Keleigh

Hi ladies. I'm sorry to say I'm joining you here now. Had cramping early this week and yesterday confirmed via u/s that there was no heartbeat anymore.

Sorry, this is kind of gross, but I'm having a natural miscarriage and I was wondering if you can tell the difference between the actual fetus and the blood clots.

My last m/c had an empty sac, so there was never any question, but this time there was a heartbeat. The baby measured 6 weeks growth at the sono yesterday (I'm supposed to be 8 weeks.) I just really hate the idea of flushing it, like it never mattered, and would prefer to be able to bury the little thing in my garden.

Thank you for any insight, even though I wish that none of us had to have that insight.

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Tensei

*HUGS* I am so, so sad that I have to see you over here. I'm so sorry.

My 5.5 week miscarriage was more like a heavy period. Because it was so early, I didn't really look for tissue, I just let it happen and waited 'til the bleeding stopped.

I don't know a whole lot about the tissue, but I do know that when I was to pass the retained placenta from this most recent miscarriage, they said it would be kinda liver-colored. It was very, very small, though. Yours will certainly be bigger.

*HUGS* I wish I could help you more. I'm sure that some of the ladies here will know better.

Take care of yourself! Eat, drink a lot, and cry a lot.

*HUGS* I'm so sorry.

ouzogirl

There will be tissue. You may not actually see a sac, but there will be tissue. You can always fish it out if you pass it on the toilet and bury it. That was my plan with my second m/c but ti didn't happen bc I had to have a D&C.

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The tissue I passed after my D&C (causing me to hve another) was greyish pink. It was bumpy and tough feeling. It was at some times the size of a quarter and at other times the size of my hand.

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Keleigh

Ouzo -
Thank you. I passed the first small clot last night and had this sudden panic of "what if I don't know?" I then had this horrible flash of me fishing everything I could out of the toilet to try and examine it. (shudder)

My RE just pretty much sent me on my way with a prescription of Vicoden. He prefers to not do a D&C because of the risk of damaging my uterus. I know there are drugs to start the m/c. Does anyone know if there's something he can give me to compress the whole process, like instead of weeks my body will work harder to expel everything and I can be done with the worst in like 4 days?

I'm worried about work. They've been really nice and even sent flowers, but I hate to be out for two weeks. I'd hate even more to go back in and then have everything start back up while I'm there.

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HopefulCyster

Hi hun,

I collected pretty much everything that I could, but I was collecting for testing. I saw lots of liver colored tissue as well as gray stuff etc, I also passed what looked like 2 sacs. I thought at one point that I seen the very tiny baby... but when I gave the collection bag to the lab, the results came back as blood clots etc. Nothing they could use... that was heartbreaking!

I am sorry that your going though this! **HUGS**

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scjellybean

With a couple of my m/c's they gave me meds to induce it faster. It is called Cytotec or Misoprostil...same thing just different names. I was pretty much done all the heavy stuff in 12-24 hours. It gets pretty intense for awhile but it is worth having it over faster.

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m/c #1 02/05 (13wks)
Dx with PCOS 11/05
m/c #2 02/06 (8wks)
Dx with Ashermans 05/06 (surgery 06/06)
m/c #3 10/06 (9 wks)
m/c #4 04/07 (11wks)
m/c #5 09/07 (5wks) (likely a chemical)
m/c #6 01/08 (9wks)



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SheriKCMO

(((Hugs))) I'm so sorry for your losses. I hope it's over soon, physically. And I hope you do find something meaningful to "do" whether it's to bury something that you think might be the baby or some other task. I have found planting our tree to be one of those lasting things... it will live the long life my daughter won't get the chance to. Just an idea. I hope you feel good about your decision, whatever it might be.

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RunnerDuck

With my blighted ovum last year, I passed a golf-ball sized water filled sac soon after bleeding commenced.

This time... I was further along, we got a heart beat... but I never saw a sac pass. I had some weird looking clots with some greyish stuff on them... but I never saw one complete thing that passed that made me think it was the "baby." After my first dose of cytotec, I had a scan, and it was still in there... I took more cytotec and a few days later had another scan and it was gone. But I never really saw it.

I know how you feel. I would have liked to have seen it, to have given it SOME recognition... but instead, nope. Never saw it. Flushed it.

So sorry about your loss

eta - my loss was also 7w6d but the embryo was measuring a week behind, for whatever that means.

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