post made me cry, but also gave me comfort. I know she is free now, and that she's in a good place.
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For those of you who have experienced a loss... 
