want you to be aware if you are venturing into the water again

TurtleLove · 09-22-2005, 10:23 AM

For those of you brave enough to try again I wanted to share something with you. I have seen lots of versions of how long to wait and I see some of you choose your own time. I specifically asked my dr how long and why so i could contribute that info. she said to wait three months from when the baby was born or miscarried BEACUSE the risk that you will suffer another loss is significantly higher in that three months and after that your chances go back to "normal". I just wanted to arm you with this information because one loss is devastating enough, and it breaks my heart to see some of you lose repeatedly. hats off to you for being so brave as to venture back into the water, best wishes and a big hug

GabrielsMom · 09-22-2005, 11:19 AM

I've seen conflicting reports about this. Anecdotally, it seems to be true, so I decided to play it safe. I'm glad I did, because I really needed time to heal. It's so very hard to wait, but I want to be healthy and prepared for my next pregnancy. But that's just me. Everyone has their own timetable.

SheriKCMO · 09-22-2005, 12:17 PM

we conceived a second time just under three months, and that baby was gone almost immediately. about two months later, though, we conceived duncan. i think it's best to wait, I just couldn't.

mystik817 · 09-22-2005, 08:56 PM

wow. My doc said to treat the first M/C bleeding as my period and start the clomis on CD 3 again... so I did and I m/c again. The first she said was due to low prog, so I was on prog supplements, yet m/c again that next month. She went on to tell me after teh second loss that there was nothing else she could do... (pissed me off).

We are taking this month off and going to a spec in a few weeks for more testing. We don't plan on trying again until after the new year so we arent stressed out by families or traveling.

JuliannePCOS · 09-22-2005, 09:34 PM

I didn't get pg for 6 months after I m/c.... and we all know how that turned out. I thiink it's probably better to wait until you AF shows up naturally (especially after a D&C) but I think Drs suggest a few months break for emotional reasons.

I've heard of people getting pg 2 weeks after a m/c and the baby being just fine.

Reebekah · 09-22-2005, 10:51 PM

i had an early m/c in march 04....it was early, maybe 5 or 6 weeks.....and since it was natural, my ob said it was ok to try the very next month with clomid. well i did get pregnant that very next month, with my twins, which i lost due to premature delivery at 20 weeks. i sometimes wonder if conceiving too quickly had anything to do w/ the loss of my twins. after that 2nd loss, i waited 3 months to start trying again, and it took me an additional 3 months on top of that to get pregnant again.

slgttc · 09-22-2005, 11:12 PM

I think it could depend on how far along you were when you m/c. I would certainly think a m/c futher along would take longer to heal physically. The emotional part is what's so hard, I've had two m/c in three months and I feel drained. I guess some people deal with the emotional part different. Some need time off to recouperate, some jump right back in and thats how they deal with the loss. It's all a personal decision. For me it's some time off right now, going to have some test done but will be back.

saluki_fan · 09-23-2005, 12:40 AM

This current pg was conceived 2 months after Loss # 3 and about 9 days after a hysteroscopy and other than some random spotting at the beginning, it's been "normal" (as much as shooting oneself up with heparin twice a day can be considered normal, that is...)

Maybe I'm the exception to the rule, though. It's my first PG w/treatment so maybe it doesn't count.

DiamondInTheRough · 09-23-2005, 02:19 AM

This is good advice. I also agree with the comment about how far along a person was when they suffered the loss. Physically, you may need to wait 6 months to a year. I read something in a magazine the other day about pitocin. I guess this is released after a woman has a baby - I imagine this is true for a loss as well. Apparently this makes you more vulnerable and impressionable. The magazine was talking about hanging up on telemarketers, because you'd likely give in. But it led me to wonder about women feeling the need to conceive so quickly after a loss. I know after my loss, all I could think of was getting pregnant again, and fast. We even tried, but I'm glad it didn't happen. I wonder if in the midst of the whirlwhind of hormones, pitocin was playing a big role in that haste decision....