I can't thank you all enough for your kindness, compassion, and support during this difficult time. While I wish this was not something we all had in common, I am so grateful that there is such a wonderful group of women who truly understand the pain and heart ache.
So, I have the 8 week u/s pictures on my refrigerator. I keep staring at them longing for my baby. It makes me cry and my mom and sisters all want me to put them away. They even told my husband to take them down. But I just don't feel ready. Should I take their advice, or just wait until I am ready to move on? I just can't let go...not yet anyway.
Thank you all again,
Sharon
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Sofia Rose 7/20/04 conceived after 2nd IUI
11/20 and 11/21 last chance (5th) IUI
12/5/07 - BFP EDD: 8/11/08
1/18/08 - we lost our baby - feeling lost, sad and confused
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Every person is different with this kind of stuff. If you think it is helping you process grief or to just remember and reflect, then you should keep them up. If you think it's a downer, as your family is thinking, then it might be time to put them somewhere you would only see them once a day or every few days. What do you think? Lots of the moms here keep mementos out in the open on a daily basis and have from the start. I am one to keep things where I know they are, quiet and safe, available when I want to look. You are the person hurting most in this, so I think your opinion is the one that matters.
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Sharon~ I agree. My RE wouldn't give us the sono pic of our little one once she realized that it would be a m/c. Of course, I still recall the exact image in my mind. Some people feel more comfort from seeing the mementos, others feel more pain. It's still so new, though. If you do decide to take the pic down, keep it somewhere you can privately view it when you feel the need. Don't let other people's feelings keep you from doing what feels right for you at this time. My DH felt so bad that we didn't have the sono pics that he bought me a beautiful ring with the August birthstone so that I would have something physical when I needed to hold on to something to remind me that my little one was real and loved. Maybe, when you're ready, you can find other images that bring you peace about your baby and that are meant for you only. Take care. I know right now it's one day at a time, minute by minute. ((Hugs)) from one Aug angel mommy to another
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Honey i still have my 6 week u/s pic on my fridge, I haven't the heart to take it down yet either. Sometimes I look at it, sometimes I avert my eyes and can't bear to see it. One step at a time, that's all you can do!
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Hun, it is your ultrasound picture and if it is helping you, then leave it up. People sometimes say/do/recommend things to us because they think they have the answers to make us feel better but sometimes their actions make things worse.
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Thank you all so much for your responses. I honestly don't know if it is helping or hurting. On one hand, I cry every time I see it and think "I just want my baby back" which I am sure is not good, but on the other hand, I just don't feel ready to let go. I will place them in my journal soon...but probably not today. I am still remembering the baby as he/she was on that day, moving all around heart beating like crazy.
Sharon
__________________ Sharon - 33 Issac - 35
Sofia Rose 7/20/04 conceived after 2nd IUI
11/20 and 11/21 last chance (5th) IUI
12/5/07 - BFP EDD: 8/11/08
1/18/08 - we lost our baby - feeling lost, sad and confused
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the u/s pictures 
