A coworker's wife had a baby last week. Today is his first day back. It also happens that today was the day that we celebrate January birthdays in our small and close-knit department. Since I was born in January, I showed up for cake and soda. Well, I should have known. As soon as my coworker showed up with baby pictures, it turned into a birthday party for his baby. After trying unsuccessfully not to break down into tears in front of everyone, I ran out of there, cake in hand. I didn't even think about where I was going. There's nowhere around here without people. I ended up in a bathroom on the third floor where it is not so busy. I sat on the floor crying for a half hour. Then I finished my cake, went pee and came back down. I thanked the secretary for the cake and have been hiding in my cube for the rest of the afternoon.
Why did they think it would be okay to torture me at my own birthday party????
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Adrianne I'm so sorry {{{{HUGS}}}} Apparently, they didn't think... I'm sure they didn't intentionally do it to hurt you but when there are new parents in the room everyone gushes about seeing pictures & how cute the pictures are, etc.
{{{{HUGS}}}}
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I'm sorry they were so thoughtless. I'm sure they're just excited about his baby, but it would've been nice if someone had thought about how you'd feel. Maybe since they haven't lost a child, they can't understand it, so they can't even imagine how hurt you are now.
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Yeah, I'm pretty sure they didn't do intentionally. I think the thing that really bothers me is that people think I am or at least should be, over it by now. Most of the time, I can put on a happy face at work all day, but then I lose it when I get home. I'm constantly fighting the urge to just retreat from all social activities whatsoever. People are stupid and don't understand.
__________________ Adrianne 31, DH 44 - married 6/01 - 2 DSDs (13 & 15)
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People simply forget. They never knew in the first place how important our children are to us, and they certainly don't keep them in mind daily as we do... that's why I like going to the support group I go to. Those are the people who will always know the torch I'm carrying and the value I have in my daughter's life. No one else, thankfully for their sake, has the tiniest clue. They simply forget how we might feel in certain circumstances.
I'm really sorry this happened!! Take care tonight!
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I totally understand...a few weeks after my m/c i went to church and they showed pictures of families who had gotten together with there kids. Oh i got through maybe 4 slides and had to walk out crying. I went back in after it was over. A friend followed me out and gave me her shoulder.
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ugh.. speaking of other people's babies... 
{{{{HUGS}}}} Apparently, they didn't think... I'm sure they didn't intentionally do it to hurt you but when there are new parents in the room everyone gushes about seeing pictures & how cute the pictures are, etc.
Oh, my God! 
