Hey Girls. Just need to ask a question or mabe make a statement? I was kinda jumped on yesterday by a close friend of mine. I have three children and I have been ttc #4. Most people say I should be happy w/ just 3 and mabe I should but,...I really want more. I was just told I have pcos this year and had AF but 3-4 times this year. My Dr. started me on met. 3 weeks ago and still no Af. Thats a little history. What she said that hurt me was... that if I am trusting God in my life and I AM then why would I even take meds for a child. This has really got me thinking and confused. When as a christian does it become "wrong" to take all kinds of meds for a child. God can give me one at any time right? Mabe it's not his will?? Please give me some insite on this. I really want more kids. Is taking meds going against God's plan for me? What does he think about this? Does he like it when we take our lives into our own hands? HELP!
I would have to disagree with your friend. You wouldn't recommend to someone with cancer to just wait for God to heal them. You would tell them to fight with all the drugs/treatment that are available. It's not normal for you to not have cycles. Met is not a fertility drug anyways. It's a diabetic drug. It could help you conceive if you're insulin resistance because the insulin levels mess with all your hormone levels. At least this is what my doctor told me. I recently started Met and I'm TTC as well. Not many people know we're TTC because we have two almost grown teens and most think it's crazy to want/welcome more at our age. (I'm 40 my hubby is 44) Sometimes it's best not to mention things to certain people especially if you think they won't be supportive. Also I could be wrong but I thought I read not having regular cycles can increase your risk on certain types of cancer and other health problems so it should be treated even if you don't want to conceive.
People have all sorts of religious hang-ups. I wouldn't add your friend's to your own. My mother was all about God's will and timing while I was ttc. I was raised in a very churchy/ religious/ spiritual environment (use whatever word you're comfortable with). After ttc for a couple of years I just don't buy it anymore. I work with welfare families and I don't see that God had much to do with whether those women conceived or not. I have to believe then that he didn't have much to do with me not conceiving. Hey, I said we all had our on hang-ups.
Anyway, Met is used to treat more than just infertility in PCOS. You have a responsibility to your family to be healthy and Met is part of that. If you child was sick you'd take them to the doctor and give them prescribed meds to treat the illness, right??? I'm guessing your friend would do the same. If treating your PCOS means that you are also able to conceive then that's a bonus. BTW, I'm all for the high-tech fertility stuff, too, but I don't kow if I'd go through it for child #4. Personal choice, though. Your friend doesn't have the inside scoop on your relationship with your God, so don't let her own issues make you question your decisions.
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Thanks girls for the input. I think I let her comment get away with me. You know,..you just want to know what your doing is right. I want to feel good about myself. Thanks!!!
Just wanted to say hello, welcome, and good luck on TTC #4. There is a christian cyster TTC thread you may want to check out also!
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Hello and welcome!!! I just wanted to say that I disagree with your friend also. I totally do not feel that I cam going against Gods plan for me by ttc using meds. If you were sick you would seek treatment to get better in my opinion it is the same concept, if it was Gods will that you just be sick then you would never seek treatment. I hope you get your BFP and everything works out for you.
I was always taught that God helps those who help themselves. Metformin is a good tool for weight loss and ovulation. Some women just can't do it on their own, and I don't see anything wrong with using medicine or technology to conceive. Obviously advances were made in the medical world for a reason. I think people misinterpret God's role. According to the Bible, he did give man free will. That's why it always bugs me when I hear "oh why would God let such horrible things happen" and blah blah blah. We're not puppets! We do have some control and I personally would tell your friend to shove it. Sorry but who is she to judge you and your relationship with God and what you do with YOUR body!!!??? I think if you're that worried about it you should pray and try to get some answers that way and maybe talk to your priest/pastor about it if it really bothers you. Good luck.
Welcome. My in laws are very religious and they always say it will happen in Gods time and they had to try for 4 years to get pregnant with my husband. They dont understand when I try to explain that she didnt have a problem ovulating and when I am not on meds I dont ovulate therefore cant get pregnant. My husband was raised by them in a very religious background where my mom was laid back/very spiritual person and if I wanted to explore churches temples etc I could. I have a lot of beliefs from many religions so I dont know what you would call me =) Anyhow I believe in God and do pray everyday but like a previous poster said if you have cancer you cant just leave it in God's hands and refuse treatment/medicine. A lot of people find comfort in prayer and I am sure it helps a lot of people but it doesnt mean prayer alone will do it. So long story short I dont think you should take your friends advice and if you want another baby go for it! Good luck!!
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TTC and on meds. is this WRONG??? 
