Upcoming Due Date

svaldez · 06-26-2008, 09:42 AM

How do you deal with the upcoming due date? I am feeling very anxious, depressed, don't want to talk to anyone or leave the house.

A few friends who were due around the same time and one who miscarried at the same time as me is pregnant again.

How do I make it through this marker? And what happens afterwards? Do you just go on? Does the pain continue?

Having a rough day I guess!
Sharon

Lezasc20 · 06-26-2008, 09:50 AM

Sharon. Im sorry that you are feeling down. I know that I'll be the same way come Jan. 2009 when my due date nears. I wish that I could make your pain disappear. I dont know if you're spiritual or religious but if so I can only say that you should rejoice in the fact that your beautiful baby is in Heaven and someday you'll hold your bundle of joy. Nothing will make your pain disappear. I have pain but its only been 2 weeks for me. I am sure the pain wont go away only become more managable. I've heard from other cysters that due dates are always hard. I think i will celebrate that day in a way that will honor my baby...who others may forget but I never will.

I will pray that you find strength as you approach that August day. May God be with you and put his arms around you. We are all cysters here.....PM any of us if you need some private words.

God Bless Leza

Miracle07 · 06-26-2008, 11:13 AM

Sharon- I am sorry. It is hard. I always remeber my angels on their due dates. Things I have done are pray, light a candle, cry and try to remember the time I did have. It is still hard. I have 2 due dates in December now which is just going to be rough. I also have one in March but DS birthday is in March so that helps a little.

enits · 06-26-2008, 03:58 PM

It's hard, I know. My DH and I have a ritual of going through our baby's stuff. I have a pretty box that I filled with things I collected while I was pregnant with her. It also contains things that the hospital gave us such as the mold of her tiny feet and hands. It always makes me cry whenever I go through her stuff because it's a painful reminder of what could have been, you know? And the hard thing about one of my due dates is that it's a few days before my (living) DS' birthday.

After the due date passes by, I go on my daily life...thinking about what I lost each day. The memory of her doesn't go away. DH and I think of her all the time. It does get easier with time but the pain and longing never go away. It's always lurking around the corner.

Best of luck to you. I wish you peace...

svaldez · 06-27-2008, 09:04 AM

Thank you guys for your kind and comforting words. It has been up and down the past few months and I know the official due date will be hard. I will have to think of some little thing I can do in remembrance on the day.

It helps to know I am not alone!
Sharon

Renee3600 · 06-29-2008, 12:58 PM

My due date was supposed to be May 31, about a month ago. It wasn't as painful of a day as I thought it would be. Luckily I wasn't working that day and we planned on doing some fun stuff. I worked in the yard for a little bit then we went and played miniature golf, went to eat at our favorite Mexican reseraunt and went to the movies, basically kept pretty busy. I found that my BFN a few days after that to be particularly hard, but I have moved on with life. Even when I do get pregnant again it won't replace that pregnancy of course, but I just try to think of things that I'm looking forward to in the future.
Take care and I hope that day isn't too hard for you.

MichieB · 06-30-2008, 05:51 PM

This is a question I was wondering myself. I lost my baby at 17 weeks in April and his due date would of been beginning of sept. I have a box of all his things his belly cord his tiny blanket,his photos but i cant bring myself to look in it anymore. I dont know if this is normal I think about him all the time even tho i have a DD I cant stop missing him and missing being pregnant with him.