TTC - staying positive?

Kazza23 · 10-21-2006, 08:16 AM

Hi guys,
i'm going through a rather down period at the moment - i've been trying to concieve for about a year now and have been charting my BBT since january. My BBT shows that i've ovulated twice this year, and on one of those occasions (in april) i even managed to get pregnant. Unfortunatly i had a miscarriage after about 5 weeks. I've seen the doctor several times but all she keeps saying is that i have to keep trying for 2 years before she will refer me for fertility treatment - but she knows i have pcos, and i know i rarely ovulate. And here in England it seems they cant prescribe metformin without refering you. Anyway, I'm going to try and see a different doctor and see if i can get a different response.
My question is, how do you stay positive?? Maybe its a silly question, i know that being stressed wont help me, but i cant stop feeling upset and worried about never having a baby.
Sorry, a long rambling post....
Karyn.

Tabsies2006 · 10-22-2006, 11:33 PM

Your post isn't long or rambling! I've been TTC for 17 months now and nothing, not even a m/c, and I ovulate almost every month. It's really discouraging, esp. when people I know are having babies all over the place. I have it in my head that there will come a time where I'll have to trust myself to say "enough" if I don't get pregnant.

Kazza23 · 10-23-2006, 09:41 AM

Thanks for the reply. I'm feeling a lot better today - i spent the weekend talking to and seeing friends and managed to take my mind of babies for awhile! that seemed to help - sometimes i think that it is easy to get insular about the whole thing and forget that there is a whole world out there!
Good luck in concieving -i'll send you some cosmic baby dust!

steelehoping · 11-01-2006, 12:39 AM

Hello -
It helps me to read the success stories on this site. That keeps me positive. About the Met - i heard that a low carb diet gives you similar effects to Met.
Good Luck in your journey - keep your head up!

RosieSMC · 12-11-2006, 03:46 PM

Stay positive!
I tried for almost 2 years and BBT indicated I was ovulating almost every month so I wondered what more I could do. I was doing reduced carbs for 18 months and met for 6 months when I conceived. ... I had also intentionally de-stressed my life to improve my chances of conceiving (stopped charting everything and started meditating and enjoying more music and less news). I think it was a combo of the met, reduced carbs, lowered stress that did the trick.... my doctor said I could only record BD, fertile cervical mucous and first day of each period.

You can do it!

ccarlso · 12-16-2006, 01:24 AM

Kazza,
I can totally relate! I have only been trying for a year, and am already feeling depressed sometimes about it. It seems like everywhere I turn, people are having babies!! My sister and two good friends of mine just had babies. I'm so happy for them, but it gets me down. And then when I go to showers and at work, people are always saying, "Oh - you're next!" or "when are you going to have one?" I just want to flick them off and say "None of your business!"

A really good friend of mine who is super healthy just had a miscarriage. I was sooooo jealous when I found out that the first time she tried, she conceived. But then, she had a miscarriage after two months. I know this is extremely selfish, but I felt a little relieved that someone else also had problems.

I think being in control of my diet and lifestyle has helped me. It makes me feel like I'm making an effort and doing everything I can. I try to read a lot of success stories. This may sound weird, but also reading about people who are worse off than me helps me put things into perspective.

Kazza23 · 12-16-2006, 05:13 AM

Thanks for the replies everyone. I am feeling more positive now - a woman at work announced she was pregnant a few weeks ago and i had a very hard time controlling the tears (but i did manage, just!). I went home and spent most of the weekend crying. my fiance was very supportive, but i know he didnt know what to do.
After that weekend, i made a resolution to myself - not to feel negative about other peoples pregnancies as more often than not you dont know how long it took them to get pregnant or if they had a problems. Plus, i believe in karma, so if i was giving out negative vibes, i'd be getting them back!
I'm going to follow all your advice too, and who knows - maybe 2007 will be my lucky year!!

leonie · 12-19-2006, 04:43 AM

Hi Kazza
I too know how hard it is to stay positive. It's so hard. I guess all we can do is to stay positive and keep on trying. Hopefully for all us girls TTC 2007 will be our year.
My partner's cousin found out recently that she's pregnant and all I could do was cry. I felt so bad not only because it wasn't me that was pregnant but because I hated her for being pregnant. Luckly I'm over that now and am happy for her. I find that I try to forget bout TTC between appointments ect and enjoy just spending time with DP. Not to say that I don't still think bout names, nursery stuff ect. ANyways stay positive and I'm sure we'll all be holding little buddles of joy soon

Leonie