Hi all,
I had a question for those of you who have dealth with Pregnancy loss. I was wondering how long you decided to wait until you decided to try again???
I just lost a baby at 22 weeks due to an incompetent cervix. I want to try right away because I feel so empty now. However, I know that I am not ready emotionally to go through another IVF process.
I was talking to my doc's nurse and she said that some patients only wait about a month or so.
First, I'm sorry for your loss. I lost my son at 20 weeks (on 12/5) due to an incompetent cervix. I, too, am hoping to ttc soon! My RE's nurse said to wait until I have had 2 cycles. My OB said to "wait 1 or 2 mornths." I think it all depends on the doctor. I really hope to start ttc in March. Guess we will wait and see where I am emotionally at that time. Some days I am fine, other days I am a total wreck (like today).
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I am in the process of having my first miscarriage at almost 6 weeks. I am already wondering how long we have to wait. Being pregnant and knowing that it is possible for me to get pregnant has made me want it even more.
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Toral~ So sorry for your loss, hun. I'm waiting for my own m/c to start. My RE is having us wait one full cycle after the m/c before we can do any treatments (we did IUI). Don't feel bad about wanting to try again soon. I was literally still in the stirrups after our sono showed no growth when I asked my RE about trying again. Like PCOSDC, knowing I can get pg makes me ready to try again. You may need to take longer, both physically (since you were at 22wk) and emotionally. Just don't beat yourself up either way and take it one day at a time.
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I am very sorry about your loss! The best answer to this question is to grieve for as long as you can before trying again. Grief and pregnancy hormones make for a very tough time the next go 'round, and even grief and ttc stress. One of my aunts had two late losses, back in the 50's, and she suggested waiting at least six months. Coincidentally, that is when my first full term pregnancy did start, but I would suggest waiting out the first year of grief (the absolute worst) before trying again. I know it's just not possible to wait, from my own experience too, but that's the real answer. There really is no minimum amount of time after six weeks post partum, as far as our bodies are concerned. We are pretty much healed at that point.
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First pregnancy ended at 23 weeks due to incompetent cervix.
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I was wondering this myself. I had the D&C on 12/28 at 11 weeks. Wednesday was the first day I wasn't a crying snotty fool. I'm feeling ok, I wonder if its because all the pregnancy hormones are gone. I'm almost scared to TTC because I don't want to go through another mc but I want a baby so bad. But TTC was hard work and begining to be alot of pressure. Maybe I'll discuss it with my OB/GYN at my follow up appt on the 16th.
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I think it depends. Physically, for the most part in a first trimester miscarriage, you can try again right away. There are some physical reasons in some cases why doctors may want to make you wait, but many other times it's because it's easier to count if you do get pregnant again, or because they have taken it upon themselves to determine what an appropriate "grieving" time is. My doctor gave me the green light at my 2-week checkup (he seemed to actively encourage it), but there was no way at that point I could do it. However, I waited until after one AF, and six weeks after my D&C, I got pregnant again. I had done some reading that suggested that there is a higher success rate in the first two cycles after a m/c, as your body is still used to being pregnant and may be more willing to try again. Also, in my case, both pregnancies were conceived without medical intervention (drugs/IUI etc).
For those of you who had a second-trimester or other late loss, your body might need some recovery time different from an early miscarriage. I don't know, but it may take more time for your hormones to settle back to normal, and your uterus to be in an optimal state (I don't actually know, but I'm just guessing, and it's something you need to talk about with the doctors). I don't know whether you'd get the two-week green light.
Emotionally, it's a different equation. I was relatively okay after an early miscarriage. I mourned more the loss of the potential of a family than that actual baby. If something were to happen now (I'm at 32 weeks), it would be totally different. I've felt this kid squirm and kick, and he's waved at me from a sonogram. He likes bananas and the Eurythmics, and he hates the doppler and going to bed at night. I'd get to hold him and see him. For me, it would be a very different kind of loss, and I would in no way want to undertake this entire process again any time soon, if ever (it's not been an easy pregnancy at all -- he keeps trying to escape). However, there is no right or wrong time or way to grieve. If you think you're ready emotionally to try again (and that won't mean you don't ever get sad about your loss), as long as your body is ready to do it, go ahead.
try again??? 
