Trying for #2 or More after a Loss(es)

cheereeo · 09-09-2007, 07:51 PM

I thought I would check to see if there is any interest out there for this thread for those of us who are blessed to have one or more living children and now are struggling to have more after having gone through a heart-breaking loss. I know it is hard to speak about our child(ren) in threads where some cysters have not been able to have any yet for fear of hurting feelings.

Here we could talk about our daily struggles of motherhood, share pics, milestones, along with TTC after suffering through a loss. What do you all think? Any interest?

(I definitely don't want to stomp on any existing threads that provide so much help to so many of our fellow cysters, including myself.)

Mom-e-Jules-PCOS · 09-11-2007, 11:04 AM

Hey there Miss Brenda,
I don't usually go to the main boards unless someone prompts me to do so (thank you) cuz I'm now officially a member of TTC #2 after a loss)es)

Mom-e-jules-PCOS, Jules (32) married to Dan (39),10/24/1997. Live in Northwest Ohio. B-day 10/01/1974. College Grad, but currently a proud SAHM to my "Metformin Miracle Baby"-- DS, Brandon, born via C-section 01/07/2001. Dx PCOS/IR in 1999 when TTC #1. 17 months of actively TTC resulted in BFP. I was 280# upon conception & gained 30lbs during my pregnancy. Started actively TTC #2 when my Bran-Man was 1 (Jan 2002). Suffered 2 heartbreaking m/c (06/15/2004 @ 7wks gest & another on 02/22/2005 @ 7wks gest). Both of those pg's conceived on Met + Clomid. Both x's I requested D&C. We took nearly 2 yrs off from medicated actively TTC. I do not cycle without meds normally. Dx with type II Diabetes & hypothyroidism 2006. Jan 2007 decided to start TTC again after our loss's. I see an RE & my current med routine is as follows: Metformin, Synthroid, Byetta, Clomid, Ovidrel, Provera if no BFP & need AF, Prenatals, Mucinex before O, EPO before O, B complex, baby ASA. Also use Pre-Seed & Instead Cups to aide in conception. RE monitors me via b/w & sonograms.
I love my family so very much. I'm very involved in church activity, love to read, cook, mommy-hood, internet, TTC & currently on a South Beach type eating plan. I've gone from 323lbs down to 280 or less. I was in a car accident on 08/16/2007 & on the mend with a full left leg cast (broke 2 bones).

I pray we get more members to join this thread! I'd love to talk about TTC #2!

HealthyCyster · 09-11-2007, 12:02 PM

I am trying for child #2. I have a 3 year old Son, who is a blessing! I miscarried earlier this year and would have been due this week. My friend was pregnant two weeks earlier than me and had her daughter a couple of weeks ago. I'm so thankful for my Son : -)

cheereeo · 09-12-2007, 03:17 PM

Jules! Welcome GIRLFRIEND. You have a blinkie for everything don't you.
Healthy: I am so sorry for your loss. Me too; my EDD for #2 was 9/5, I found out baby was not viable on Valentine's Day this year, and just got AF again on 9/9. A really crummy week to say the least. I had a chemical pregnancy after this recent MC too. So stinks.

I am constantly remindnig myself how blessed I am to have my DS but then when I have a tough day with him or see my friends with three kids acting crazy, I think "maybe an only child isn't such a bad thing." But, I come from a family of six kids. I want more. But don't want to sound greedy. So hard not to get depressed while the clock keeps ticking and TTC keeps failing.

Licsh · 09-12-2007, 11:26 PM

I have a two 1/2 year old son and have m/c twice this year, the last time was a chemical pregnancy a couple of weeks ago. I will start trying again as soon as I can.

Brenda - it sounds like you have had the same type of history I had. My first miscarriage we had seen the heart beat already, I would be due next month and I am not looking forward to that day. This last one was chemical. Did they tell you anything about why you carried just fine with your son and have now m/c twice? Just curious as my doc doesn't really have much to say. I have gone back on met now and i was on it with Rylan so maybe that is the difference for me. I can only hope it makes a difference next time.

Hopefully we can support eachother while we continue to try!

HealthyCyster · 09-13-2007, 11:21 AM

Cheereeo and Licsh,

Sorry to you both on your losses. It sounds like we would have been due about the same time.

I am thankful for the child I have. But I do want more and I don't want my Son to be an only child. I hope I'm not being greedy either. I am very grateful for what I have.

When I conceived my Son I conceived him the first cycle I tried. And I had a good pregnancy. It was only after the pregnancy I was diagnosed with PCOS, after many months of complaining to my doctor that my hormones had not gone back to normal and then finally after trying for a year that they tested me for PCOS.

Any way, good luck to you all. I'm hoping in a couple of weeks to get a BFP test result : -)

cheereeo · 09-13-2007, 07:42 PM

Licsh: I saw the heartbeat too.
This is a problem I experience even at my RE's office. I always get the feeling that since I had a healthy pregnancy, they feel everything is fine. Like, they didn't run some diagnostic tests on me (like HSG) because I had already had a successful pregnancy. They "assume" I don't have Luteal Phase Defect because I had a successful pregnancy. It can be frustrating at times. Before I got married, my RE told me I might have some trouble conceiving because of the PCOS and then got pregnant four months after our honeymoon on Met alone, so go figure. THat pregnancy was beautiful, and I want to experience that again. After that Silent Miscarriage and now being full-blown into fertility stuff, my life has changed forever it seems.
Will I ever experience the joys of pregnancy and delivery again?
If I do get PG again, will I ever be able to relax until the baby is in my arms?
So hard to hear a four-year-old ask, "How come we can't have a baby [brother or sister]?" and he always comments, "my mommy's baby died." (We had to tell him; he knew I had a baby in my belly.)

