Trying Again

butterfly91104 · 04-29-2004, 01:42 AM

Hi girls

I'm sure some of you have precious little ones, but I'm wondering is it really hard to fall pregnant with PCOS? I did give birth to a beautiful baby girl last year however she was stillborn, and my husband and I are trying to pick up the pieces and courage to try again. Does the infertility factor vary for every woman with PCOS or is it just plain simple infertility and its always hard to fall pregnant? Would like to hear from mums about their experiences.

Tas · 04-29-2004, 09:35 PM

Hi,

I'm sorry about your loss.

Everyone is very different, so it does vary a lot.

I didn't have any trouble conceiving #1 and #3, but I needed a couple of rounds of Clomid to help with #2. I was OK before #1 and after #2, but very irregular after #1 and #3.

When I had trouble conceiving #2, the OBGYN said that I just hadn't clicked back into gear after #1. It was more than 9 years of being irregular after #3 before I was finally diagnosed as having PCOS.

Serene Tamborine Mummy · 04-29-2004, 11:29 PM

I am so sorry to hear of the loss of your beautiful little angel

I was on the Mommy Board the other week and posted a question very similar. I had my beautiful little boy in December and we are looking at trying again by the end of this year. ( I am still bf now). I asked how if anyone found it easier to conceive after having their first child and there was an overwhelming YES response, which made me very hopeful. There are ladies on the Mommy Board falling preggers left right and centre, some of them not even trying to conceive. I used clomid to fall with Mackenzie and I have an appointment to see the diabetes specialist in August (I had gestational diabetes) and I will be going on Metformin. So I will just have to wait and see.

Anyway, back to the question, from what I've read on this website, I think things are looking up for conceiving babies #2, #3 ....
I wish you and hubby all the luck in the world

butterfly91104 · 04-30-2004, 02:38 AM

Thank you for the reply Tas & Donna

It is such a rollercoaster ride for myself and my husband in trying to conceive. I'm not even aware of the medications that are out there for women with PCOS. I honestly thought it would be easier to fall pregnant soon after but its proving me wrong at the moment. I also had a C Section so to have to wait to try again is absolute agony emotionally especially when coping with the death of my baby girl. I so much want a baby, I know it will never replace my beautiful Aniqa but I have to fill this void. Could anyone tell me of the medications out there for women with PCOS that some of you might be on and what it helps with? I have been getting regular periods every month and I got my hopes up with this months cycle because it was late and I got it this morning and feel a little down

Tas · 04-30-2004, 02:55 AM

Have you received counselling since the loss of your baby? Do you know about SANDS?

http://www.sands.org.au/

Whether you've lost a child or not, I believe the recommended time between babies is two years because your body needs that long to recover from the pregnancy and birth.

I now prefer natural therapies and use Black Cohosh tablets when I get irregular. There are several other things that people are using. You can have a look at the Alternative Therapies list if you're interested.

Tas · 04-30-2004, 03:03 AM

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Originally posted by butterfly91104
...It is such a rollercoaster ride for myself and my husband in trying to conceive...

It can be good therapy to take a break for a while. Go on a holiday or just spend some time together without the pressure.

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... to have to wait to try again is absolute agony emotionally especially when coping with the death of my baby girl. I so much want a baby, I know it will never replace my beautiful Aniqa but I have to fill this void...[/b]

I'm not trying to be at all flippant, but while you're letting your body and soul heal, getting a puppy or kitten could help.

All the best.

butterfly91104 · 04-30-2004, 03:27 AM

We have been seeing the psychologist at the hospital and I think we are coping fine, its just the sudden now and then of emotions that come from losing something to precious I guess. We just came back from a 3 week holiday overseas so we've done things to help us take a break from everything, plus I don't think we can get another kitten because we have 4 cats already

a bird and 5 fish. It's like a zoo at times.

The thing is I have been getting regular periods since giving birth however nothing is happening in terms of conception, I understand it takes a few tries, but it gets testy after a while and disheartening if you get what I mean. Losing a child is never easy no matter what anyone says and it stays with you for life. So even mentally healing will always be slow after going through trauma such as this. Does anyone have any suggestions when trying to conceive? What do you think about ovulation test kits? Has anyone used 1 and are they reliable?

Tas · 04-30-2004, 03:49 AM

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Originally posted by butterfly91104
...I understand it takes a few tries, but it gets testy after a while and disheartening if you get what I mean...

I certainly do understand. That's a grieving process in itself - grieving for what might have been and you go through it month after month.

Tas · 04-30-2004, 03:52 AM

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Originally posted by butterfly91104
...Does anyone have any suggestions when trying to conceive? What do you think about ovulation test kits?...

My OBGYN told me that you're not considered infertile until you've been trying for 12 months. I used a temperature chart to find out if I was ovulating. Have you tried the Trying to Conceive list?

Serene Tamborine Mummy · 05-02-2004, 07:05 AM

I think you have done all the right things and it is just going to take some more time. I would think that if I was in your situation that you could never get over something like losing a baby and I would have a hard time functioning after such an ordeal. I cannot imagine the pain.
It took me a couple of years to fall pregnant with Mackenzie and I think that one of the biggest contributing factors in falling pregnant was having a doctor with whom my husband and I were totally comfortable. He was so positive but not in a condesending way and after my first visit with him I felt that I would conceive, it would just take some time ... and that is exactly what happened. I had extremely irregular periods sometimes as far as 9-12months appart and did not ovulate at all. I went on monofeme for two months continuously (skipping the sugar tablets) and then after the second month stop taking them and as soon as my period started, start taking the tablets again. I had to do this for six months to kind of regulate my body. I had quite a bit of 'period pain' whilst I was doing this but he had warned me about this. After that six months, I started taking Clomid (which helps you ovulate). I had to have ultrasound on about day 12 and blood tests on day 21 to see if the Clomid was working and that I was only releasing one or two eggs. All was well and the Clomid was working so I had to take it every second period. My periods were pretty much regular while I was taking the Clomid but nothing was happening. (Although my hubby has a slightly lowered sperm count which didn't help things) It was on my last course of Clomid (over 12months later) that we conceived!! Next time we try I am also going to take Metformin as this increases the chance of spontaneous ovulation by 50% and also increases the chance of Clomid working.
I also suggest having a look through the 'Trying to Conceive' and 'Medications' part of this website and post this question in there, I'm sure you will have a more qualified response.
GOOD LUCK!!