Hi everyone, I've been thinking...
I haven't been in a relationship for ages, since before PCOS, and a terrible thought just occurred to me. When I was on dianette I'd wake up in the morning with clear, clean skin and fresh hair. These days I wake up all pimply with greasy roots, very smelly armpits (sorry), black stubble on my legs (well, not just my legs) and a face covered in oil. What do I do when I get into a relationship? I would die of shame if anyone saw me before my hours of make-up and preparation. Would I have to get up early and sneak to the bathroom for hours???
Guys wake up the same way or worse, my BF has the worst breathe. Plus most peoples perceptions are not that good in the morning anyways, I know my guy is like a mummy in the morning. Don't worry about it, just take the first shower!! Say you are a girl and ladies go first!!
Sincerely,
Elaine
You need to find yourself a guy who isn't afriad of PCOS! I was very upfront with my DB when we started getting serious. I remember the first night we spent together was very intimidating to me. What if he noticed? A year and a half later, He tells me everyday how beautiful I am, even when I'm down on myself. He's taken an interest in my research on PCOS. It's made a huge difference!
mrsteddy......i grant apon you to love your self inspite of greasy hair, pimply face, and smell armpits.
Hunny let me tell you something, when you find mr right he won't care what you look like when you wake up. He'll wanna jump on you inspite of all of that because HE LOVES YOU!
I will say this your a beautiful women now matter what it's not the looks that make you or make him want you. It's your spirit and you personality that makes him want you. Looks are just a little extra.
my side note. I wake up smelly all over....so greasey i could oil my car, hair frizzy to beat the band my hair is standin up, and zits so bad my face hurts.....guess what the first thing my husband does everymorning is.....I get a kiss and told i love you and good morning.
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When me and dh started dating and he would stay at my place. i would always wake up way before him so i could get a shower and my make up on before he ever had the chance to see me without! It was months before he ever seen me without my mask LOL
Now if I am off from work and have nothing to do, my hair goes up and I ware no make up. I am very comfortable around him and I know he loves me for me.....not the make up.
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I wanted to respond to this post because I worried so very much about the same thing that you worried about sweetheart. I have been in a relationship for almost 6 months with a wonderful man named Salem. I have talked a lot about Salem in my posts because he has just been amazing and I am so in love with him.
When we first started dating I would worry terribly about the PCOS symptoms, but as we started getting closer I decided that I was going to be upfront with him and tell him my insecurities, because I knew that I wanted to be loved for the real me....my strengths and my flaws. I told Salem about my PCOS and the symptoms involved with it and he did some research as well...which really touched my heart and I thought was incredibly sweet. Salem tells me that he loves me for me, he tells me that he thinks I am beautiful and pretty, and he makes me feel very good about myself.
Salem has changed my life for the better and he has made me a better person. He has helped me to see some of the things that are good about myself and he believes in me even when I do not believe in myself. When someone loves you they love all of you...and they may see the things that you dislike so much about yourself as special attributes because they are unique to you and make up who you are.
Just know that you are beautiful...on the inside and out....and when you find the person whom you are meant to spend forever with they will make you feel that way....and the most important features to them will be your heart and soul...and your exterior beauty will be an added bonus!
::Hugs:: I love you girls!
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*hugs* I tried to hide things from DH, but we were always together,, so I gave up! He could care less about it,, he still says I am beautiful!
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Well, in a long-distance relationship with a guy who worked totally opposite hours from me, there was no time to spare to try to fix all the PCOS probs. I just wanted to be with Vince, and if I spent half the time I was there in the bathroom fixing up, I'd hardly have gotten to see him. So I said screw it, and you know what? He loves me with the hair and the fat, apple shaped body and the pimples and everything. And it's great. I have no doubt that if you let go of some of your insecurity you will be able to let guys see the real you and they will LIKE IT!
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I second, third, and fourth everything that everyone already said...if he is the one for you he will see nothing but your beauty!
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The first few times that i stayed at my now fiancees house i managed, i thought, to hide all the 'symptoms'. One morning though he woke up before me and went to put his hand on my face to give me a good morning kiss. And i pulled away. He looked crushed, but idin't want him to touch the 'stubble'. He asked me what was wrong and i made him promise that if i told him he wouldn't be grossed out. He kinda laughed and said "Sure ok". So with all the courage in my body i told him but refused to look at him (this was pre-pcos diagnosis). And you know what he said?
"What...that???", "You are worried about that?"
I was like "Well YEAH!"
And he said "I noticed that the first night we met, and i don't care"
I think thats when I really started to fall for him!
See if he is right for you, he won't care about all that.
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Agreed with what everyone else has said...I used to freak out if Chris touched my chin (thinking, Oh, did I trim my hairs!?!?) but you know what? I love him so much and he loves me and I don't care anymore. Plus, he's got his "flaws" too...everyone does!!!
Good luck with everything and we're here for you!
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I agree guys that are with us for the long term don't care, they get freaked by other stuff (but that is in my Rant post and I won't go there now).
Anyway, I used to date a guy that told me that in the past he had dated a girl that he never saw without her make-up and hair done. She was not PCOS or anything. The point is that we all have our insecurities and our partners, if they become significant don't really care.
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When I first got with my FI I was so embarressed of the stubble on my neck. He saw me plucking them one day and I told him not to look at me. That I was the only woman in the world that got hair on my neck. He said that he didn't care. He noticed it on our first date. The thing is that guys know that no one is perfect. They realize that we are going to have little imperfections just like they do.
I agree with Elaine... my boyf doesn't have the sweetest breath in the morning but I don't care! Of course we go through a phase at the beginning of the relationship when we always want to have our legs (and everything else!) shaved... but it's even better when you don't need to worry about that sort of thing. Of course, it's still nice to look good, but you don't feel that anxiety because he already knows everything about you, and vice versa. And men know all about being stubbly! Excess hair has always been one of my issues since before my diagnosis, but I have never had a complaint from a boyfriend about that stuff. The majority of them just are not that bothered. They mostly have the sense to want a real woman and not an airbrushed picture in a magazine.
Waking up next to someone - may be TMI 
