Just wanted to update you all. Last Thursday we got a call from the orphanage in Liberia. Our baby girl's birth mom came back to the orphanage and took her back. This is because of the child trafficking allegations that were floating around in Liberia. She heard of it and is convinced they were going to sell her daughter into slavery. She would not be consoled otherwise.
Yes, she had signed her rights away when she dropped Kacie off, but there is apparently no real legal recourse there for this kind of stuff. We have done one last act of desperation by sending the orphanage a video and scrapbook of our family to show her. Chances of it working are very slim.
Yes, there are other babies, but we love Kacie. Our family all has her photo on their fridges and are waiting for her to come home. Our daughter Kenya knows her as her sister and gives her picture kisses every day.
The orphanage will allow us to choose another child if Kacie's mom remains in her decision, but will not refund our money. I cannot imagine I would ever give up my child twice, so putting myself in her shoes makes me see that this is very unlikley to end the way we had envisioned it.
I had a really tough couple days, then I felt better, and today it has come back worse than ever. I just want my baby. I feel like I am back in my TTC days and I just got another BFN. My heart is so desperately broken. Today someone in my office who has been having an affair with a man who was essentially married found out she is pregnant. Maybe this is what set me off. Or maybe it's the people who e-mailed us their picture of the 16 day old baby they are adopting from the same orphanage we are using. I just want to scream at them for being so heartless. Don't they know I'm broken?
I don't want to be a downer, but you ladies are the only ones who might understand my heartache, and of course dh is out of town. Tomorrow is a new day. I pray it will bring some new perspectives for me.
__________________ Keltie (30) & Blake (33) Married 6/16/01 DD Kenya (11/30/04)
DS Duncan (8/11/05 Liberia, West Africa) DS #2 Isaiah (8/11/04 Coming home from Uganda in early 2009)
DD #2 Maleah (2/12/08 Coming home from Uganda in early 2009) 1 Angel Baby October 2007 - I'll Love You Forever
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I am so sorry to hear this news. How very heartbreaking. I'm truly sorry for your loss. Perhaps things will turn back around and you'll have your daughter home safely in your arms.
Thinking of you tonight. (((HUGS)))
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I am so sorry. A failed adoption is just as heartbreaking as a miscarriage. You love your child even before you hold her in your arms and her loss is every bit as great. My thoughts and prayers will be with you and I pray the video will convince the mother that her child would be going to a loving and happy home.
I'm so sorry I'll be keeping your family and Kacie's birth family in my prayers. I hope that her birthmother will take the time to see what a wonderful family is waiting for her. I know it's not very comforting right now, but it is good to know that her birthmother loves her and cares what happens to her.
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OOOhhh I am so so sorry for your loss. Vent/rant/downer away .. we are here for you {{{ hugs }}}
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Keltie - I saw you post here and I just had to send hugs your way.... You did all that you can do and its just in God's hands now. Of course I hope you get to bring Kacie home, I have fallen in love with her as well and already thought of her as yours. I can't even imagine the pain you must be feeling. I wish I had MSN so we could chat but I only have AIM and dont wan to DL more stuff. You know my e-mail if ya need me. When does Blake get back?
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Sorry about the failed adoption. I hope everything works out I hope that mom realizes that she is getting a good home. I'll keep you in my prayers! huggzzzzzzzz
Having been in a similar situation, I sympathize with the heartache and anger you feel. We are here for you. I know your heart feels the bond of mother and daughter and I pray for peace and understanding for you and your family.
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I'm gonna stop looking back and starting moving on
And learn how to face my fears
Love with all of my heart, make my mark
I wanna leave something here
Go out on a ledge, without any net
That's what I'm gonna be about
Yeah, I wanna be running
When the sand runs out
- Rascall Flatts "When the Sand Runs Out"
We lost our baby girl 
I am so very sorry this happened to you. That is just terrible. I pray the mother does what is best and lets you take her into your home.
I'll be keeping your family and Kacie's birth family in my prayers. I hope that her birthmother will take the time to see what a wonderful family is waiting for her. I know it's not very comforting right now, but it is good to know that her birthmother loves her and cares what happens to her.
