Even before I knew my husband was a keeper we dated for so long that he knew the same day the doctor told me. He for obvious reasons knew my cycle was off and though we both didn't mind the infertility benefits at the time the end game was we both wanted to be married with kids someday. He educated himself and even came to a couple of my doctor's appointments with me just so he could learn more about what our options were if we couldn't swing conception the natural way. He always had a lot of faith in science and still today has this silly belief that maybe they'll find a cure before it does me any permanent damage.
I have dated three long term guys (one who ended up a husband) and told them straight up when I knew they were going to be a big part of my life. I wouldn't want to hide something like that - start as you mean to go on I say!
ex husband ended up leaving me because I couldn't have children (well rid of him) Another didn't want kids so it didn't bother him and the third whom I am currently with is great about it, but his brothers wife has it and has been trying for kiddies for three years, so he understand it will take a while. Though I dont think he understand the acne, hair, weight ect as I met him when I had lost loads of weight so am petrified that it will all come back and he wont be attracted to me.
But thats a great reason to stay fit and healthy!!
If a guy is worth anything they will take our health problems in their stride I think :O)
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On Dianette 1998 - March 2008
Back on the Pill Sept 2009 but plan to come off it in November 2009
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Your ex husband shouldn't have left u because u can still have kids it just would probably take awhile
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I have dated three long term guys (one who ended up a husband) and told them straight up when I knew they were going to be a big part of my life. I wouldn't want to hide something like that - start as you mean to go on I say!
ex husband ended up leaving me because I couldn't have children (well rid of him) Another didn't want kids so it didn't bother him and the third whom I am currently with is great about it, but his brothers wife has it and has been trying for kiddies for three years, so he understand it will take a while. Though I dont think he understand the acne, hair, weight ect as I met him when I had lost loads of weight so am petrified that it will all come back and he wont be attracted to me.
But thats a great reason to stay fit and healthy!!
If a guy is worth anything they will take our health problems in their stride I think :O)
Yeah I know that, needless to say he is a coward and it was th best excuse he could come up with instead of just saying he felt things weren't working.
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Back on the Pill Sept 2009 but plan to come off it in November 2009
HW - 90kgs (size 18) CW - 66kgs (size 12) lost 4kgs and counting! Check out my weekly weight loss pictures in my personal folder!
GW - Back to 60kgs DS - (Dream Size) Proper size 10
Goals - to be back to full fitness by the time I go to Nepal December 2009
Yeah I know that, needless to say he is a coward and it was th best excuse he could come up with instead of just saying he felt things weren't working.
I was with my hubby when I was diagnosed w/PCOS. We had already been together for almost 6 years at the time. But when me and him first got together he knew I had problems. I was on the pill and he knew that was to regulate my periods. Less than a month after we first got together I had my first surgery. Poor guy has been through everything with me. I call it all hormone hell :].
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My partner was a f*ck buddy back when I first was diagnosed and we were talking about STI checks, contraception etc and so I told him about PCOS then.
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I've been with him for 20 years. When I got the official diagnosis (9 years after I self diagnosed) we thought it was rather funny, all that money spent on birth control.
If a guy leaves you because of a HORMONE disorder, then he's an ass and didn't deserve you "in sickness and in health" to begin with.
Well, to begin with I self-diagnosed from reading articles online... and my boyfriend, well, I tell him everything and even now, he always wants to know when my period starts, and he does a better job of keeping track of when they were than I ever do.... and at first he told me that I shouldn't be looking online and trying to diagnose myself- to not stress or worry about it, because I couldn't do a thing about it until I went to the dr, (and my appointment wasn't for a couple of months from then.) SO I promised him I wouldn't research anymore and make myself worry, until I saw the gynecologist. Of course, by that time, my NP was sure that I had PCOS, and regardless, she prescribed me provera to induce a period, since I hadn't had one for 6 months. So, when I DID go to the gynecologist, my boyfriend was waiting for me in the waiting room- and it was kind of... odd- because when I came out, I got what I wanted- a diagnosis... and i think what he was expecting was a blubbering crying woman in hysteria when I came out- because it really was a big deal to me- but at that moment, when I came out, I just told him what prescriptions i had to go fill, and what the doctor said.... and I think he felt a bit useless, like there wasn't a point to him being there. It wasn;t for a couple more days, that it sunk in a little deeper, and I did get a little teary for awhile.
Right now we're both just taking it in stride- because it's not as if we want kids before he gets out of med school anyways- so while we're abstinent right now- after we get married (possibly next December!) at least we likely won't have to worry about much of getting pregnant. (Not to mention my bcps, anyways.) But.. my bf is always very understanding. He thinks I worry too much about the hirsutism though, and my weight... and it's actually helpful for him to tell me that.... because it is a bit calming... though he knows that feeling like I have a beard is frustrating... and once, he offered to let me use his shaver to deal with it because I was so bothered and had forgotten my razor... Now I just make light of it- (I didn't use his shaver- it doesn't cut close enough anyways)... but I make light of it because I can just tease him that I get a closer shave than he does....(since I just use my Soleil razor just like I would my legs.) and he always misses spots on his chin.
I hope he doesn't mind when I tease him... but I guess it's a way of coping with the fact that I have to shave... that really hit me hard, and I was super-embarrassed to begin with- but now... I'm ok with it- and largely, that's because of John. I still don't let him watch me... but he knows when I'm doing it, and he doesn't care that his fiance has to shave, or that she is infertile or that she is fat, or could possibly get diabetes in the future, etc.... because he just loves me.... and the acceptance is just... so relieving- and I love him for it!
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I was diagnosed august 2006 (three months before my wedding day!!), i said to my now dh that he could leave me, but he told me i was not to be silly and has stood by me / supporting me ever since.
I am so grateful to have him, he is amazing
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DH knew I had problems before we started dating, and after we began dating, my first doctor made a remark on wanting to preserve my fertility. So I told him that (we were getting ready to move to another city together, and both of us knew we were going to get married) and gave him the option of getting out b/c I didn't want him to give up on the chance to have children. He said not to be silly, and that he wasn't with me b/c of my ability/inability to have children. I was diagnosed one month after we got married. He was very supportive (and still is). Like a previous post said, I didn't get too upset about it until a couple days later, and that's when it hit me, and I got emotional about it.
About 4 months before i got married all my crap went haywire, and my husband would clean me up like a baby cause i was af'n everyfricknwhere! it was horrible. he was there when i would be sick and anemic and pass clots that i thought were organs! sorry tmi, but he went to drs appt with me, still does if i ask and he can. if i was starting to date someone and i already knew i had it, i would tell them as soon as they started getting serious. like when they start talking about more than dates and getting to know you. my hunny i don't know how he felt he didn't say much except bout punched a dr and cussed him out for trying to give me bcps. it makes him real mad for drs to act like they couldn't care less whats wrong with me. But he doesn't say anything about it unless i do, he is always positive though. sorry so long
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I was diagnosed last month after trying for a couple of months for our second baby. My husband knew every thing I did, every step of the way. I couldn't imagine having this become such a big part of my life and keeping it from him.
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