Healthy - Good luck in your 2ww.

Mom-e-Jules-PCOS · 09-15-2007, 05:51 AM

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Originally Posted by HealthyCyster

I am trying for child #2. I have a 3 year old Son, who is a blessing! I miscarried earlier this year and would have been due this week. My friend was pregnant two weeks earlier than me and had her daughter a couple of weeks ago. I'm so thankful for my Son : -)

Hi HealthyCyster & WELCOME! I'm sorry about your loss & the anniversary of the due date. It's really hard getting through the 1st's. What is your son's name? I have a 6 year old. His name is Brandon, but me mommy calls him my "Bran-Man"! I love him so much. He is my world when he's home. He's in school & gone for 8hrs mon-fri. He's getting to that age where he wants to be outside playing with the neighborhood kids & his buddies. He's also into Pokemon & him and his buddies play it on the game machines.
I pray we all get a healthy BFP really soon!

Mom-e-Jules-PCOS · 09-15-2007, 06:00 AM

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Originally Posted by cheereeo

Jules! Welcome GIRLFRIEND. You have a blinkie for everything don't you.
...yeah, I think I do! I'm a blinkie addict!...

I am constantly remindnig myself how blessed I am to have my DS but then when I have a tough day with him or see my friends with three kids acting crazy, I think "maybe an only child isn't such a bad thing." But, I come from a family of six kids. I want more. But don't want to sound greedy. So hard not to get depressed while the clock keeps ticking and TTC keeps failing.

Oh Brenda, you are soooo right! We are very blessed to have our sons. But in all honesty wanting another child is no selfish. If I could have 6 kids, I'd be happy, too! I've always wanted a big family. My grandma had 9 kids!d A set of twins or triplets would make thinks alot easier....just kidding! A singleton is good for me!

Mom-e-Jules-PCOS · 09-15-2007, 06:04 AM

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Originally Posted by Licsh

I have a two 1/2 year old son and have m/c twice this year, the last time was a chemical pregnancy a couple of weeks ago. I will start trying again as soon as I can.

Brenda - it sounds like you have had the same type of history I had. My first miscarriage we had seen the heart beat already, I would be due next month and I am not looking forward to that day. This last one was chemical. Did they tell you anything about why you carried just fine with your son and have now m/c twice? Just curious as my doc doesn't really have much to say. I have gone back on met now and i was on it with Rylan so maybe that is the difference for me. I can only hope it makes a difference next time.

Hopefully we can support eachother while we continue to try!

Licsh, HELLO & WELCOME! I look forward to getting to know you. I'm so sorry for your PG loss's. It's so hearbreaking that we all have been through such a loss. I pray we get a healthy BFP real soon! +++fertile thoughts+++

KIMSUE · 09-15-2007, 07:44 PM

I always feel guilty on the main board because I was blessed with my son who was 4 in July. I had my miscarriage last year now that I think about it has been 1 year today since D/C. I would love another baby but I am just now sane enough from my loss to think clearly. My son is my whole life and I feel sorry for him because I come from a big family and wanted it to be the same for him. Thanks again, this is a good thread.

sunshine071899 · 09-15-2007, 10:12 PM

Hey Cysters!!! I'm TTC after a loss too! Please add me to the thread! Baby Dust to you all & me!!!!!

Mom-e-Jules-PCOS · 09-16-2007, 04:17 PM

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Originally Posted by KIMSUE

I always feel guilty on the main board because I was blessed with my son who was 4 in July. I had my miscarriage last year now that I think about it has been 1 year today since D/C. I would love another baby but I am just now sane enough from my loss to think clearly. My son is my whole life and I feel sorry for him because I come from a big family and wanted it to be the same for him. Thanks again, this is a good thread.

Hello Kim, WELCOME! I'm sorry for your loss. I also suffered 2 sep m/c's @ 7wks (both needed D&C). I can totally relate to the severe depression & unsurity of TTC. It took me nearly 2 years to get back up the want to try again. Now that we've been back TTC for 8 cycles, I know that being a mom to many babies is my calling. So, DH & I just keep pushin' forward. I'm working with an awesome RE, too, so that makes both of us feel good. I know in God's time, it will happen. We just have to remain stedfast. I look forward to sharing more with you!

Mom-e-Jules-PCOS · 09-16-2007, 04:24 PM

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Originally Posted by sunshine071899

Hey Cysters!!! I'm TTC after a loss too! Please add me to the thread! Baby Dust to you all & me!!!!!

Hi Sunshine, I'm sorry for your loss. I can't imagine losing a baby @28wks. ((((hugs)))) I thought 7wks was hard, but I just couldn't imagine. I hope AF comes soon so you can start TTC again.

sunshine071899 · 09-17-2007, 12:48 PM

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Originally Posted by Mom-e-Jules-PCOS

Hi Sunshine, I'm sorry for your loss. I can't imagine losing a baby @28wks. ((((hugs)))) I thought 7wks was hard, but I just couldn't imagine. I hope AF comes soon so you can start TTC again.

Hi Jules - It has been very hard. But we hope Dylan can convince god to bless us with his brother or sister. We would love to have them to take care of.

Laura